I posted previously about my abusive brother and if he should be invited or not. I ultimately decided not to and my parents agreed they would honor my wishes (after much fighting). Now, a close friend of the family is not coming to my wedding in protest. He doesn't care what my brother did to me---"he's family and should be invited". His wife is still planning on coming but I was recently told that she's only coming because she feels like she has to (she's best friends with my mom). She did come to one of my showers, but she showed up late with no card, ate, then left-she was there for maybe 15 minutes.
I feel like my guest list shouldn't matter to them. It's my wedding. They either want to celebrate with us or not.
Have any of you been in a similar situation? What did you do? Should I just leave it all alone and ignore the situation? Should I try to explain myself to the family friend? I'd feel incredibly rude about uninviting the wife, but I'm so angry, I want to.
