Thank you notes for no card or gift at wedding?

The reception is their thank you for coming. You paid for their meals and a good time. I think that's sufficient enough.

I Wouldn't

I wouldn't. but don't forget that people have up to a year to send wedding gift.

I like what OTW said. She appeals to my blunt and saucy side. On the other hand- my mother has hammered into my mind since I was young that you ALWAYS send thank you notes. Even if it's just a birthday card with nothing inside. I cannot imagine the level a guest would stoop to not bring some form of gift to a wedding. Trust your gut- do some soul searching!!

The only reason I did was bc I had a DW... if I had an in town wedding I would not.

I would. They took time out of their day to attend your wedding. I plan to no matter what, if they attended, they get a card. If they sent a gift, they get a card.

But I'm no etiquette queen, and this is just what I plan to do You definitely don't have to.

I did, because I had a DW. All my guest paid to attend my wedding, so I thanked them traveling and being there for us.

My soul says I'll see you in hell for not gifting me at least a damn card!

What would the thank you note say? "You're welcome for the free dinner, booze, and cake"? I agree with Out the Window. You paid for them to have a fun evening out, no need to thank them unless a gift or thougthful card was given.

I don't think it's needed to send a written thank you note in those cases. Dinner, favors, and usually you thank guests in person so that is more than enough. Honestly if they came to dinner at your house they would be writing YOU a thank you note.

Now if they traveled really far or where really helpful in terms of planning then I would send them a thank you.

I would say yes, give them a TY card. Just because they suck at being nice, doesn't mean you shouldn't repay the medicine in this case. Teach them some manners and make them feel worse for not getting you a card.

I've heard though that some people take a while to send gifts, and if you sent one for attending wonder if they had planned on sending a gift.

No thank you-- it will look like you are fishing for gifts. Also, etiquette dictates that a wedding gift can be given up to a year after the wedding and not be late-- the gifts may be on their way.

I had one guest attend my first wedding who did not give a gift or a card. I found our later that ours was his first wedding ever! He is a good friend, so I did send him a thank you card and he later thanked me for the thank you card! LOL!

I am NOT sending a thank you to the 4 couples who didn't bring a gift. I know a gift is just a bonus at the wedding and you shouldn't expect it, but I mean, you can buy a card for less than a dollar. I found it totally rude, especially because the four couples who didn't bring anything were all close friends from college.

I agree with OTW, the reception and paying for all their alcohol and food is thank you enough for coming.

A gift is not a requirement to attend a wedding. We will be sending hand written individual notes to everyone who comes because each person took time out of their busy lives to share in our joy. Our guest list has over 300 people on it. Again my opinion. ..

I think it's a nice thing to do, but I wonder if it would make them feel guilty for not giving a gift. I would probably not send a thank you only for that reason.

Everyone will be getting a thank you from me gift or no. Like one of the other brides said just because they don't follow the generally accepted flow of things doesn't mean you shouldn't.

We understand that people will want to bring a gift, but are not financially able to do so. Therefore, we are sending all of our guests a thank you card. If they come with a gift, it will be noted in the card. However, if they do not come with a gift, we will thank them for attending the wedding.

I sent a thank you card to everyone who attended - to me a wedding is not about receiving gifts, it's about people taking time out of their lives to be part of yours. i did receive a few gifts afterwards from guests that were there... and yes, i did send a separate thank you card for the gift.