Should I ask FH's Sister to be a bridesmaid?

Seriously, on the night I got engaged, the very night, FH sister pulled me aside and said ver batim "Ok, let's talk bridesmaids. Obviously, I'm in - I bought this blue necklace last week, will your colors coordinate with blue, do you think?" What?! and since I didnt know her that well and couldnt say 'Hey I dont know who my bridemaids are yet, it might not be you'. So yeah I got railroaded into my sister in law.

But since then I've gotten to know her and she's a blast. And bouncy and bubbly and crazy is just the way she is. I'm not annoyed by it anymore.

So in summary, if you do make her bridesmaid you might find that she's totally awesome.

Keep in mind too that you have a while until your wedding, so you don't need to ask anyone right now. You have plenty of time to try and get to know her a little better and see if you really want to ask her because you like her, not just because you feel you should.

IMHO It sounds like you want to and just wanted some reassurance, so if that's the case, go for it And like @Bad Wolf said... you may find out that she's a great person & you love having her around!

Yes, I think you should.

Umm no. you don't need to ask her and there shouldn't be an expectation. maybe if she wants to be involved let her hand out programs.

I can relate to this. FH sister, and I used to not be close. But now we are closer then ever! She's the sweetest person I've met! She lived with us for a short time a few years ago before FH, and I ever thought about getting married. We didn't always hang out etc. Well, I originally had my best friend, Brandie be my MOD... but I got to thinking really hard, and decided to have FH sister by my MOD b/c I thought it was appropriate to do so! Brandie is completely fine with it, and I was freaking' b/c I didn't want her to be upset! Brandie's exact words, "It doesn't matter to me sis, as long as I am in your wedding!" HAHA, of course you are! Well I asked FH sister last November, and she had tears in her eyes, and said "of course!" Made me feel happy that she wanted to be a part of our big day! So, no I don't see anything weid about that... maybe you guys will build a friendship! Do what you feel is right, but I think you should def. have her in your wedding though!

Its TOTALLY up to you...I didn't have my Hubby sis in my party, she was (15 at the time) but still, we did have her walk down the aisle with her dad after both our g-rents. But no she wasnt in party

Before coming on here I always thought it was proper etiquette to include all siblings in the wedding party. BUT I’ve realized since that the decision is yours. Put the people you want standing up there with you. Put the people you feel comfortable up there with you.

We did include all of our siblings in the wedding – my sister as a BM, my brother as a GM, and FH brother as the best man.

But for us it wasn’t hard because my brother is very close in age to FH and I and they are practically best friends so without me even saying anything FH wanted him in the wedding. If he wasn’t comfortable with my brother being in the wedding I think myself, my bro, and my family would’ve been bummed. He’s my only brother so I could see there being some hard feelings. But every family dynamic is different!

I don't think the idea of having all siblings in the BP ever crossed my mind before I got engaged, but I suppose it is nice. My FSIL is almost 10 years older than me, but it still feels right to have her as a BM. My younger brother is almost 10 years younger than FH, but FH asked him to be a GM because he thought it would be a nice gesture.

Who knows whether this will bring my FH and my brother closer together (I doubt it, they're both not talkers and don't have much in common), but it has certainly brought FSIL and me closer together. She's already asking me to bring my planning binder with us when we go visit in 2 weeks. It's fun and has been a great experience so far

I included my FSIL, she only has 1 sibling, my FH, so I thought it would be nice to involve her in his/our wedding. I am also hoping this will help us get closer as we are very friendly but not super close. I could tell she was really touched when I asked.

My FH has 4 sisters. We are not that close and when we got engaged, one of them TOLD me she was going to be a bridesmaid. Mind you, I had not even thought of the wedding party when she told me this. I also have sisters and life long friends that I would prefer to stand beside me on that day.

I love the variety of opinions- just goes to show that it depends on your situation. Originally I didn't want FHs sisters in the WP- I wanted to keep it small and I already had my sister and friends in mind. Come to find out 2 years later I'm not nearly as close with my friends as I was but FHs sisters are both still a part of our lives. Families are forever... So my opinion is that you ask her.

I love the variety of opinions on here too!

KristinB - Yes I suppose you are right...I do want to ask her and just needed reassurance! Although I will probably try to hang out with her some more before asking her.

And someone else said It's early on so I don't have to ask anyone yet, which is true, although I think I'm going to be asking my MOH tonight

Anyways...thanks for all the awesome opinions! I love hearing everyone's personal experiences with this.