Really Annoyed! Cake in Face!! Really??....RANT!!!!

Why would he tell you he's going to do it? it's not fun unless you didn't see it coming!

My husband teased me with this. I told him I didn't want to be the newlyweds that ended up in jail. After a few discussions about it, I told him, if you really are intent on doing it, make sure you keep it off of my eyes and my hair. A little on the mouth, chin or TIP of the nose is okay. When it came time to actually do it I was a little worried, but all he did was rub a little frosting around my mouth and kissed me. So we both got just a little messy. Nothing bad at all. So maybe he's just trying to get you all worked up over it and won't really do it. Or at least not as bad. Just make sure he KNOWS it is NOT acceptable to you to get in your eyes, nose or hair.

I'm letting my FH know that this is a no no!! I can't see spending the money on a makeup artist, then have it get go to waste.

I really don't think I answered the original question.

I don't thik it's the cake thing that is truly getting to you as you could tell him to gently smash it in your mouth area, only, if he really wants to...What's getting to you is the fact that he's so blase about all the other wedding traditions that you guys have discussed and this ONE thing you can pretty much do without, he is actling all giddy about.

Your first dance is important. Why dosen't he care about it? That's what's making you angry.

Talk to him and tell him that his feelings about this weddng seem to you like he dosen't care about it or you. He will make you feel better, I'm sure!~

We didn't exactly smash cake in each others face but DH got frosting on my nose... by this time my makeup was a mess anyway I'd been dancing most of the night and it was warm out so it really wasn't a big deal even if he had smashed it in my face... but he figured I wouldn't like it much he only did the frosting after everyone egged him on... I think the guests expect it more than anything... especially the guys

Wow, I'm surprised this is such a hot topic!

Personally, I think a tiny bit of cake on the face is cute. It shows you have a sense of humour. That being said, some couples don't like to do it and that't totally fine too. However, I am pretty shocked that some brides on here are talking about waging an all out war if their FH's do it.....why are you marrying him if the "deal breaker" for you is a little cake in the face?? SMH

Anyhow, I do agree that if you feel strongly that you don't want it, you and your FH should discuss it and come to a compromise so you are both happy.

That being said, some of you need to lighten up and just enjoy the day you are paying all this money for and not be so concerned about how you look.

Oh hellllll no! The cake in the face thing is so lame. I jokingly asked FH if we were gonna do it, his response "What?! That's a waste of perfectly good cake!"

I was the MOH at my bff wedding and her and her husband smashed the cake in mine and the best man's face it was so unexpected!!!!!

Geez, I'd want to know why he wants to do this,,,,,it's not funny, it's not cute, it's not original,creative or unexpected. Feeding each other is sweet; isn't that what marriage is about? Being nice to each other?

@Celia It may not be cute or funny to you, but it is to someone else (me). To me, most of the weddings I have been to weren't too creative or unexpected. There are some specific and original parts to every wedding, but overall they are similar. We all pick out our own details and what we want in our wedding. For some people, being sweet is laughing at cake frosting on your nose.

Long as he does mess my dress up!

Wow, been away for too long! Anyways, I think he may want to get a rise out of me! It was a pretty hot topic between us last night, and I was all out pissed! He knows how I am about it! I am all for little bit of goofing and a swipe on the nose is fine, anything more is wrong! @ Briton, yes, I am a bit annoyed that he doesn't happen to give a sh*t about all the other traditions, with the exception of this one!
@KM, thats excatly what I said to him last night, "why would I marry someone who takes zero account of my feelings and chooses to show what I consider to be disrespect towards me."
Anyways this morning FH says jokingly, that he may instead aim for the boobs!...lol! Gotta love his humor!!

Future Mrs L, my FH did the same thing - threatned to do this to get a rise out of me - but the hairy eyeball took care of that. Actually, I thought it was very sweet when he said he was just kidding because he respects me too much to do that to me and wouldn't want to ruin the hair and makeup I spent so much time on. Awwwww..... love my dude.

No no no no no! I hate the cake smashing. Luckily hubby and I spoke about it and we were on the same page. No cake smashing! Plus our cake cutting was before dinner and it would have ruined my makeup.

Future Mrs L - not sure if you saw my prior post with all the others. LOL. I think he is probably just trying to get a rise out of you like you said. My husband messed with me about that on and off throughout the planning. I really did make it clear to him though about how "we" were spending money for me to get my makeup done and that I didn't want it messed up. I think he just got a kick out of seeing me get worked up over it and we did always end our conversations laughing about it.

@ Brandi D. thanks, I did need to hear that! This morning things were on a much lighter note! I also thought about Glenns idea and really liked it!

Glenn did have a good idea. I knew I wouldn't be fast enough to get away from my husband though. :-)

My hubby has a sense of humor that most people would not tolerate. It's one of the many reasons that I fell in love with him though. But there are times I can get fed up and I take him serious and he has to remind me that "hey, I thought you could take it. I'm just kidding". Seriously though, make sure to keep reminding him of the money being spent to look pretty. Most men always hear $$$$. LOL.

Future Mrs L, tell you FH that the TRADITION is that feeding the cake to each other represents your recent promises to care and provide for each other.

Smashing cake into each other's face doesn't sound very loving to me. I told my DH that he was NOT allowed to do that and he said he hadn't planned to -- he thought it was not nice.

My FH is banned from doing any cake face. I am not going to have my make up done by a professional make up artist only to have it ruined. I think its a silly affair anyway.