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Sleeping Separately the Night Before the Wedding - Do or Ditch?

Lynnie, on February 4, 2020 at 11:05 AM

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What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition? Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch...

What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition?


Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch it" to this tradition?


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97 Comments

  • Desiree
    Super March 2020
    Desiree ·
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    We lived together before marriage, so this was kind of an easy one to ditch.

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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Doing it! Even though we live together I grow up traditional. So we are going spend the night separate.
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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    I say do with this tradition! It's just a cute thing to do and builds the excitement for your big day. The day of the wedding the bride is usually so busy getting ready it's not hard to be apart from the groom and it makes it more special to see him for the first time on your wedding day after not having been with each other the night before. I love this tradition and it's one I'd always vote to keep doing!!

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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
    Anna ·
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    Definitely keeping this tradition, but we aren’t living together now. The wedding is when this all changes for us, not the night before.
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  • Jessica
    Beginner October 2020
    Jessica ·
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    We will not be together the night before I'll be with my daughter at the hotel so when we wake up us girls can start getting ready....one last night of just me and her.
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  • Autumn
    Devoted July 2020
    Autumn ·
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    We sleep together every night and I think it will be hard for me to sleep without him! But - I do want to build the anticipation so I think this actually might be one tradition we do!

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  • Lunajay
    Super August 2022
    Lunajay ·
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    I want to sleep separate so the morning of will feel more exciting.

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  • C
    Dedicated August 2021
    Charlotte ·
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    We will be sleeping separately and he won't see me until I walk down the aisle. We come from big religious southern families, so there's lots of tradition to uphold. (And we don't feel forced to keep with tradition, we like being true to our roots! We think everyone should do what feels right for them personally!)

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Our plan is to keep with tradition and spend the night apart. He will spend the night with his son and I'll spend the night with my mom.

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  • Cherthelove
    Savvy November 2021
    Cherthelove ·
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    We plan on sleeping apart Smiley smile I've always imagined that way and I think it'll make it feel even better when we do see each other for the first time on our day

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  • Sweetness
    March 2022
    Sweetness ·
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    Ditching this as well. I want him near for as long as is feasible to help keep me calm and share together in our day. We will separate at some point though, because we want to do our first look at the altar.

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  • T
    Dedicated November 2021
    Tiffany ·
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    We’re not living together until after the wedding so yeah, we’re sleeping separately the night before!

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  • Diane
    Beginner September 2020
    Diane ·
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    We are doing traditional
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  • Squeezy Bean
    Devoted March 2024
    Squeezy Bean ·
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    Ditching this too. I'm not spending any more time apart from My Amazing Man. Separate countries has been bad enough.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    The tradition is extremely antiquated from the days of prehistoric arranged marriages. We will definitely skip this.
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  • Emilia
    Expert June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Ditch it, wasn't practical at all !

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  • Becca
    Beginner February 2022
    Becca ·
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    We are getting married out of town so will cost more money so probably not doing this more for that reason. But I guess we haven't actually discussed it yet either
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