Kimi K
Master February 2012

So we attended the Conference for the Engaged this past weekend… *Catholic Brides*

Kimi K, on November 6, 2011 at 5:15 PM Posted in Planning 0 42
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For those unfamiliar: the conference for the engaged is a part of the Pre-Cana to help prepare ourselves for the sacrament of marriage in the Catholic Church. You have a choice to attend one of two options: The 8 hour long 1 day conference –or- the weekend retreat. We decided the 1 day conference would best & after months of waiting we finally went through it!

I’ve heard a mix of reviews from other people who attended in the past, most came out saying that it’s very boring and prepare to write notes to each other the entire time. We were both surprised that we actually really enjoyed the conference and we got a lot out of it! :o) The day was broken up into segments. Two couples and a Priest spoke about the different segments. Then a Psychiatrist came in and spoke about communication. The Priest was amazing, the two couples were a lot of fun to listen too and the Psychiatrist was hilarious & very insightful!

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    In the end I kinda regretted not attending the weekend long retreat – the day went by so fast and It would’ve been nice to spend a little more time on a few topics. NFP was not discussed other than it’s a great thing to look into. We were expecting to have a little more information on it. Especially since other people said they got a little too much info. on NFP during their conference. (maybe they took it out??)

    I did overhear a women the next table over talking about Wedding Wire and how she loves it on here …. Soooo who else on here attended the conference as well?

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Kimi.... I am glad you found it helpful and rewarding. I hope my daughter reads this. My daughter attended something today. Their observation is that in their parish/diocese, there were no psychological professionals.

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  • Mrs. Hainsworth
    VIP November 2011
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    Kimi, I am so curious! I saw your dress in another forum and at first thought you were kidding, then I thought you were serious, but I know that that dress wouldn't work in a Catholic ceremony, I wanna know what your dress is for serious Smiley smile

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    Our Pre-Cana experience has been anything but "fun" up until Saturday. We were really expecting the worse but were pleasantly surprised. While meeting with our hometown Priest he made a mockery out of marriage & gave us a really hard time, the Priest that spoke at the conference was amazing. He explained how marriage is a gift god gave to man and went into depth with some things... FH isn't Catholic & has never been religious. FH was very surprised that the Catholic religion wasn't thrown down everyone's throat. Besides explaining the Sacrament of Marriage the speakers spoke on the topics from their personal experience & knowledge. The Psychiatrist gave great information on communication & what obstacles we may face in the first year of marriage. It was really incredible - I cannot say enough good things about the Conference.

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  • Krista
    VIP May 2012
    Krista ·
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    My guess is Kimi is keeping everything she is actually planning a secret until she gets back from her February wedding where she will surprise us all with actual pictures of her day.

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    Hahahahaha Alexandra - who says that awesome dinosaur dress wouldn't work in a Catholic ceremony? FH likes to sneak around on the boards from time to time so I can't really post much until after the big day. Besides... I like to keep everyone on their toes ;o)

    @Krista: ahaha our wedding plans are fo' real yo! :o) Originally we planned a traditional Catholic Ceremony & reception but our Priest was really awful... so we decided to elope and then the elopement turned into a super small DW with only our families in attendance. Our friends have no idea (and probably won't until after the fact). So much easier without the pressure from everyone- the focus is entirely on us :o)

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  • Mrs. Hainsworth
    VIP November 2011
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    Good!!!! I loved that dress as a high fashion statement (of course i don't know that i'd have anywhere to wear that...) but for a wedding...I was sooooo curious but didn't want to be rude Smiley smile))

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  • Krista
    VIP May 2012
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    A snoopy FH..that does suck....My FH knows i play on some wedding wite but he no idea what site it is so i dont have any concerns to worry about with him. Having a snoopy FH i understand the lack of pictures. However because of the secretcy....I so can't wait to see your wedding pictures.

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  • Glenn
    Master February 2012
    Glenn ·
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    Not Catholic or religious but what is NFP?

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    ... well I hope I don't disappoint anyone when I come out looking like this:


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  • Mrs. Hainsworth
    VIP November 2011
    Mrs. Hainsworth ·
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    Natural Family Planning. Very traditional Catholics don't allow the pill for a couple reasons, so they like natural like rhythm BC

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    I used to refer to NFP the "Vatican Roulette".

    In all seriousness, you can also use the plan to help conceive. Obviously instead of abstaining,one would make babies.

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    NFP is actually totally different from the rhythm method...

    It's "Natural Family Planning" ... I can't give too many details since they gave little to no information on what exactly you do but the woman basically takes her temperature regularly and watches the consistency of her bodily fluids (they used the term 'mucus') They have classes on it that we plan to take, apparently it's 100% effective if done properly. The couples there swore by it & there are different plans under NFP that you can use.

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  • Glenn
    Master February 2012
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    Yeah, sorry, I believe in birth control! Smiley smile

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Kimi's explanation also points out that it is a good tool for TTC.

    In my first marriage, we used this method for the first year to prevent conception. Unfortunately, we discovered I was infertile, so we used the method to try and conceive as well. Mucus plays a huge role in the conception process.

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  • Rachel W.
    Master May 2012
    Rachel W. ·
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    I'm glad you enjoyed it, and that FH enjoyed it too. Is there some way to ask for the NFP information without being totally embarrassed? : )

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  • Carrie
    Master December 2011
    Carrie ·
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    You can read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" (http://www.tcoyf.com/)

    It really should be required reading for all.

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
    Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") ·
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    Carrie W....I agree!

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  • Meghan
    Super July 2012
    Meghan ·
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    Kimi, my (also Catholic) friend Liz uses the NFP method you described. She's been off her BC Pills for over two years and no extra kiddos! But you *HAVE* to do it every day. Or almost every day. If you slack a week you'll wind up preggo.

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  • Kimi K
    Master February 2012
    Kimi K ·
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    I was hoping they would have a specialist to discuss the method in detail... FH & I joke around about how nervous it makes everyone and it seems like this huge secret no one wants to discuss. The couple touched very lightly on the subject and just basically gave us the definition & outline of the method. We're in the process of finding a class to find more information on it.

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