Small office. Wrong to invite some but not all?

Since I'm feeling rather devious and demented today - print one invite with the wrong date & time and give it to him. Ehehehehehehe (My wicked witch of the Northeast laugh)

Im going to sound evil (lol).... I too work in a small office and will only be inviting 2 of my co workers! Its my wedding, my money and my say. If I dont say more than 2 words to you in a dat, why would I spend $150 for you to eat at MY wedding? Call it what u may, im not going against my feelings to pacify anyone!

I work in a small office and I only invited the few people that I am close to. I didn't feel the need to invite everyone and their family to share my day

I work in a HUGE office, so it's very easy to get away with only inviting some.

However, in your case, I would keep the peace and invite him. That way, he won't put you on the spot asking where his invite is. You'll also avoid the inevitable tension and strain on the working relationship if he feels he was the only person not invited.

But, since he doesn't seem to be a fan of many people, maybe he'll choose to stay home.

I was in a similar situation, and I ended up inviting everyone. I figured it was better to keep the peace than to stir up drama. It cost more money but I slept better.

I work at a small orthodontic office and I really wanted to invite my boss but I'd probably look like a brown noser since a-lot of the girls have issues with him and he and I get along great. So I decided to just not invite him at all it's just better that way and not have people talking behind my back.

Haha Marie S I had the same thought!

If you don't like him, I say don't invite him. I wouldn't worry about it. It's YOUR wedding!

Well I see it this way: It's your wedding and you can invite whom ever you like. Being as though its a small office and you know that it will probably get back to him about all who is invited, then if he where to come to you and say something about him not being invited--you should respond well I assumed that you would feel uncomfortable coming to sinners wedding therefore we thought its best not to invite you and make you feel uncomfortable. That should make him think before speaking next time.

Well I see it this way: It's your wedding and you can invite whom ever you like. Being as though its a small office and you know that it will probably get back to him about all who is invited, then if he where to come to you and say something about him not being invited--you should respond well I assumed that you would feel uncomfortable coming to sinners wedding therefore we thought its best not to invite you and make you feel uncomfortable. That should make him think before speaking next time.

It's your wedding and you shouldn't have to invite ANYONE you don't want to invite, especially when they said such an awful thing, I don't care how many other people you are inviting. He deserves not getting invited. So what if it causes friction? Why would you have to worry about causing friction if he wasn't worried about causing friction when he said what he said? When he realizes he wasn't invited then he will remember what he said and put two and two together. You should not even have to bother worrying about keeping it hush hush. Don't invite him, he's not going to die. It will be a simple way of showing him that you don't care to have his presence on your wedding day. You owe that to NO ONE.

I agree whole heartedly with Elizabeth G. It always irritates me when people can get away with little snide remarks that 9 times out of 10 they know they are being snarky but they do it b/c nobody ever calls them on it. I say it's your wedding, your money, your choice. If you feel like you really don't want him there, you shouldn't be forced to have him there simply because "etiquette" says you should to play nice. Like Elizabeth G said, if he has a problem with it, then you can be nice, nicely put him in his place.