Step-dad pulls out of wedding - not my story

Team step dad here. What an ungrateful, inconsiderate little bitch.

If it's true.

OMG! I totally support this father! My real dad is flaky just like the one described here. He pops up when he wants to. I didn't even tell him I was getting married but he heard through the grapevine then sent me so many messages about how hurt he would be if he didn't walk me down the aisle. Not going to happen. My stepdad would just be so heartbroken.

*slow cap as I stand* I support his decision. So disrespectful and ungrateful.

Spoilt, inconsiderate bride and the mother should be ashamed of herself - it reads like the mother is of a similar nature. (Hasn't had a job, solely supported by the guy in question, but also doesn't feel the need to be a supportive social unit or bring her daughter back into line when she's being ungreatful and disrespectful)

Good on him for ridding his life of those two moochers.

I'm team step dad as well. Both the mother and daughter are trash. I'm surprised he stuck around that long!

Gosh, I hope that story isn't real.

Hell yea! I would've pulled my money out too!

Go step dad!! She doesnt deserve anything.

Whether or not this story was written by someone making a point or someone who actually experienced this doesn't really matter (although I tend to believe it's real because of the detail he added about not being married to the bride's mother). I am positive that this type of thing happens all the time. I would have invited my 20 guests and told her that if she didn't find room for them, I was pulling the funding. The fact that bio-dad was listed as the host would have done it for me. He should have pulled the plug long ago, but in the end, pulling the plug on her wedding probably sent the loudest and most dramatic message.

WOW. Team Step-Dad all the way. I would have done the same thing. And, I'm with Centerpiece. Seeing 'Real Dad' listed as host would have done it for me, too.

If it's on the Internet it must be real.

Whether it's real or not, the message is the same; the person paying should not be snubbed like that whether they are a biological parent or step parent or any other relation

Totally Team Step-Dad. Just wow... I 100% agree with Centerpiece (plus all the PP).

This guy got in a VERY thankless position and finally realized it. If it's real.

I don't think he's being selfish, but at the same time, he is partly to blame-- he has spoiled her since he's known her, what else would he expect from her? Sounds like a self-martyr and while I don't think he should put up with it, I don't really feel sorry for him either.

Barbara, you make a valid point. He funded a car after high school, paid for her college education, charged her nothing to live in their house after graduation, and then agreed to pay $40 - $50K for a large wedding (250 guests is a large wedding by anyone's standards). I would have made sure that he knew how much I appreciated those rather large gifts (especially the college education. I've read many posts in which brides-to-be talk about their school loans and what a drag they are on the budget). He must have realized that every time bio-dad decided to make an appearance, he was relegated to a lower position in her life. I guess her wedding -- an event in which he should have been honored -- in writing -- on her invitations, made it as clear as it was ever going to be. He was an ATM, and a well used one. Still, I find it satisfying that he finally taught her a lesson. When you accept gifts and money from someone, you owe them respect and thanks. If you can't do that, then don't accept the money.

Barbara is right. He grew that plant....

I don't think things are so cut and dry. I've known many daddyless daughters in my short lifetime. Some of them spend their entire life trying to get the love and attention of their bio dads. Even if they have a great step dad in their life. She sounds more like a broken little girl still trying to figure out why her bio dad don't want her then a ungrateful brat. I understand why the step dad feeling are hurt. But chances are the thought that his feelings would be hurt didn't even cross her mind.

Daddy if I jump up and down will you love and want me now

Daddy if I l put your name as host will you love me now

Daddy if I let you give me away will you love me now

Daddy if I do 3 back flips and a turn will you love me then.

Sadly the answer will almost always be no, but they keep trying anyway.

I don't blame him. I'm glad he stood up for himself. It sounds like the mother and daughter took advantage of him whether they realized it or not.

I agree with Julia, but the mother was a huge part of this as well. If the mother couldn't slap some sense into her daughters mind, then she should have (at least) spoken to her bf about what was going on.