Thoughts on Bachelor Parties & Lapdances?????

I am not into it, FH went when he was younger with friends but still wasn't that into it. We aren't having bachelor(ette) parties so this isn't an issue I ever have to worry about, even if we did he would not step foot in a strip club.

As for if I think It's ok I say NO cause 1) I think if you truly love the person your marrying why, would you want to see another woman naked & grinding on you? IDK it's dirty to me. 2) There are other ways to have fun with your boys other then watching girls & throwing money at them.

It's not like I don't trust my man (we are very honest & trust one another 100%) but, I just don't like strip clubs and half naked woman on my man.... he's mine! lol

Not okay with it neither is H, not just our style. We keep all intimacy/sex related acts between us two alone. LOL, y do i feel like i just sounded selfish? hahahhaa

I'm not really into it, but neither is FH. He's never been to a strip club before.

My sister has bought one for her husband though so it really depends on who you are as a person and couple. Everyone has their own feelings on it.

My feelings on it are the same as Michelle F.

My FI is not into the whole strip club thing anymore (he did it in college with friends for birthdays and stuff) and isn't going to a strip club for his bachelor party, but if he changed his mind and decided to go I wouldn't mind. I also couldn't care less if he got a lap dance.

Could not care less. i trust him.

in fact, when my ex turned 18, I handed his best friend $100 and said "go get him a lap dance"

I agree with Michelle on this one, but at the same time if the bachelor party is a surprise and they end up there I'm not going to flip either. I consider myself pretty understanding when it comes to situations like that. I don't mind him going for that one night, but NO to anyone grinding on him. I agree, he's mine and I know he would feel the same way if I went somewhere like that.

I'm with Michelle - don't understand how a guy could be okay with getting that done while he's in love with someone else.

I'm not okay with it, and good thing DH isn't into that either. Makes him feel dirty.

NOT ok...for one, it is completely against our religious beliefs to partake in that regardless if it's a bachelor party. and two, i want to be the only woman that my H sees/partakes in sexual acts/ect as we have both saved ourselves for marriage.

My FH has never been to a strip club, so if he even goes, I don't really care what he does there. I think it's a lot easier for me not to care because he has no history of indiscretion, shows no interest in strip clubs, etc. If I actually felt like it was something he was really excited about or into, I might feel differently!

Like Blair, I could not care less. H went to a strip club as part of his B party, but as far as I know didn't get a lap dance. We had a rough patch before that and I nixed some other ideas. But the fact that he saw some other boobs really doesn't bother me.

Going to the strip club is 1 thing, I don't care about that, I am not particularly fond it it, but it's not the end of the world, Lapdances are a whole other story, there is no way I want some naked girl grinding her nasty bits up against my FH

I'm not a huge fan of the idea. But I know he has gone to strip clubs in the past (in college they would go every thurs night oh joy!) The only thing I asked of FH was to not touch and not let her touch him. I don't care if she touches the other guys but I don't want her touching him. And he agreed to it. So I can't really tell him no he is a big boy and I know regardless his friends will get him one so I much rather know about it and set "some ground rules" if that is what you want to call it

For my DH's bachelor party he went to a strip club and I believe got two lap dances, as well as getting one about 2 weeks later at another friend's bachelor party. I have absolutely no problem with them and him getting them. I've been to a bunch of strip clubs, seen the girls do their thing. I trust him, and I know there will be at least another bachelor party next year for his friend and if he wants to go he can. If he wants to get a lap dance, fine.

This topic comes up frequently, and I always say the same thing:

Not wanting your fiance/spouse to ogle other people naked has nothing to do with trust.

I trust my husband completely, without reservation. That doesn't mean I have to be okay with anything that flies in the face of my (and his) values.

Neither of us has ever been, and i thought i'd be ok with it if i went with him, but because of some things that have happened in our past i've tightened the leash on things i thought i'd be ok with. this is still something i'm not crazy about but i know his brother and friends will probably end up taking hm to one. he says i can go do the same thing but...ew. lol actually he wants to do our parties in vegas (cliche, i know) but i'm definitely not into the whole Thunder Down Under/Magic Mike thing, esp knowing half those dudes are gay anyway LOL doesn't interest me at all.

My FH will only be having 2 GM maybe 3, 1 is into strip clubs but I know he wouldn't drag FH there out of respect for me and cause it's FH wishes not just mine. He doesn't really have any other friends that like that either so, It's never been an issue to discuss.

If we were having party's, I know FI would want an over night or 2 day fishing trip with his pals. They could rent a cabin and boat and just chill, fish and drink beers & BBQ sounds like a good time to me without the strippers lol OR if your FH doesn't like strip clubs either they could do what I listed above or go to a sporting event.

It is nice to know that there is trust between all of us. I know that GM wouldn't do anything to upset me cause there has been altercation between us before, he had said something to FH and I was upset about it but FH said it wasn't ok and so did I and he apologized and after that everything has been fine! plus, I know he wouldn't pull that with FH cause he would just say no & turn around anyways.

I thought I would be ok with it until his bachelor party actually came…then I didn’t like the idea so much. Yes of course I trust my FH but the thought of naked women rubbing on him weeks before we’re supposed to get married grosses me out. He also wouldn’t want a guy putting his junk in my face. Luckily none of that happened at his bachelor party.

So for my FH's Bachelor Party wkend - him and 8 guys went down to Vegas, including my brother. The whole time I had a friend that kept asking me"you're okay with that? you're letting him go there!!?" and the whole time I was like ya, why not?!?

Before they went my brother kept talking to me about this strip club in vegas and blah blah blah so I knew they were going to go to a strip cloub. But in no way did I put 2 & 2 together Strip Club & Lapdances, so before FH went we didn't talk at all about it and he knew I was fine with him going to see strippers with the whole group, as it wasn't FH's idea, but my bro's.

So on MY bachelorette party we're having dinnerand drinks at a pub, when the wife of another guy who was in LV came up to me and was like hey, have the boys talked to you about what they've been up to? and I was like ya, FH was txting me everyday what they were doing and strippers hadn't come up yet. and the sife tells me "ohh yah, they went to the strippers...

And they were alllllll over MY FH!" -this is what she tells me on My bachelorette party night, then goes on to say, "oh maybe you weren't supposed to know and that her hubby didn't go"

So a few dow- the-hatch me, goes and leaves a msg on FH's phone saying "Thanks for telling me that you went to strippers, now I just found out from your friends wife that you went and they were all over you" - it just discouraged my trust in him, the fact that he told me EVERYTHING else that they had done EXCEPT for that, when I told him it was okay that he could go see stripppers before alerady. So why was he hiding this from me?!?

By hiding it, in my case, made a thing that wasn't a big deal- a big deal now.

Then he calls me back and says that he went, and wanted to tell me in person instead, not by text, thats why he didn't tell me before, and that my brother bought him a lapdance too.