Tacky or not tacky??

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as everyone knows it's a vow renewal or celebration of marriage.

I think a vow renewal would be super nice, but you've already had a wedding. I wouldn't buy a white dress or have a wedding cake for a vow renewal.

There's nothing wrong with a vow renewal but you already had a wedding.

Just curious, honestly not trying to be snarky, but what does a dress and cake have to do with your re-commitment in front of God? ETA: Also, to answer your question, I think a vow renewal is completely fine. If it had the "traditional" bouquet toss, first dance, and such, I personally may find it slightly odd, but to each her own.

I don't see any problem with any of those things (dress, bouquet, cake) for a vow renewal, personally.

I see nothing wrong with it. Do you girl the people that love you will be there.

Plan something for your fifth anniversary. I would do something much more low key than a formal wedding. A nice white/ivory evening gown rather than a true wedding gown. No first dance. A nice cake. No need for a bridal party.

I don't see anything wrong with having a vow renewal and having a cake, food, etc. and inviting friends/family to celebrate with you if you want. Heck, if you want to wear a dress then do whatever floats your boat!

I say do what you want. I'm sure everyone knows you're married. It'll be a celebration of that. Wear your dress and eat cake.

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Do a vow renewal, not a marriage redo. Wait until five years.

There are no rules. I think you should do whatever you want. If you want to wear a white wedding dress, have all of your girlfriends stand up for you, have a bouquet toss and all...its up to you! You didn't have the wedding you wanted, have it now! You only live once!

I would also wait until 5 years and do a vow renewal. I don't see the problem with the dress or the cake but I don't think I would go over the top with it. I could see doing a full on dress / gown with a huge cake at a 10 year wedding vow renewal if you wanted to wait that long. Then if you have children by that time, you would be able to include them in the ceremony as well.

Dress, cake, bouquet? Fine. Showers, bachelor/bachelorette, bridal parties, garter/bouquet tosses? No.

You DID have a wedding. The point in time when you get married is, by definition, a wedding. By saying it's not you demean those who CHOSE a courthouse wedding over a big white wedding party.

You want the princess day party, and that's fine, but do it as a vow renewal. No showers, no gifts, no bridal party, etc. That ship has sailed. The dress, bouquet, and cake are fine.

Two people said "you've already had a wedding" but I have not had a "wedding". I want the photos and memories and yes? It would be on our 5th anniversary but honestly, who's it gonna hurt if I have bridesmaids? Or a white dress? Or a big cake? Who is writing these "rules"?

I'm not saying it would not be done as a vow renewal. It absolutely would be. But I don't get how anyone can tell anyone else to NOT do something that isn't hurting anyone else. If it's what he and I want, why not?

You have already had a wedding. A wedding is NOT a big party, a wedding is when you legally and spiritually commit to your partner. ETA: Also, if you didn't want feedback (since your mind is clearly made up) why did you ask?

You did have a wedding, when you said vows with your husband. That's a wedding. The rest of the stuff is just fluff. A vow renewal is great, but when you plan it as a replacement for the type of celebration you didn't have, it can look ridiculous.

eta: You ASKED for thoughts. Don't like what you heard? Too bad.

Are you married? Then yes, you had a wedding. Saying you didn't have a wedding is insulting to those who have chosen to have a JOP or courthouse wedding, as you did. You didn't get to wear the dress and have bridesmaids, but it was a wedding. You can still wear a nice dress and have a yummy cake. But since you're really no longer a bride, I'd skip the bridesmaids, showers, bachelorette.

If you are married, you had a wedding.

If you want to wear a dress and get a cake, do it! This is for you and your husband, not for everyone else. You guys do what you want!