Throwing out old wedding album

I've known women who keep momentos in a storage box. Granted, it all depends on the relationship and how long you were married for.

Before you toss it make sure you pull out any pics with you and relatives or friends that have sentimental meaning. Maybe your grandparents were at your first wedding but aren't around for your second? Those types of pics.

I always think its weird to toss old photos, its a time of your life that you won't ever have again and good or bad the album is a reminder of that time.

I think it depends on the current state of the relationship - i wouldn't throw it away. do you have any kids? if so your kids may want to see it some day.

if not, well you may still want to share it with someone some day. throwing it away is permanent. maybe pack it away?

Well... I tore out about half a dozen pictures to give to my ex-mil. Pics of my ex with his grandparents, his parents, & his son. My relationship with my exhusband is EVIL. We have 3 children together, and yet we can not speak on the phone or have any type of conversation, about anything. My current custody order actually spells out things like not approaching each other (house or car) when we exchange kids, etc.

We were married quite a few years (11 years), but it was never a decent marriage -- not even in the beginning. I looked at the pics today and I thought "you stupid little girl, how could you not have seen what he was?" LOL

Well i can understand you not wanting reminders, but i do think that your kids will want to see it some day. my parents can barely speak to each other but i appreciate that my mom kept their wedding pictures and other things from that time.

i would keep it and give it to them when they are old enough to make their own decisions about wanting it or not.

Ahh there are kids! I agree with RWC, I'd put the album in a box for the kids, should they decide they'd like the pics at some point. I know that personally I would LOVE to see my FFIL and FMILs wedding pics (apparently there was a blue tuxedo involved) but I don't think anyone kept them since they've been divorced for about 26 years.

I feel this way about my dad's old Army album. I have NO idea who ANY of the people are, since they all used nicknames. I even tried some military messages boards looking for people by the nicknames. It seems so foolish to just throw away SOMEONE's (lots of people's) family history pictures but I just don't know what else to do!

I would keep it for your kids... I know I have a child from an ex and he has pics of his father and I and it helps him know that even though his father and i arent together we loved each other at one point in time...our relationship is pretty bad as well

As the other ladies have stated I would keep it just for your kids. Put it in storage somewhere and when they are old enough to decide what to do with it they can make that decision.

I agree that you should just pack it away in a place for your children to have someday.

I was married 22 years the first time. Had a crappy wedding at my mom and dad's house and only a few pictures survive. I have no idea what to do with them. Blecch. I totally understand your indecision.

I agree. It's understandable that you wouldn't want those memories anymore but I'm sure one day your children would like to see them. I'd say don't throw them away!

I say put it somewhere for your kids. I have my mom and dads wedding and honeymoon album and appreciate having them they also had a bitter horrible divorce (although are good now 12 years later).

I understand wanting to get rid of the pics, I have no pictures left of my ex and I, my FH found some once that i had forgotten about and it hurt him to see that, so I was more than happy to get rid of them, but its a bit different since you have kids. Although if they are boys they might not care! lol Daughters are more likely to care!

I agree I'd store it until your kids are old enough to make their own choices.

I gave my album to my daughter, Cate. I wanted her to know that her father and I once loved each other very much. She also has my wedding ring and my pregnant wedding ring.

I agree. I am a child of divorced parents. When my great-grandma died, my grandma let me go through her photo album. I have the picture from my parent's wedding with all their grandparents on my desk. I also have the newspaper engagement announcement (with the awesome matching 70s shirts). They divorced when I was five. It's nice to have the picture.

Carole-My Mom gave me the ring my Dad gave her when I was born for my high school graduation. I haven't taken it off since, except to have it cleaned and sizing beads put in last week. Those things really mean a lot to kids (no matter how old!).

I would keep them for your kids.

I LOVED the sound of my first wedding album hitting the bottom of the trash dumpster. it was my final release of everything I went through in that marriage. we didn't have kids, so there was no reason for me to hang onto the album....also, it was a destination wedding, so none of the relatives close to me were able to make it. It was mainly all of his family and friends. good riddance in my case. It was my final release...for me, it was therapeutic, but took me 2 years to do it.

I'm keeping mine for my kids as well. Even though their dad is a deadbeat, they may want to see it at some point.

My parents got divorced when I was 5 and my mom kept 1 picture for each of her children. I know some of my aunts and uncles have more but I think that is really all you need. I believe she burned the rest!