PROTESTING MY WEDDING?

That is ridiculous! "Fuck them" exactly!

Think about it this way, those who come to your wedding will have a great time, and those that don't because they are defending something indefensible will have to stalk your social media to see how happy you were WITHOUT THEM.

I had my grandma, aunt and uncle protest my wedding because my cousin (their 15 yr old son) wasnt invited due to us not inviting kids. It hurt my feelings and I was upset. I saved a plate & seat for my grandma anyways. She didnt come and I hardly noticed. I was too busy having fun with all the people that WERE there for us. Like other brides have said, if they dont come, their loss.

Yep we had many who protested since his parents protested. I'm so sorry you're even worried about it, your wedding is going to be so awesome it is 100% THEIR LOSS whoever decides to come! Please don't worry about this, so many things you can control, and people's stubbornness is not one of them

There has been all kind of issues In my family and abuse is one of them. I think the people that are saying invite him anyway are in denial. My family was very big on keeping secrets and they just didn't acknowledge or Admit to the abuse most of the time. So I thought about just packing up and having the wedding in England but we decided to move the wedding from the originally planned Venue in my hometown To across the country to where we live now. It meant a very small wedding but in the end it was the best thing ever. we got to relax most of family chaos didn't exist, for me it was really the best way. as for the mean family friend, It's a wedding you'll be very busy it should be very easy to ignore and avoid her. And make sure you have someone in the room with you while getting ready to keep her away. I know someone that didn't do that at their wedding and it was a mistake because some jealous people busted in and made the bride feel very bad. so just do all you can to avoid this woman These are her issues not yours. edit Anton, But if her being there would really upset you that much then no I don't think she should be there.

BTW, I'm going to tell you something that took me decades to understand hopefully it will help. These people that are wanting to ignore the abuse, they likely aren't acting this way because they don't care. it's because abuse is so terrible to face that sometimes people's mind won't let them face it. And they either don't acknowledge it, or they take the attitude like my mom did, well you need to just forget about it and move on for everyone's sake especially yours. So if you don't move on it only hurts you and that's just sad. they Tend to turn it around on you one way or another that its all up to you to just get over it and and quickly so you'll feel better or something. When in truth you do need to face What's happened and deal with it your own way, but in your own time. if you haven't heard it already I imagine someone is going to say to you that it would be healthy and wonderful for you to just forgive your brother and let him be at the wedding. I see that's Bull hmmm hmmm. don't let anyone bully you into doing something you aren't comfortable with. And I completely back you on the idea that your brother should not be at your special day. anyone that doesn't like it can just stuff it.

I think that's incredibly rude of them! I wouldn't talk to your mom's friend. I'd just leave it or let your mom talk to her. Really there is no reason you should need to justify your guest list to her, and if she is such good friends with your mom she should understand that this decision was not made lightly (I'm assuming since you said you ultimately decided - I didn't read your original post) and that as a victim of abuse, you have the absolute right to not invite your abuser into your life.

Edited: typos

Hahaha. I didn't know it wasn't Shauna until Shauna posted. Please change your avatar! :-)

My grandmother protested my parents' wedding because my grandfather was invited (they had been divorced for 20 years). So she didn't go. No problem. My step-grandmother was in all of the family photos instead and my grandmother was by herself that night.

F' them. My sister is posting BS on Facebook about me in hopes that my asshat relatives that haven't called or seen me in 30 years will protest my wedding. Joke's on them, because none of those people were on my guest list in the first place! And furthermore, if I was inviting them and they believed her crap, I wouldn't want them there anyhow.

My uncle/aunt protested/boycotted my wedding because their kids weren't invited. The were the only ones to never RSVP.

No one under 21 was invited, not my husband's 1st cousins, either, and we see them all the time. I've only seen the kids of my narcissistic/entitled uncle/aunt a few times, in their lives. Plus, they have a nanny. Oh well, their loss.

We both have huge families and are inviting everyone...EXCEPT his crazy second cousin who started an argument with her own mother and her own sister at her own sisters wedding.........no fucking thank you, do what you have to do!

Invite who you want! none of my moms family is invited and only certain people from my dads side(I have 23 cousins and only 1 will be their as my MOH). It's mostly my FH's family he is super close with them and they have been very accepting of me and also our close friends.

Thanks for all the advice/support! I can't believe how many people are or have been in similar situations! While I am sorry you're going through something similar, it is comforting to know I'm not the only one dealing with something like this!

I'm not inviting my abusive step father and crazy step sister.

no fucks are given, but then again everyone hates them.

if someone protested they can fuck right off.

Go read part of my BAM I just posted.... Went through something similar with family. It's your day invite who you want. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone.

Screw them. My drug addict sister is not invited to my wedding, but her 1st husband and oldest son are both coming. Everyone is glad she won't be there for my sake.

We didn't invite my husband's brother either. He's a mess, and promised to "ruin" the wedding when he found out about it. The rest of the family agreed to lie about the wedding date so he didn't show up unexpectedly. To this day, we don't know if he knows we are married or not. It doesn't matter. Just because you're related by blood, doesn't mean you have to acknowledge some sort of forced relationship. On the flip side, my father and I don't share a single gene, but I love him more than a few of my blood relatives.

Anyone who treats me or my immediate family members with disrespect does not get an invitation to what is supposed to be the happiest day of my life so far. I have a stepsister from my dad's first marriage who I was fine with him inviting until I found out she had been treating him like crap. She was uninvited. I also stopped my mom from putting one of her sisters on the list who has treated her like shit for years (and her children have followed suit). Also not invited. I'm happy to take the heat for it as I have zero regrets. It is your day, your say.

Have fun with those who really matter and don't worry about the rest!!

Considering it's none of their business, their "outrage" is out of line. Don't like, don't come.

My mother didn't attend my first wedding. She is a manipulative narcissistic personality and she didn't like some of the decisions that we were making for the wedding; we were married by a jp and then married in the church a year later. She refused to come or participate, and we had a wedding and a party! I'm hoping this time can remain amicable, but I'm not holding my breath either. So what I'm saying is, move forward and enjoy your big day!