PROTESTING MY WEDDING?

I missed the original post, but you have to do what makes you happy. If people want to protest your wedding, let them. It's your day and you should be happy. There is no reason to invite someone who will make you uncomfortable. Good luck.

Excuse my language: fuck them. It's a family matter that doesn't involve them. Even if it did, supporting an abuser is just as bad in my opinion. You don't need toxic people like that in your life. I wouldn't uninvite, but that's mainly to not rock the boat.

@Della - I wish I had just said that - simple and to the point.

I agree I wouldn't uninvite the wife.

I can't stand when someone says the past is the past. Yes it is the past but I am not going to allow someone who i know will hurt me do it again in the present or future. I always tell people if you had a dog that would bite you or attacked you, would you keep going around it?

I say if anyone feels that strong about it that he would protest it, I would say you are uninvited then. No since in him showing up and going around telling everyone how you are the bad guy on your wedding day.

I was going to say what Della said. If they feel that way about your brother not being there, they don't have to go. Why should you have invite him just to make them happy?

I'm not inviting one of my sisters. I haven't spoken to her in 15 years and there's no chance for us to reconcile. I've been asked a handful of times if I was inviting her. Hell has a better chance of freezing over before I invite her to my wedding.

FH step mother isn't invited for a variety of reasons. We have been questioned a few times and told his Dad won't come if she isn't invited. We simply don't care. We are certain a few of his other family members won't show because of it and we are okay with it.

You don't need toxic people in your life and you certainly don't need toxic people there on your wedding day.

My brother told me the reason some family on my biological dad's side weren't coming because I'm not letting him walk me down the aisle. So... yeah I don't care. Why would someone who never raised me and just came into my life be giving me away? don't like it? don't come.

I'm in the 'fuck 'em,' camp (nice talk for a minister, right?) It's not his wedding. Uninvite him and his ungrateful, spiteful wife and they can all hang out together that day.

If both parties sincerely want to restart the relationship, then the past CAN be in the past, but your wedding isn't the place to start that process. If not?

Fuck 'em.

I'm not inviting my dad but his brothers and people on this site made me realize that it's my wedding I can invite who I want and if people have a problem with it then don't show up! So remember that it's your and your hubby's day

It really isn't any of their business who you invite, the fact that this guest feels the need to protest someone's wedding just means that they have too much time on their hands.

I don't know if I'd uninvite a guest, but maybe I'd talk to her and just say something along the lines of, "We would love for you to be there, but we also wouldn't want anyone there who doesn't truly want to be there. We wouldn't want anyone there who is only there out of obligation." This gets the message accross without you having to uninvite someone (which is just going to cause more drama).

My uncle, (dad's only brother) did not get an invite. His two daughters will be there in charge of passing out programs and greeting people as they arrive. My uncle has been involved with serious drugs for at least the past ten years, sold family vehicles for drugs, pawned anything he can get his hands on, and now for the last 7 years or so has been telling everyone he's so sick and has cancer. He's a pathological liar, and will not be coming around me or my wedding! When I told my dad, who hates him that I wasn't inviting his brother he thought I should because he's family. The next day my cousin (uncles daughter that is 17 & a good kid) came over and said her dad was talking shit about me and FH doing drugs, being party people, and FH used to be in prison for drugs and touching kids, my dad almost lost it. Lol NOW everyone's on the same page as I am. Just try to get through it the best you can. Of people don't want to come because it if, SO FUCKING WHAT!? You shouldn't have to feel anything but happiness on your wedding day!

Almost. We chose not to invite my husband's brother's wife because of some issues she had. His brother, who was the best man, decided not to come out of protest, which is understandable. I don't hold anything against him for staying with his wife. We did have a couple of people who tried to stir up trouble with "he's your own brother, tsk tsk tsk" and my husband just shut it down quickly saying that it was between them. If people choose to force an issue with emotional blackmail, you don't want them there anyway.

This is just ridiculous! It's your wedding, invite who you want.

Also, we have the same profile pic, I was confused for a second when I logged on.. LOL

Whoa, I totally thought this was Shauna lololol

Nobody's business but your own who you invite. Your day should be filled with positive people who wish you and your FH well.

Janeen, I thought so too. I was so confused at first. OP, I agree with everyone else. You don't need them there.

I don't understand why anyone would react that way. My asshole sister isn't coming to my wedding, and everyone is super happy about it.

That is ridiculous.

I would talk to you mom about her best friend. I wouldn't want to upset my mom by uninviting or not encouraging her best friend to come without her knowing.

That is ridiculous.

I would talk to you mom about her best friend. I wouldn't want to upset my mom by uninviting or not encouraging her best friend to come without her knowing.

@ Celia - I had someone actually tell me I should use my wedding as a way of patching things up with my sister! Thanks but no thanks. If anything was to be patched up it would have been 15 years ago and certainly NOT at my wedding. I don't know why people make assumptions that a wedding is a good way to rebuild relationships? I think I'd go to jail if my sister showed up at my wedding! LOL