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Sleeping Separately the Night Before the Wedding - Do or Ditch?

Lynnie, on February 4, 2020 at 11:05 AM

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What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition? Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch...

What are your sleeping plans for the night before the wedding? Are you keeping the tradition of not seeing your soon-to-be-spouse until the wedding ceremony and sleeping separately? Or are you sharing a room and ditching that tradition?


Are you saying "I do" to sleeping separately or "let's ditch it" to this tradition?


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97 Comments

  • Melis
    Savvy May 2021
    Melis ·
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    I like this idea!!
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  • Jeanette
    Expert July 2022
    Jeanette ·
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    DITCHHHHH I'm a terrible sleeper without him anyway but the night before a life-changing event? No thank youuu. We'll part ways in the morning and not see each other until the ceremony at 6, which I think is quite enough stress-filled hours apart for my personality.

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  • Diane
    Beginner September 2020
    Diane ·
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    I'm thinking about it but we will see each other at the rehearsal which is the. Night before
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    We we're going to but it's not logical for us because of where we chose to get married. I also feel like this "tradition" was created in a time that it was taboo to live with your SO prior to marriage but here we are. I broke one tradition, what's another? lol

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Nahhhhh not that serious. lol

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  • Tamera
    Expert May 2020
    Tamera ·
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    Sleeping separately. I think that waiting until the wedding to see each other makes that moment even more special. Not sure of the logistics yet, but we have lots of family coming to town, so we can figure it out.

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  • Stephanie
    Super September 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    "Do" we arent sleeping together the night before. Not sure were we are but just not together.

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  • Laurie-Ann
    Beginner August 2020
    Laurie-Ann ·
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    I intend to spend the night apart from him before my wedding but I'm not doing it because of the superstition. I think it just builds in the anticipation so I want to have that feeling where we havent seen each other in a couple hours before we walk down the isle.

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  • Kasyah
    Devoted July 2020
    Kasyah ·
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    Ditch- it's a destination wedding and would be one more thing to coordinate. Also, we feel more calm and at ease together. This would just add to the nerves.

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  • Jamie
    Expert May 2020
    Jamie ·
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    We will be spending the night in the same bed

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  • Shania
    Devoted September 2021
    Shania ·
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    I thought about it and I don’t think I want to do this. I want to sleep in our bed and get ready somewhere else day of so he doesn’t see me until the reveal
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  • Jordanne
    Savvy December 2020
    Jordanne ·
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    I dont care about this tradition one way or the other, but he seems to be very superstitious about this tradition so we'll probably be separate. Besides, we'll have been living together for about 8 months before the wedding so one night is no big deal.
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  • Chantal
    Expert May 2021
    Chantal ·
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    Who's actually going to be able to sleep before their wedding night?

    We're Christian, so we sleep apart no matter what, but AUGH I just know I'm going to be awake the whole time, counting down the seconds.

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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
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    At his insistence, and for convenience. I'll be staying with my MoH and he with his Best Man.

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  • Kendra
    Devoted August 2020
    Kendra ·
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    We will be doing this! I'm excited that the first time I'll see him after the bonfire the night before will be our first look. I think it will be extra special that way. We will also probably keep the texting to a minimum after a good morning text.

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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    Look, I have the rest of my life to wake up next to him... I am ok with ONE freaking night solo. LOL Into it!

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  • Meagan
    Dedicated July 2021
    Meagan ·
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    We don't currently live together so we are use to spending nights apart lol.
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  • Kimberly
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    We will be sleeping in different places the night before.

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  • Analie
    Dedicated September 2020
    Analie ·
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    We will sleep separately. We both know we wont be able to sleep if we are together and he parents will be staying with him. Also, I think it's nice us to freshen up the day of without being together and seeing each other with our best foots forward.

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  • Breanna
    Devoted September 2020
    Breanna ·
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    I'm not sure about this one yet. I think we'll be staying in separate rooms, but I'm sure we'll decide on that a couple days before 😂
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