Postage...not included?

@OldFashionedBride...it's 2014

I'm not stressing over 49 cents. I'm stressing over the fact that I have to take time out of my already busy day to get a stamp, that she could have supplied since she was already there to get a stamp to mail it to me in the first place. We're in the 21st century, there are a million different ways to accept/send RSVP's for everyone's convenience.

Its rude to make your guests do extra work to rsvp. Its that simple. Its also stupid, as it will reduce the number recieved.

And stamps are still available at the post office, online, at the grocery store, here in 2014.

The bride wasn't rude, per formal etiquette rules. Made it less convenient for you, yes. But the guest who was honored and included with an invitation can do their part.

You cannot buy single stamps at a grocery store. Only books of stamps. Which means she would have to go to an actual post office....my schedule doesnt allow me to go to a post office during normal business hours so I would end up needig to buy a whole book at a grocery store for 20 stamps when I wouldn't need any of the others. $10 for one stamp? No thanks.

My god, with all the problems that people report in trying to get RSVP's back, you'd think 49 cents would be a small price to pay to avoid some of that.

With people NOT sending a lot of mail (bills via internet etc) not everyone has stamps. I know it seems like a small thing, but anything that makes people postpone replying will drive YOU crazy, not them.

I don't think its a big deal, and I can understand why she wants the actual card back. Maybe it was one of those "oopsies" and the bride sent them out before she realized that she should have put stamps on them. Or maybe she did it on purpose.

IMO it is not that hard to stop by the postal office on your way home. They even have those convenient machines in the lobby that will give you a single stamp, in case the counter is already closed.

I did provide stamps on my RSVP, simply to make it more convenient but to be honest, I still have people who are too lazy to walk to their mal box to drop it in. I have had plenty of people say that they are waiting to see me or FH to give it in person. WTH? Drop it in the mailbox already. lol

I agree with everyone here about how it is an inconvenience to buy one single stamp and I also find it rude that the bride will not accept the RSVP over the phone. I pay all my bills online, send emails and the only thing I've bought stamps for in the past few years have been Christmas cards and this wedding.

Question- does the RSVP card have a menu option? Only reason why I ask is because sometimes people turn in the RSVP to the caterer but if that was the case, I'd hope the person would put postage on it because you definitely needs the cards back!

I mean, I would just get a stamp and send it. But for everyone reading, if the ONLY way you'll accept RSVPs is by mail, be courteous and stamp the RSVPs.

With the above situation, the bride should have just said, "Great! Thanks for RSVPing!"

@Koch Bride, no menu option. Oh, and she has a Facebook event setup as a "pre-invitation" regarding updates etc. meaning that I had to RSVP to that before I would get the invite. There is no post office on my way home, and when I get off at 5:30, and sitting in traffic, get home between 6-6:30, still have to cook dinner, the LAST thing I want to do is go to the damn post office, especially when you have my RSVP via Facebook, and phone.

Wow.. I think it is more rude of her to decline your hone RSVP than anything.. smh

I am putting postage on mine. I am doing postcards so the postage price is less.

I got one recently I never sent back because I kept forgetting to go get a stamp.

OK, yes... it is inconvenient. However... buy a book of forever stamps at the grocery store next time you go ($4.90 isn't a bank breaker), and keep them in your house for when you need them. I know I personally have a book of stamps at my house, so I can use on the random times I need them (I still like to send birthday cards- call me old fashion). You'll have them, and as long as they are forever stamps, they can be used anytime in the future, regardless of stamp price increase.

I love 'real' mail and sending cards and thank you notes. But I'm ancient, lol....(I also love stamps; there are some totally great ones!)...now if we could just trust the USPS, it would be a perfect world....

FSIL didn't send a stamp OR an envelope. I was like WTF

Here's a concept....maybe you can ask around your office to see if someone has a stamp they will give you or sell to you.

And you probably ought to go buy some stamps at your convenience at some point, as you will have the occasion to send things with stamps, such as thank you notes, with your upcoming wedding, lest we have someone else come on here and complain that the couple they spent money on sent them an email thank you note, rather than the conventional hand written expression of thanks.

Yes, I think it's a bit redundant for you to have to FB reply, phone reply and mail in the card. We are in agreement there.

But as for "rudeness" to not include a stamp, while it is convenient for the guest, the etiquette sources don't support you. Yes, even in 2014.

I have never heard of an RSVP card without postage before!

She will barely get any back because of this....she will most likely call all.......

i have never seen someone not stamp their rsvps

I didn't include postage on my RSVP cards but there is also an online RSVP option. So far out of 50 guests who've RSVP'd only four came in the mail. The rest just logged on and submitted their RSVP.

Though you are right, it doesn't break the bank....

I want to live where Nicole F lives where a book of forever stamps are $4.90 instead of $9.80 or whatever they are.