Thank you notes for no card or gift at wedding?

I wouldn't send one. You paid for their dinner, probably alcohol, and gave them a favor so I think you thanked them enough. I have also been to 3 weddings where I did give a gift and I still didn't get a thank you card! Now that's just rude!!

This might not ever be read, since it's so long after the initial post, and forgive me if this was already brought up (I quickly skimmed the answers)--personally, I was hurt that some of my close family members showed up with no gift. Regardless, I sent a "thank you for sharing our special day" to everyone, only to find out that at least one person had misplaced the card/check (benefit of the doubt here), and another was absent minded, and admitted to forgetting the check altogether. A lot of people no longer balance their checkbook, so they might never notice that a check they wrote (or meant to) was never cashed. So, as much as I hated swallowing my pride (and biting my tongue so I was polite) and sent "thank you for attending" cards, it did have an upside.

I've been thinking about this exact same question.

One couple asked us for the address after the wedding, so I'm going to hold off on sending a thank-you because I'm assuming a gift is on it's way.

We had a display of photos of all our guests from the parties, holidays, gatherings, etc we'd spent with them with signs that said "thank you for the memories we've shared". We wanted to recognize everyone who makes up our community of love & support. So, for guests who did not bring a gift or a card, I am sending them their photos from the display and a thank-you for attending.

I would rather live up to my own ideals of being a gracious person by sending a thank you rather than have a tit-for-tat mentality about it.

That said, I think it is really odd for people to not even bring a card.