Postage...not included?

I bet she ends up having to track down half her RSVP cards. If people are too lazy to do it half the time WITH stamps they're certainly not going to do it without them.

Yeah, she's not going to get very many of those RSVP cards returned if they don't include postage. If she didn't want to pay for stamps, she should've had an online/phone RSVP option.

She's just creating a much bigger headache for herself by not including the stamp. I do think it's quite rude to not stamp the RSVP

Got a invite for my uncle wedding and it didnt have postage to returned it either.

This seems to be becoming more common. I agree with you that if there isn't postage, I'd call in my RSVP, and that should be expected by the bride-to-be. She shouldn't insist that you mail it. If it were that important, there should've been a stamp on it.

Myself, in order to save on postage, I won't have RSVP cards, per se. I'm having a business card size card with phone number and such on it enclosed with the invites.

It's rude as all hell.

It's becoming more normal with wedding website RSVPs, email, text and phone-in RSVPs since the stamp would end up wasted. I am only giving a mail-back RSVP to a few elderly people who I know don't use computers or cell phones. For those I will include the stamp but I must admit, I'm going the electronic route because I don't want to pay any more for my invites!

Really I wouldn't care less if I received an invite without a RSVP stamp- it's not that hard to still find stamps.

We absolutely included a stamp on our return envelope. We wanted everything to be as easy as possible for everyone so it would, hopefully, makes things easier for us!

Why does she insist on getting it back? A phone call or email is just as good. I think the fact that she insists you send back a little card is the rude part.

Not including the stamp isn't that rude but it's also just a bad idea. So many people don't send back RSVPs as it is, she will have to chase down practically everyone.

As for your question, I did include the stamps. It just makes life easier for the guests.

That seems inconsiderate of her. We included stamps on the RSVP's except for my parents and a few other family members that we expect just to hand us their RSVP in person since we see them a lot.

She would have to accept that phone call as my RSVP.....Ugh making a mental note to get a stamp to mail back RSVP is a headache.

I did include the stamps also

Odd. I never heard of that. I thought it was assumed that RSVP envelopes would include postage.

We included pre-stamped RSVP envelopes with our invites.

Had one friend who didn't have that, but then you could RSVP by either e-mail (they had a wedding one set up) or by phone. I emailed our RSVP to them.

Put her address in the return address (your address) spot. Then she'll have to pay the postage due!

I love Nancy's idea...! Does that really work?

I would say it was an oversight on her part, but the way she responded, she expects her guests to pay the postage. I wouldn't say it was rude, but it's not convenient for guests. Like said above, she could have just had an email, phone or website RSVP.

I put postage on all our RSVP cards except for one that I sent to Australia. I wasn't sure how much the postage would be so I sent the card without an envelope and printed a business card that said "Dear L and S. For your convenience, please RSVP via email to . . " My friend has been so excited with our event that I knew she would still want to see the invites and RSVP cards, but I wanted her to have the same convenience as those who had received the postage paid envelopes

Um....you can't come up with a stamp?

You are actually the one in the wrong here, if you read Miss Manners, who thinks back to the older tradition when an invited guest will actually respond without even having the card provided. That's traditional manners.

But brides, having come up against guests who don't do that started making it easy for them to respond quickly, by providing the cards, and then the postage. But the bride is not REQUIRED to do so. So, get a stamp already.

and yes, I'm putting stamps on my RSVPs, but for people's convenience, not because etiquette dictates such.

If she won't take a phone/email, etc. RSVP response... then yes, i think that's pretty dang rude to not include postage. lol. wth?

She should accept a phone call as an RSVP. WTF is wrong with her.

Emily Post...says nothing about the stamp being required. Even if there isn't a response card at all, it is expected that the guest reply. It is YOUR responsibility as a guest. http://www.emilypost.com/guests/invitation-reply

The old-school etiquette from Miss Manners is that a phone invitation gets a phone reply, and a written invitation gets a written reply.

Over 49 cents, you want to stress out over this and cause the bride stress?