Plus one

I think everyone should be allowed a plus one no matter what the status of the relationship. I myself went to one (and only one) wedding as a single invitee. It was miserable. I was put at a table with people I didn't know that were less than friendly...it was uncomfortable. I ended up leaving right after dinner. I would say for any quest a plus one is a must.

Everyone in a relationship needs to have their and the SO's name on the invite, they do not get "and guest". We didn't give a plus one to our single friends do the venue capacity.

I was not invited to 2 of FH's cousins weddings when we first started dating. FH and I are still salty about it 5 years later.

I'm just gonna chime in for a second...

Cutting out, or rather not inviting to begin with, a family member that neither of you have seen or spoken to in years is no issue. I'm in the South, and I'm not turning that crap around saying everyone in our families must be there, so bury that shit now. It has nothing to do with a Southern family thing, FFS.

That being said?

Married couple = social unit

Friend with SO = social unit

Single friend = plus one

SUPER EASY, Y'ALL!

Some of y'all can talk out of your rear ends all day, but those are the facts. You reduce your guest list as a whole, not by cutting out people's SO's. Never heard something so tacky.

It is your day. Invite who you want. I was just invited to a wedding with no kids. It was rough but I found a babysitter. My feelings weren't hurt. For our wedding picking and choosing who got plus ones was a little tough but it isn't their day. Do what makes you happy!

@Jennifer and while I'm sorry that was rough for you, I've been to several weddings where kids were invited along with their parents, and babies cried through the ceremony, one kid broke a centerpiece, the other threw a very public tantrum because it wasn't the food they wanted, etc. I'm certainly not saying your children are misbehaved, don't get me wrong. But I will be one of those who isn't having children at their wedding for those reasons and more. I love kids, I'm just not down with the idea of a baby crying through my ceremony or not eating the $50 meal I've had catered.

Again, kids aren't not the same thing as a social unit by any means.

@augustlawbride

It really shouldn't matter if they are living with their parents. Maybe its for financial reasons while they are in school. If they are 18-23 years of age they are still an adult regardless of maturity. They still get to bring their SO if they have one. They still get a separate invitation from their parents.

Uggggggghhhhh

The phrase "it's your (or our) day!" is so fucking irritating.

Can we please stop with that and realize that once you invite other people it's no longer just "your" day?

@katieBMy amen!

It's your wedding and your budget. You can decide who comes to your wedding and who is allotted a plus one.

You can decide who to invite but that doesn't give you the right to treat them like shit. Not inviting their SO is shitty.

100+ comments later, did OP every come back?

We plan to do the same. Only way someone would be invited under a one year relationship would be if they are someone we have met a few times and would want at our wedding. I wasn't invited to my fiances cousins wedding. We weren't engaged at the time, but we had been together for 5 years at that point and I was very hurt by not being invited. I think as long as you take into account the considerations of how much you see the person, how well you know them, etc. you will be fine.

@Kesley you were hurt by not being invited to your FH's cousins wedding but you're willing to do the exact same thing to someone else?

Oh.

Yeah honestly it is. Plus ones are not for married ppl, they're for single ppl.

We had our first child on the year anniversary of us dating. We were very serious, despite anyone else's interpretation of "appropriate" relationship timelines. I understand your concern, but I would send the invite as a plus one and just be done with it.

If your limit was like 6 months, I could see it. But a year is just a very strict cut-off.

I know you're getting blasted on here, but what you suggested in your posting is done *very often, and it is rational in my opinion*. So, then I guess half the world is totally rude and crazy! I would say use your judgement on a case by case basis

Yep, very rude. You don't get to decide how serious someone else's relationship is. They aren't "plus ones," they are social units and should be invited by name.

My thoughts may differ slightly than the majority but oh well...here it goes...

1. All bridal party peeps should get a plus one. no.matter.what.

2. married people get a plus one (but you invite them by name)

3. people who are in a relationship and living together get a plus one.

4. those who have openly been dating each other exclusively for 6 months get a plus one

5. if you've met the "plus one" and personally "friended them" sure why not give them a plus one too.

Personal experience:

I was dating my FH for 3 months and he got invited to a wedding but with no plus one....was I a little bummed? Yes, of course! I love weddings! ....But I also understood. I didn't know the bride/groom and they didn't know me, so it was all good.