Really Annoyed! Cake in Face!! Really??....RANT!!!!

Disgusting and disrespectful. DH knew where I stood on this one....nooooooooo. I am so skeeved out when I see people with food all over their faces. ughh

"If it's something he cares about and wants to do" -- really? This isn't odd colored socks or a funny dance. If the bride is not on board with this "tradition", it is very disrespectful for the groom to do and a BAD way to start off your marriage to do this. After all the effort the bride puts into her appearance for that day, if she's not okay with cake up her nose then it's NOT okay.

I have never seen this work out well. It looks like an inappropriate grade school prank at an adult function, and the bride always looks awkward trying to act like she's laughing it off, but it's obvious she's furious.

If FH tries this, we will not have a happy wedding night, and he may end up with cake down his pants.

While Glenn thinks you are being stupid I would say your Fh needs to be considerate. You don't want that so why would he do it? As others have said are you guys willing to compromise? Maybe a little cake on the nose or cheek? Hope it works out.

It's not a tradition; it's juvenile, ugly, disrespectful and crass.

It's not a tradition; it's juvenile, ugly, disrespectful and crass.

If I remember correctly it is a tradition that tamed down from the couple getting the entire cake over their heads symbolize fertility. Clearly that doesn't fly.

This is NOT something I intend to allow. Call me uptight, inconsiderate, whatever, I hate this kind of thing. Seems so frat boyish to me.

If it bothers you, then maybe your FH should reconsider, but on the other side of the same coin, if he's really dying to do it, then you need to compromise and let him have his fun too.

We did it (and yes it is a tradition in some places - I've only seen one wedding in my family skip it, and it was a second wedding) and it's often the guests' favorite part. We were playful, it didn't ruin my makeup, we have no hidden dislike of each other, and why on earth is everyone so worried about what anyone else thinks?

We haven't decided on whether we will do this or not. I think it's cute when done right, no smashing into eyes or hair, but I'm worried that some of the cake will fall off my face and onto my dress. And I do not want a stained dress for the rest of the night.

We won't be doing it. It's not because we are uptight and don't know how to let loose. It's just not something we see as being fun, cute, etc.

I told my husband how important it was to me that he refrained from smashing cake in my face, and I would have the same courtesy with him... he must have know I was 100% serious because he fed me a nice piece of cake on the wedding day and did not smash me with it I was relieved, lol

I would probably laugh if it wasn't TOO humiliating. Although, I went to a wedding once where the groom shoved the cake so far up this poor brides nose that it started to bleed. That was some hillbilly crap right there...

Okay I'm going to say amen to that! I was looking for a place where I could order my cake from when suddenly I remembered the whole smashing cake on the face thing. Immediately I texted my FH and told him NOT to do this and I would be so mad if he did. I don't think he cares, he too said it was tradition.. yet doesn't know whats going on with anything in the wedding. No matter how much I beg or yell, I know he'll ignore it and will do the smashing of the cake. Oh well :/

My FMIL once told me that if we didn't smash cake in each others face we wouldn't really be married. I've squashed that though, I don't want to pay for professional make-up just to have it be ruined by cake, even if "all our pictures will be done by then anyway."

Both my fiance and I hate that 'tradition". We have promised NOT to do that to each other. I think we might add it our vows so we each have witnesses. HA Good luck.

I have no desire to do that, and i have made it VERY clear. I am not going to want to risk getting anything on my dress.

Besides, I don't think it's very sweet. I want my whole wedding day to be happy, and sweet, I don't want someone smashing anything in my face. I want him to carefully feed me, and then give me a kiss. SIMPLE.

Besides, my FMIL read somewhere that it is a sign of disrespect and you are not starting your marriage out with respect if your smashing cake in their face. I dunno, that's what she said she read somewhere.

My FH and I have an agreement that there won't be cake shoving at the reception 'cause we're gonna be in such nice clothes and I'll have makeup on. We DID however, have a "jack and jill" shower (guys and girls were invited) where we had a cake. I shoved cake in his face! He was so shocked that by the time he got me back, I'd turned away and he got it in my hair! We have great pictures from it too. It was a lot of fun, but imagine trying to get that out at the reception.

Have fun and do it at another wedding-related event, maybe even the rehearsal dinner, but skip it on the big day!

Everyone at my reception was upset because we didn't do the cake in the face! But excuse me, I didn't get ready for three flipping hours for my hair and make up to get ruined and then possible pictures to turn out horrible because of my hair and makeup! We had talked about the cake in the face before hand and neither one of us wanted it!

I don't care what anyone else thinks. I care what *I* think, and Ithink smashing food into someone's face is anything but a sign of love and affection. If he wants to lick food off any part of my body, he's going to have to wait a few hours.

If other brides feel differently about it and find it playful and fun, go for it. Me? Never. Hate it.

At my girlfriends wedding (I was a bridesmaid) She knew her husband would be doing this. She is a little girl and he is much bigger. So the bridal party had cupcakes behind their backs and when he went in to smash it in her face we the bridal party smashed cupcakes in his face!! It was great entertainment.

I have to agree with the majority and say that I think it's a bit juvenile. Further, I know my venue asked us NOT to do it, as they are tired of having the clean up that has to be done for it - cake on the dance floor before the guests start dancing or smashed into the rug. Not cool.

Also, I think that respecting what the other party wants goes both ways. If he hasn't cared about anything else and has been ambivalent, you are just as entitled to state that you don't want to do that either. Unfortunately, if you plan on feeding each other cake, he is going to do it, especially because he knows that it will upset you. He is probably thinking it will be funny (I have never seen the humor in it).

My suggestion to you is, if it really bothers you, is to cut the cake but don't serve it to each other. Take away the ability for him to do it.