Proposals - private or public?

I think it depends on your relationship. Mine was semi-private. My FH proposed in front of my whole family during my birthday celebration. We didn’t talk about it beforehand, but it was exactly what I would’ve wanted.

100% private. I love how my FH proposed. It was so personal and completely beautiful (perfect way to explain us as a couple). I didn't have to talk to my FH about it before hand. I know him to well to have to talk to him about something like that. Plus, I think it is alot more special if they come up with everything themself.

So I would have been fine either way and FH and I talked about it a few times before it happened. He is a very shy person and prefers things to be small and intimate and I knew if I told him I wanted something big and grand he would have done it but also had a panic attack lol.

The day he proposed we had gone fishing at 7 am and got home around 4ish, I was so tired just wanted to shower and eat. Well after my shower I just throw on some lounging clothes and he ask me is that what you are wearing and I say ummm we are just getting food right lol. He gets all nice and spiffy so I do my hair and make up quickly and put something cute on and out the door we go. We get to his cities boardwalk and he escorts me around and around to the point I'm like where are we going lol he finds the best spot, takes my stuff I was carrying and puts it to the side and pops the question, his brother was there in the background taking pics it was so simple but so perfect and I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Thank you! I love Madrid too! It's one of my favorite places I've ever visited!

We had a public proposal. I think both public and private are beautiful. We did not discuss what type of proposal we wanted. It was a surprise.

I through out hints about what I would or wouldn't be okay with. I hate being the center of attention so I was really specific about what I would be okay with if it wasn't private. It ended up being very, very public. He proposed on the concourse of SAP Center before a San Jose Sharks game.

SAP Center - San Jose Sharks game

Ours was public, in front of our favorite neighborhood restaurant where their wall is entirely windows (great for people watching!) and he had most of our close friends gathered. He had created a movie for me that showed him kneeling at my Mother’s grave asking for her blessing & a video from my only brother 3k miles away giving his blessing. He showed me the movie, then got down on one knee and proposed in front of the window. It was beautiful & I still cry just thinking about it!

Mostly private. We were 2000 feet in the air in a hot air balloon and the only other person there was the pilot. We didn't speak about it beforehand, but I was SO hoping for a private proposal. I was completely blown away and loved every second of it!!

Ours. Was very very private. I came home. From shopping and he had. Rose peddles. And a bath ran for me with candles. And I got into the tub. And with candle lights he sat next to the tub and was talking to me. And of course he said., Babe. You know I love you unconditionally. I said of course. He stood on his knee and asked me to marry him and I said Yes.

Ours was relatively private in a very public place! At the lookout deck at Niagara Falls, ON, Canada. It was absolutely perfect and we were both shaking from the adrenaline and excitement afterward!

Me being surprised and so excited!After saying yes, kissing the love of my life!

Private, on our 3 year anniversary. I was watching scary Youtube videos when he came home from work. He asked if I wanted something new on my hand to replace m promise ring, gave me the box, and sat on the couch next to me.
He asked "will you be my wife?"
I said yes, he put the ring on me, and the rest is history!

My fiance and I don't like a lot of attention, so private was perfect for us.

The original was kind of public with family. the second was private on the beach (long story)

Both are fine depending on the couple. I was VERY clear with H that I DID NOT want a public proposal under any circumstances.

I wound up proposing to him at a quiet table at a steakhouse in San Francisco. The hostess and server knew what was up because when I made the reservation I asked for a table with a view of the bridge and told them why, but aside from asking to see his ring they respected our privacy.

Mine was a private proposal in a public area - which seems like something a lot of people had! My fiance proposed at a public park in Madrid, so we didn't know anyone around and really the only person who saw was the person photographing it for us. It was perfect and definitely what I wanted. In my original vision we would have gotten to celebrate immediately after with friends and family, but retrospectively I actually loved the few hours we had together to relish in it without anyone's opinion until we found an internet connection when we got back to where we were staying and facetimed our family and friends!

Mine was semi-public. He proposed at my lake house over Labor Day weekend so all of my lake neighbors were there but they stayed away from our dock until it was over. We also had our two best friends there to take pics but they were far enough away it felt private. It was perfect!

My was public. We was out shopping, I was looking for earrings and didn't notice he walked off. Then I heard him yelling my name across the store, he was with the jeweler. He asked me if I liked how the ring look, I said yes but showed him a different one. He asked how much it was, then told the jeweler he'll take it.

Me: Your buying it?
Him: Yes! We're getting married.

Me: Oh okay!

So, that was my proposal and I loved it.

Private. We never talked about how, I just said I wasn't going to be 'living together' without a ring in a previous life when we'd dated before. So this time he came with ring in hand earlier than I expected.

I'm an extrovert, but my fiance is more of an introvert. I actually cried for days because I thought his proposal was horrible. I was in PJ's trying to get ready for Christmas Eve Dinner that was at his parents later that evening. He proposed in our kitchen at home with nothing planned at all except getting on one knee and asking me to marry him. There was no declaration of love at all. Then after I said "yes" he proceeds to tell me that he hopes I don't get fat. I literally wanted to smack him because I could not believe he said that after he proposed to me?! Ugh... well it's been 2 years since our engagement and we both have changed a lot for the better (thanks to therapy!). After the proposal, I had to sit through an entire dinner and Christmas celebration with his family and I couldn't call any of my family for hours. It was very stressful for me and I hated my proposal. The cherry on top was the only thing in my stocking that year was a jar of salsa. He didn't get me Christmas presents that year because my ring was my Christmas gift. I laugh about it now... but I still wish he tried a little harder. I guess I sound like a brat, but most girls grow up thinking that their prince charming will create an elaborate proposal and when it doesn't happen it feels like a let down. For all the ladies out there that felt this way- it gets better. A proposal isn't 100% a reflection of your future husband. Some guys just aren't creative, they get super nervous, and start blurting out stuff or stumbling. Talk to him after and let him know what's up. Sometimes they need to be taught how be romantic. It's not their fault.

Private, absolutely!