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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Sleeping Separately the Night Before the Wedding - Do or Ditch?

Lynnie, on February 4, 2020 at 11:05 AM

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What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition? Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch...

What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition?


Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch it" to this tradition?


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  • Maureen
    Dedicated October 2021
    Maureen ·
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    Doing. My best friend and U are going to catch up on the night before. We haven't seen each other in 7 years, do to unforeseen circumstances. I can't wait!
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  • I
    Expert August 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    We will probably be apart but not for any reason than me staying at our venue to be able to get ready there
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  • Croma
    Just Said Yes January 2016
    Croma ·
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    I do to sleeping separate
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Funnily enough, after living together 2 1/2 years... we did!

    To be fair, DH was getting ready at his parents' place, so it made sense for him to stay there the night before. Also, we're both a little superstitious...

    Of course, by the time we got to the ceremony, I nearly ran down the aisle, because we're not used to being apart that long!

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  • Ashley
    Devoted October 2020
    Ashley ·
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    Doing! My bridesmaids and I are staying in a hotel the night before.
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  • Catherine
    VIP November 2019
    Catherine ·
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    I did this. i wanted that tradition. i wanted the first time he saw me that day to be in my dress

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I'm so on the fence about this, it's not even funny. I've always planned on following tradition and sleeping apart the night before the wedding, but I REALLY don't want to. I want to be in the same bed so I can at least try to get a decent night of sleep lol. FH says he would rather us sleep apart for the sake of tradition, but wouldn't be upset if I told him I didn't want to. So we've still got to figure this one out, but I think we'll spend it apart just because.

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  • M
    Dedicated August 2021
    megan ·
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    Doing. Dude snores, and I'll need to sleep the night before our wedding. LOL.

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  • Nina Arszulowicz
    Savvy September 2020
    Nina Arszulowicz ·
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    Doing for sure
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  • T
    Savvy December 2021
    Toya ·
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    Lol no 😅 we live together so we are going to spend our nights together... All of them
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  • Jackey
    Savvy September 2020
    Jackey ·
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    We are not doing this tradition. My fh wants to sleep together then in the am go separate ways until the ceremony... we arent doing a first look either so im goving him this one 😁
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  • Leighanna
    Dedicated October 2021
    Leighanna ·
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    We will be sleeping separately. Him at his parents, me at mine. If we were getting married close to our home we probably wouldn’t though.
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  • Kayla
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Kayla ·
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    Ditching! I originally wanted to be separate but we already live together and don't want to spend the extra money on a hotel room for the night.

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  • H
    Beginner September 2020
    Heidi ·
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    We are staying apart and not because of tradition but I am staying at the hotel and he is staying at the house. He suggested I stay at the hotel to relax and enjoy the evening with my girls.

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  • Hcook
    Dedicated May 2021
    Hcook ·
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    Even though we have been married before and both are living together. We will sleep separately the night before.
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  • MD
    Super July 2019
    MD ·
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    We did this, but looking back I would've ditched it.


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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    I'm not sure. Three of my four bridesmaids live out of state, so it would be nice to get extra time with them, but I live with my FH so it may be easiest to just stay home.

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  • Theadra
    Devoted June 2021
    Theadra ·
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    We live together and our venue isn't close, so we'll prob sleep together to save money . And nothing better than waking up to the love your life on your wedding daySmiley smile

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  • ALYSSA
    Devoted September 2019
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    We did, it was terrible and I woke up so nervous/sick to my stomach.

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  • M
    Dedicated November 2021
    Melanie ·
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    This one I think we will do or at least I know the FH wants to do this because he’s not supposed to see me the day of the wedding, but I’ll miss sleeping next to him that night 😢🥰
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