Okay I think I just need to know this is okay on my part.
First of all my stepfather. I had posted here two months ago about inviting his GF, who HATES me because he wanted to bring her to my wedding in Hawaii---or I heard that he did--he has NEVER said one word about coming to my wedding to be honest. Given the advice I got, I did invite her. We switched planners so we can have more people than originally planned so she can come.
Okay, it's been TWO MONTHS and not so much as congratulations from him. NOTHING. It's a destination wedding and I don't care about etiquette for times, we NEED to know who is coming. It's a SMALL wedding with just a dinner not a reception. We have to know in advance.
I'm assuming that he's not coming. He hasn't said anything to me since I told him I was engaged, just being passive aggressive when I sent a group email (before we built our site) saying that we were getting married in Hawaii, he replied, "well when you figure out where you'll have it let me know" completely ignoring all the details. SIGH
I don't even want him there.
My sister-----OMG she is the worst. First of all she has sent me tons and tons of emails telling me it's costing her THOUSANDS to come to Hawaii and everything is $600/night---not true. AirBNB and VRBOs are CHEAPER than if we had the wedding in Los Angeles (for where we live in Burbank) ---I spent hours sending her links etc. We got everyone discounted code for flights on Hawaiian air, and we planned for the lowest cost island, beach, time of the year and planned around her school schedule. She said she would miss anything for us and not to worry, then the complaining started. SIGH.
Okay cut to two weeks ago, she told me she is leaving the day after the wedding because she has to get back to work. (which is BS she's a teacher, she doesn't have to be back on a Friday)--even though we planned a LUAU that she INSISTED on going to and paying for the more expensive seats. Whatever. I asked her husband if maybe they could stay more than one day also in case of rain the wedding will be on that Thursday instead of Wednesday. He said, they are island hopping and will be there a week.
She sends me nasty text messages telling me not to talk to him anymore and that they are coming Wed to Wed. I replied, "Um, our wedding is Wed evening" She argued that it was Tuesday (even though we sent her save the date and it's on the wedding site) and I said, "no, it's Wed Oct 10th" she asked me to MOVE it to TUESDAY because she has to get back to school on Thursday.
So first she said they couldn't afford it. Now they can afford it including island hopping AND they are leaving on the day of the wedding!!!!
What the??????
I give up. Really.
My FH doesn't want her or my stepfather to go at all.
So can I just not send them invitations and invite friends who have said they want to come but we didn't invite since it was family only at first? Is that okay? After what they have done??
