Taking Back Plus 1s Included on Original Wedding Invitations - What would you do if you were in my situation?

As Stephanie Tanner would say "How rude!"

Not sure there is much you can do, but that is SO rude on their part. They should have planned for all invited guests and not banked on people RSVPing no.

If it were me I'd see if my date could return her dress and definitely get a new gift. I know gifts shouldn't reflect things like this and it's supposed to be from the heart, but F that in this situation.

I wouldn't even show up at that wedding. That is so rude. A week before the wedding? What about your date taking the time and not making other plans because she was invited. I can't believe they would send something like that...

That is super rude. Either you can go and not say anything (maybe you coudl say something after the event but right at the wedding is probably not appropriate), or you can say "I politely decline" and return the gifts you purchased. Not sure how close you are to this friend... Or maybe I'd bring it up with the bride "I was surprised that __ has been uninvited..."

Wow, I would honestly consider not going if I am not allowed to bring my plus one. Thank goodness no one took off work for this fiasco. If you still plan on going, I would get a new gift and reevalute your friendship. Don't invite people you cant accomodate.

I like @Liz's idea better

They're not actually entitled to "do whatever they want." You can't uninvite somebody!

Honestly, if it were me, I would just decline late - or not show up at all. But if you really feel you need to go, take back the gift.

I would decline. There's no excuse for being an asshole. The right thing for your friend to do was tell the people who RSVPed late that they were too late.

Well I surely wouldn't be giving them a gift. I'd tell them that they have inconvenienced you and your friend who bought a dress for the wedding and that there other relatives should have been something they considered before sending out invites.

I'd be very annoyed.

That's extremely rude. I agree with others-- I would consider not even going (I'm not sure how close you are with the couple, though). Since your date already has plans to get dressed up and do something fun that night (and may have even bought a new outfit for the occasion), I would find something else exciting to do together. The couple should have found a way to accommodate the extra guests they invited that didn't include un-inviting guests that have already RSVP'd.

I'd probably decline, return the gift, and if your date can't return her dress, use the money you got back from the gift in order to go out and have a fancy night on the town.

That is so incredibly rude. You don't uninvite people, it's a form of going back on your word and shows lack of character.

Honestly, if I got a text like that, I would just respond with, "You are welcome to give both of our seats to these guests who RSVP'ed late. Sarah and I will make other plans that weekend. Best wishes." Then return the gift and take your friend somewhere nice so she can wear her new dress.

If they're willing to throw you under the bus to accommodate people who can't even RSVP in a timely fashion, that bodes poorly for the wedding. It will probably be a disorganized, rude mess anyway. I'd bow out entirely.

Yeah i'd decline too. Rudeeee

I'm not a super close friend (frat buddies - we talk about sports and work and all, but not super close), but I'm best friends with the best man and I did help him get a new job that paid like $20,000 more than his previous job through my networked connections, so part of me feels like he was obligated to invite me.

Blow it off and take your date out!

Normally I would be very understanding and say it's fine and then still go to the wedding. Because we were invited as a "B" list by relatively close friends of ours and I wasn't offended at all. But then I realized that they sent you a text. They didn't even call you. And it's a little different than being a B List invited a month before the wedding. I think if they are a decent friend that you talk to a lot and your mutual friends will be there, you should still go. But if it's an old friend who you won't know anyone, I wouldn't go. Weddings are boring when you don't know anyone. But yeah, that was pretty rude.

The best man is not the host, you are not obligated to attend. Skip it.

Tell them you have to take back your RSVP.

That's incredibly rude, and I agree with jnissa who said they are NOT entitled to do whatever they want. It's that whole "it's MY day" mentality that is responsible for crap like this. No. It's not just YOUR day. It's also your guests' day, and taking back an invitation is a HUGE etiquette no-no. */endrant

Now that I've gotten that off my chest, I think the best way to react is to just not go. And return the gift you bought them. Take your date out for a nice dinner instead.

I'd honestly call this person back (like he should have done for you) and say something like "While I understand that changes in RSVPs can be difficult to deal with, I am deeply offended at the contents of your text and would like to formally withdraw my RSVP to your wedding. I hope you enjoy your day but my date and I will not be in attendance."

After reconsidering.. I would pretend I didnt get the text and show up with invitation in hand. Let them look like the asses