The difference between being mean and being truthful...

@Brandi, if WW had a "Like" button, like FB, I would "Like" your last post a lot.

Okay, make that the one before the last post, we were posting at the same time. LOL!

I also was taught to be polite to others, but sometimes there just comes a point where you have to be a little bit of a butt about things. however if someone asks one question and you dont agree with it there is no reason to go off. i believe that the person must overly push, ask,beg whatever before you should cross the line. hope that made sense, it did in my brain!

@ Kathy, thanks =) I guess we were...lol

@ Sheila, yes it did =) I totally get what you are saying

Wow Brandi, I would also "like" your entire post. When I first joined, I was called a troll because I did not have a picture up of me. One of my first posts, I had someone take what I typed way out of context. I was actually surprised at how attacked I felt and this was all through the net. I think some of the girls can be a bit harsh because they are on a computer and not face to face. And then there are people who are really just blunt and usually not to the right people...but that is just my opinion. I have stayed here because for the most part, I like it and get good information. I tend to usually read most wedding related topics or baby related cause I'm a mom too...also try to avoid anyone who has been not so nice.

As for Teresa, omg, I love your posts, you and me would get along just great! We should get some drinks sometime!

I think it's funny how with your reply you just proved Sharon right, seems like it's true this type of messages are confusing and create more drama

Wow, Brandi so glad you brought this up because I feel the same about many people I cross paths with. Not sure when "the world" for lack of a better term, lost its manners but its sad. I try to be kind when I say things and if not I try to keep my mouth shut! Not that it always works that way but at least its a goal. I wish I could say the same about others but I run into my share of rudeness on a daily basis. All I can suggest is to keep doing what you do, try your best to be polite and let others' comments and/or actions roll off you like water off a duck's back.

And happy planning!

I think people in the real world who say things that sound mean are either genuinely rude, weren't raised the same way, or are coming off in a way they don't mean to, also, I know I sometimes take offense and get upset because I'm very overly sensitive. On forums just as in texting or facebook, it's soo hard to distinguish someone's true meaning because you can't put emphasis and inflection in text form. I agree that some people may be trying to cause drama or be mean spirited but I really don't want to believe that's the case in the majority of posts. I try really hard not to come off mean because I know how upset I get when someone says something mean to me but at the same time if someone asks for an opinion [forums or real life] I will be honest. I can't speak for anyone else because I don't personally know them, therefore I can't take what they say and think they are being bitchy. I agree that there's a difference in being blunt/honest and being mean though.

@ Carolina,It doesn't have to be made into drama. It is what people make it. Just wanted some honest opinions and thoughts. I don't see what's so confusing about it. It seems pretty up front to me. I want people's opinions on what they think on thyis topic. I gave my opinion. Yopu don't have to agree with it. That's it
And, I don't think I am proving her right. I'm sorry if I was being called rude and wanted to defend myself. I'm not about to sit there and be bashed just for stating my own personal opinion.

I agree with everyone. I believe that people can be truthful with their feeling and about how they may feel about someone. but its all about how u tell the person. u dont have to be mean to get ur point across

@ JackilynC, I agree with you and try to do the same.

I actually struggle with it. I was raised to be 100% nice no matter what, but have learned that it also makes me a floor mat sometimes. I now try to be nice when possible and up-front when necessary, but I often worry whether I have been too direct (especially having been a floor mat before, that middle ground is tough to find).

But I agree with whoever said it first. There is a definitely difference between a know-it-all/trying-to-show-off person and a person who just might be a little oblivious to how they are sounding. I firmly believe that it is really difficult to determine which is which on the internet. Even on skype sometimes FH and I have to clarify whether we're joking or serious...

I think that questioning people's morals was rude and that your response to Sharon got out of hand. Her post was a little harsh but you over reacted in the response, especially since you said you where raised to be nice when you disagree with people. Yes, there are times I am like wow did ____ just say that??? That is in RL and on WW. I normally just shrug it off and pray about them later. Getting upset is silly and useless since it won't change them.

Well you see she mentioned how this type of posts that are not pm or addressed specificay to the person you believe is rude can result in more drama and don't solve the issue, to which you reacted in a long defensive post that even ended in a geez which I would interpret as quite the exclamation, and to top it all another person says oh I thought you were talking about something else in an earlier post, which also means that person took your general thought and applied it to her own situation, that is why I say she is right it can potentially create more drama, I never said you can our can't post or that you are not entitled to your opinion. That's just my opinion, no need to get defensive with me

@Brandi, I appreciate this post, as I'm sure a few others do as well. I don't see this post causing drama, just putting a really sensitive subject to light. There are some good opinions on here, people's honest feelings toward this forum and life in general. I had a moment myself on the forums today, actually twice. But the one that irritated me most, was the one where a girl just got bashed from every direction. Although I felt kind of the same way as the majority, I didn't see a reason to be rude, blunt, or tacky when stating my opinion, towards the author of the post that is. With that, I know people are able to give advice in a respectful manner, however, for whatever reason, some just choose not to.

It's just the world we live in I guess. I take it with a grain of salt and keep on pushing on to the next thing.

@Bert's Girl, thank you. I was raised by a well rounded "village". I'll have to take you up on that offer, cyber moscato????

@ Anna, yea, I get what you are saying. It can be hard to find that medium.

@ Noei, You are totally right and I agree with you.

@ Mrs. Kline, I wasn't questioning anyone's morals imparticularly. I was just sayin that people that are puttin people down, for no good reason and bacically bashing paople because they believe differently must not have any, well when it comes to being polite anyway. I'm not saying they are horrible people or that they don't have morals when it comes to other aspects of life. I just don't get the bashing rudeness of alot of people these days. Yes, maybe I overreacted a bit, but then again so did she. She called me rude and I really was not trying to be rude to anyone. The only type of person that would get offended from this post, imho, is someone that is out doing this to people. Correct me if I'm wrong. I did say I was brought up to be nice. But I was also taught to stand up for myself and not let people walk all over me. And, btw, I didn't respond that

Way because I disagree with her. I did it because I am not gonna be talked to that way and then be called rude. It makes no sense. Like I said, I'm definately not trying to offend anyone. Take it how you want. But Mrs Kline, you are right about getting upset not changing anything. I wish I could shrug it off like you, but I have just been running into this too much lately. It's beginning to get to me a bit

Well put @Teresa W. I don't feel this post caused drama! If people had some tact about themselves, they wouldn't be such a rude A**!!!

Teresa, I've never had moscato...is that bad?? Lol if you ever get to a liquor store try passoa, its a passion fruitt liquor. Mix some with oj and its on and poppin'! I have gotten everyone I know hooked on that drink ; )

Brandi- I agree with your posts in geberal and thank you for bringing this topic to light because I have seen people bashing each other, which is wrong, we are here for some good wedding advice and tips, not to put each other down.