Sorry for Confusing You :(

Yes, that will get a little more responses because some of us aren't really well versed in Magic the Gathering. I'm not sure how much he spent, but if it's a significant amount, then perhaps it's a tall tell sign that his ideas on what your wedding should be is different. You need to definitely sit down with him and ask him exactly what his thoughts are for your wedding and the budget.

May I ask how old you both are?

Yeah... Just looked up Jace's current prices... The regular version is like $150-200, so I can only imagine the foil would be through the roof. I think you need to sit down with your FH and talk about this. Maybe he doesn't realize how hurt you're feeling?

Combay: you asked what I've been thinking lol

Um, hun...I don't think there is really a nice way to do this other than bluntly remind you that as fabulous as the game may be and as much as you and you FH may love it, it is ultimately a game. I'm sure your FMIL was just joking, so try not to take it personal. Cheer up, there is only a few weeks until your wedding, try not to stress over the small stuff

SO what I'm gathering is your FH is taking your wedding money & buying gaming supplies?

Um yeah now I can see why you think about canceling the wedding. You need to have a big sitdown with him. If your FH cant keep his spending in check & he's knowingly wasting your wedding money, gaming is more important to him than planning & financing a wedding, why are you getting married? Never tie yourself down to someone who's intentionally financially irresponsible.

I'd be suuuuuper pissed if my FH took money from our wedding account to buy gaming supplies. Someone being that immature & irresponsible shouldnt get married.

To play devils advocate, like Dminted Bride said, it's just a game. I'm sure FMIL didnt really mean to be serious when she said that.

Also, aside from the problem about him spending the wedding funds, if you're actually getting mad that his deck is better than yours & you cant win, um yeah... that in itself is immature. Breathe, remember it's just a game.

Wow, so FH is making MTG a priority over your future. You sure you want to marry him? Or are you upset that his deck is better than yours?

I agree with you about the whole budget thing Masquerade, but I didn't get the feeling that OP felt upset about the spending, it seemed like that was just added info. What I'm getting is total frustration about gaming issues (like not being able to win). If this is the case OP, and you are seriously this upset about your future husband's hobby to where you are considering canceling your wedding, maybe you should put on the breaks for a bit; a game shouldn't be enough to threaten your marriage, imo.

^ lol I was just trying to cover all concerns

I know you were sweetie, you're fabulous that way!

$200 for a card?! That's just crazy! My brother used to play Pokemon so I got him a $20 card for his birthday and even that felt stupid to pay for just a piece of paper. Have a serious talk with your FH NOW. It sounds like he needs to grow up...

I just had my FH read this post and he said that foil Jace is selling for $800! And the Sol Ring cards are around $10-100 depending

I feel I need to clarify that my FH does not play this game anymore

Seriously? He needs to grow up before you can consider marrying him. Sorry.

OP is silent... hmmmm.... I dont think she likes our responses

If he wastes the budget on games, then maybe you should seriously reconsider this. Or have a long talk with him about where his priorities lie. Or hell, take control of the finances for now or until the wedding and honeymoon is over. If you don't take control of he budget and the money, before you know it, all the money will be GONE and you won't have a wedding. Which I'm sure you don't want, right?

*sniff sniff*

Is this for real or did I miss something? lol

I have a strong feeling they are still trolling. :/

If DH ever took money already earmarked for something we agreed on there would be one hell of a fight. Same if I did it. We got our joint account shortly before we got married, and if he or I had done something like that we wouldn't be married. Hobbies are fine, but only if you budget for them and don't let them overrun your other finances. I guess for weddings, it really depends on how badly you want a wedding since it's a want more than a need.

I do think it's kinda weird to be more upset over what his mom said probably as a joke and him having a stronger deck than you than the fact that he spent a lot of money that was set aside for your wedding. Of course we don't know your finances so for all we know you're rich and that money is peanuts so you don't care. I did kind of get the feeling that you're upset he spent all that money on the deck which makes you feel like he cares more about that, which I would be hurt and think that too in that situation.

Mrs. O - hahaha the reeks of troll thing - I wanted to know what troll smells like, last thread was hidden before I could ask that.