sweetheart table...big no no or good idea?

We did a sweet heart table and it was on the second tier of the yard looking down we at our dinner and never went back to it. I liked it I felt like i actually got to eat.

below is the picture of ours wish you could see where it was compared to the other tables

This is So helpful everyone thank you! I really like the idea and feel so much better about it than doing a head table! I definitely don't intend to spend much time at it but the time we are at it I would be ok if people felt comfortable to approach us. we aren't planning to raise it or put it on a stage or anything like that lol My intention is to be as inclusive as we can for the BP but certainly if we get a few moments together to take it all in with just the two of us that would be lovely too!

I have only seen it in pics on weddig blogs and never experience one myself at a wedding. So when I had looked a little further into it I was surprised that the first few links were about the negative aspects as I see mostly good from it so your input is great!! Thanks again!!

I think this is what we'll do after all can't wait!!

We're having a sweetheart table too. Our main reason for having one is because everyone in our wedding party is either married or in a serious relationship and some of the spouses/SOs don't know anyone else who will be at the wedding so we didn't want our bridal party to be stuck at a table with us instead of their guest. Plus when you're at a long head table, you can't really talk to everyone anyway and it's always seemed a little akward to me. I have honestly never heard of anyone thinking a SH table is "holier than thou" nor do I think so. Seems like it's become a lot more popular...the past few weddings I've been to had a SH table.

Carrie you cracked me up about Medieval times. I always feel like head tables remind me of Jesus at the Last Supper, which is a really random thing to think about at a wedding.

We're doing a sweetheart table too, and seating our WP like guests with their dates. This was one of those really cool things I didn't know you "could" do until I got on the forums. I just had never heard of it or seen it before, so it didn't occur to me. I love WW.

I hate those LONG head tables and the more I hear about sweetheart tables the more I like it... Enjoyed reading the debate between the two and hopefully I can talk FH into the sweetheart!

My daughter is having one because they want their bridal party to be able to sit with their SOs However, while being offered the option of having it on a raised platform, they prefer it on the same level as everyone else. They are having the first two round tables on either side of them for the bridal party. Since they are served first, she plans on visiting her tables after they eat. This is her inspiration. Instead of green chair sashes, her sashes are pink. The back drop is the garden Attrium but it will be lit up and the sweet heart tabel won't be raised, but I think she is raising the cake.

I agree Katie R, It hadn't even crossed my radar (the holier than thou thing) When I read it was the first timei had second thoughts bc that's the last impression I'd want to make. that's my take on a head table too, It makes it a lot harder for those at the table to socialize with anyone other than who they are sitting right beside. @Kris, I second that WW is pretty great! I've been a little addicted lately! Hehe

There is nothing wrong with them....I want one but FH wants a head table so since he hasn't asked for much i will give him the head table

That's fair Amy! it all really comes down to what you and your FH feel most happy with!!

We are having a "Sweetheart" table, but it will consist of me, hubby, and our kids.

I agree I think I'm doing a sweetheart table too. I want my bridal party to be able to sit with their loved ones and enjoy dinner and the reception without having to be "stuck" at the head table. I don't think people will feel isolated from the bride & groom I tink it's all about the atmosphere you create for the guests.

We are most likely doing a sweet heart table as well. All of our bridal party members are in relationships so I want them to be able to sit with their S/O's.

We are doing the sweetheart table as well

I don't know what to do Our families are very traditional when it comes to the wedding planning and they want a headtable as does FH...but I want to be able to eat with Jaedyn (my daughter)! They say I will feel differently that day because I will be focused on so much without worrying about watchinh her (she will be 4)

FH and I will have one - I like the fact that we will have a place to retreat to so we can actually eat and also i am looking forward to the few shared moments we can grab while we are sitting there. I like being with people but I also like being able to sit back and just look at how the party is going - great memories in the making!

From a photographers perspective, sweetheart tables can be difficult to work with. You still want good candid shots of yourselves during the reception and that can be difficult if you're simply seated amongst your guests.

If you opt for the sweetheart table, I would suggest allowing a substantial amount of space between your table and others and also consider putting your table on a small riser.

The day is about you - don't get lost in the crowd!

We are doing a sweetheart table but it will be us and our combined total of 3 kids. I wanted my Bridal Party to be able to sit with thier families. A couple of the SO's won't know anyone else there.

We are having a sweetheart table!!!

I love it. It gives you a private oasis in the middle of this crazy, happy, busy time. Go for it!

We're doing a sweetheart table because most of our Bridal Party has SOs or kids not in the wedding. I don't want them sitting away from their families. Our wedding is outside, and while the table isn't going to be raised, we are sort of putting a "hoopah" like structure over top of it with flowy white fabric hanging on the corners.