Taking Back Plus 1s Included on Original Wedding Invitations - What would you do if you were in my situation?

Yeah I even went to the dual bachelor/bachelorette party and dropped like $200 on a table, alcohol, and strippers for the groom when other guys there didn't who probably got plus ones that didn't get taken back.

I would return the gift and take your date out somewhere nice.

I was going to say the same thing.I would just go out and have fun with your date instead!

I would decline the invitation, return the gift (still send a card though), and take my date out for a great night.

"I'm sorry, I did not realize that an invitation could have been rescinded. That's unfortunate, considering that my date had already made arrangements to attend. Tell you what - I will spend some time with her instead of attending, and you can use the extra space to re-invite other people that you uninvited".

Yeah, but that's the passive-aggressive bitch in me talking.

I wouldn't go, and I would not send a gift - sounds like you've contributed plenty already without much consideration in return

Is no one for the Bride and Groom's side with their bad wedding planning decision to value family that RSVPs late over RSVP promises to their friends?

A couple of my guy friends said to just suck it up and go since I'm close friends with a few of the guys going and they know I'd still have a good time at the wedding if I was never given a plus 1 to begin with.

Still haven't responded to his text message or said anything to anyone attending the wedding or my date yet. Could be a possible "cock block" with the date if I tell her the whole situation since she's a wedding planner herself and it'd lower my value as being seen as a "B List" guest/friend.

Thoughts?

I would let them know that you cannot attend.

Why do I feel like this is a troll post??? Queue the memes Mrs. King...

It isn't about how much fun you'll have. I'd probably still have a blast. It's about tact and respectfulness and the bride and groom seem to have neither.

To answer your question about being on the bride and groom's side, I'm pretty sure no one is. What they SHOULD have done when family just up and decided to attend after RSVPs were due was to bite the bullet and eat the extra cost because, well, they invited these people and they need to deal with it.

If they had already given final numbers to the venue and more people decided they wanted to go, well, then they just deal with that too.

The fact is, they messed up ... and you should stand your ground and show them how lame their being ... by NOT going.

Yes, I can absolutely tell your date what happened. As a wedding planner I'm sure she will be appalled and the two of you can go elsewhere and do something fun.

Oh, and return the gift.

Can I get a guy's thoughts/response too please?

Seems like girls are all against me going but my guy friends are about 50/50 on going.

I agree. return the gift, tell them they now have two empty seats and go have a great time with your date.

A guaranteed way to not get cock blocked: skip the wedding and tell your friend he's an ass, blow off your date and hire a hooker.

Your friend knows how rude he is, you won't have to worry about what some bitch thinks, and you still get laid with the money you would have spent on a date or a gift. Problem solved.

Trrrrrrroooooooollll.

Text back, "Sounds like you are swamped! I will make two plates available and skip it." Then hold onto the gift for the next wedding.

An invitation followed by an un-invitation? If you were a machine, maybe you could process that. You're not. You're a human being, and that means you have feelings. Frankly, I'd reply with "Good news! You don't only have one open seat, you have two. Best wishes, and we respectfully decline".

Good luck finding another guy on here, lol!

Would it be bad etiquette to take the date out earlier and just show up late by myself, skip the ceremony, eat dinner, go to the open bar, have fun with my friends, and buy no gift or just give them a card saying congrats and best wishes from me plus my PLUS ONE that got uninvited and backdate the card to before she got uninvited?

Yes-- it would be bad etiquette to skip the ceremony and just go to the reception. It would also be EXTREMELY rude to your date to take her out, and then go out again later without her.

If this was actually a romantic prospect for you, and she was UNINVITED, your only course moving forward is to skip the wedding out of principle. Otherwise, she may get suspicious that you've decided to take someone else (or just pissed that you didn't stick up for her).

It would be a no-go for me. I would simply decline.