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Proposals - private or public?

Jo, on March 28, 2018 at 9:05 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 128

Private or public proposals - which do you love? Which did you have? Did you and your partner talk before hand about which type you wanted yours to be?

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Latest activity by Mrs. Spring, on November 18, 2020 at 10:53 PM
  • Mrs. Jones
    Expert May 2018
    Mrs. Jones ·
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    Private! Yes we talked about it before and we both wanted a private proposal and I loved it!
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  • Kelly
    Dedicated June 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Ours was public. We didn't talk about it before but I loved it. Everyone there to share the excitement with made us feel so loved and added to the excitement.

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  • emcknight1517
    Super April 2018
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    I love both. I think there's merit to both, depending on the couple.

    I had a private one, although FH did propose in a public garden. It was the off-season though so no one was around. I don't think he wanted to propose in front of others and I definitely didn't want the attention or random photos of me. (What do strangers even do with those engagement photos if they don't give them to the couple?)

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
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    FH proposed spur of the moment.. he had this elaborate plan in his head, but the day he was going to do it, he said he just had to because he had such an overwhelming feeling of love and happiness. He ended up doing it in our living room.

    It was perfect. It was authentic. It was mine.

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  • Mmssecrets
    Devoted March 2019
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    Mine was kinda a mixture of both private and public. Their were people around but not a lot and none (except the one taking pictures) we knew! We didn't talk about it but we did discuss not the typical holidays (Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's day). I also got to pick out my ring but it was 1-2 years prior to the engagement.
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  • Brianna
    VIP May 2018
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    We didn't talk about it beforehand, but we had a private proposal in a public area. FH proposed in a hidden spot at the national zoo in DC.

    I think both types of proposals are good, but I do think public proposals put more pressure on the girl to say yes even if she may not want to.

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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
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    We were on a beach in HI and he hired a proposal planner who set up dinner and wrote in the sand. There was a photographer too. It was at sunset so behind him I could see a wall of people cheesing from ear to ear. It felt private but there were definitely onlookers.

    *He knew I wanted it to happen on vacation. We took 4 vacations that year and this was the last one.

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  • MsMyWay
    Dedicated August 2018
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    I love both types but FH is a really private person so i knew whenever he would do it that it would be private which is was. We did not talk about it beforehand.
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  • ISaidHallYes
    VIP November 2018
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    I always wanted a public over the top proposal. He did not. The whole proposal is a long story of me accidentally ruining it with a surprise party for him and a bunch of other stuff. He ended up doing it in private and I am so happy that is what ended up happening. We didn't tell anyone until the next day and we had our own little secret!

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    I always dreamed of a public proposal because I'm such an extrovert and I'm into being dramatic and loved the idea of being like "OMG Yes!"

    I had a private proposal. My DH is a big introvert and he tried and planned a public proposal and got so nervous he couldn't remember how to get to the spot. I'm glad he did it privately so he could be comfortable in his proposal.
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  • FME
    Master March 2018
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    Ours was private. We are both pretty introverted people, FH knows I am obsessed with all things Christmas so he proposed in our house in front of the Christmas tree. It was perfect. His family was encouraging him to propose at a restaurant at Christmas Eve dinner, and he didn't think it was a good idea and I'm so glad he didn't. I'm just so shy and awkward I enjoyed it being just me and him to enjoy the moment.

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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
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    Mine was public but done in a private way. My husband proposed at sunset at the Grand Canyon, and while there were people around, he did it quietly and off to the side. If he hadn’t have hired a photographer to capture the moment, I’m sure most people wouldn’t have noticed.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
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    SOoooo private - I find public proposals uncomfortable. I made sure FH knew I wanted it to just be him & I. I have been at friends proposals and felt it was more of a show than something so romantic & private.

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  • Lauren
    Expert June 2019
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    Private! I told him before that a proposal should be a private moment between two people and that's what I got!
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  • MrsSnez
    Super October 2018
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    We had a private proposal at home but then went to his parents house shortly thereafter. We never talked about it (though I may have commented on others big, public proposals in front of him- not that they're bad, just not for me). FH knows I hate being the center of attention so it was perfect.
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
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    Ours was somewhat public. He proposed at a bar in front of my mom and best friend. We didn't talk about it beforehand, but I wouldn't change a thing!

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  • Kaylyn
    Super May 2019
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    We didn’t talk about it before hand because she wanted it to be a huge surprise. Ours wasn’t super public but she proposed in front of my family
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  • Pegs
    VIP July 2018
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    He did public. In front of the Royal Palace in Madrid, Spain. He even had a photographer and people around clapping lol clearly, we like attention.

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  • Brenda
    Devoted May 2018
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    I think it depends on the location for me. If it were a public place where you can still have a little privacy (like a park or something) I wouldn’t mind but if it’s like on the Jumbotron at a baseball game I’d hate it.
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  • Trilby
    Dedicated July 2018
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    Ours was in a public park but it was at night so there weren't many people around except our friends who were there. FH surprised me and had our friends get me to the park so I wasn't suspecting anything. They got pictures and were able to facetime our parents so they could be a part of it.

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