Plus one

Yes. Plus ones are for single people. People in a relationship for any amount of time get invited by name.

My DH and I were living together at 3 months, would we not get invited as a couple since we hadn't been together a year? Don't disrespect other people's relationships while inviting them to celebrate yours.

You should invite all significant others. If your budget won't allow, cut the cousins altogether.

Two years ago I was not invited to a wedding of my SO friend because we had only been together 6 months. I was not offended as I did not know this couple at all? This is why I'm asking.

And yes, I know that married couples get invited by name, that wasn't my question, sorry it may have been worded that way

Well can't cut the cousins now as save the dates were already sent

I have been to several weddings where unless the couple is married, engaged, or has been together/living together a significant amount of time, there is no plus one. I don't think you are being rude at all!

I read this and I think it helped.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/plus-one-wedding-etiquette

If you already sent save the dates, then you need to increase your budget and invite their significant others.

I totally get what you ladies are saying and I see your side.

Going to play devils advocate for one second though.

So, my cousin who is known to be a serial dater and dates girls for three months and then done, I should give him a plus one to let him bring whoever he is dating at the moment?

I'm sorry, just seems silly to me?

You asked if you were being rude, and you are. Find a place to cut your spending and make room for your cousin's significant others.

Sorry that it seems silly to you to respect your family members and their relationships but that's just the way it is.

I think a year is a decent cut off.

I was not invited to FH's friend's wedding after being together more than three years because "sorry, no plus ones." That sucked.

I'd definitely try at least to invite them especially if it means a lot to have some of them there to you. This is just me but if I was invited to a big social event like that I'd feel more comfortable having my spouse or a friend with me. Honestly would not go if I couldn't bring someone that I could socialize with that I know well

This is a good rule of thumb: If they are dating at the time invitations go out, then you need to invite the significant other. If they are not dating at the time invitation go out, you do not need to include a plus one.

For my wedding, I don't plan to offer a plus one to those who are in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship if they don't know my FH and I as a couple or have never met us. My reasoning is I want to keep invites to family and friends who know us as a couple. I wouldn't word it like "you've only been dating for X months" but more of we would like to keep it small and intimate. I don't even plan to invite family to our wedding who have never met my FH or I have not seen them in 5-10+ years.

@Krysta I think OP mentioned that it's her cousins' dates she's thinking about. All cousins will be well acquainted with most everyone at the wedding already.

@shinee I like that reasoning. I think for me it's not about disrespecting the cousin but more that my FH and I don't know these people at all. I want close friends and family there for the wedding.

I never understood this logic. I found out my cousin was dating someone at my family gathering in April 2017 and that they were dating since October 2016 (my wedding was January) and I felt horrible that I didn't know/no one told me he was seeing someone and that she wasn't invited.

If you already sent out save the dates, then don't have kids go. Or invite them and pick up a small part time job if you end up not getting enough declines to cover.

You chose to have a huge guest list without considering that people may be in relationships by the time of your wedding. You need to own that mistake and come up with a solution that doesn't involve excluding them.

ETA: You said you have a huge guest list but "I want close friends and family there" - that doesn't match up.

I get not wanting people there that you don't know but that doesn't mean you just exclude them. And let me tell you - my mother didn't want to go alone, started dating a guy mid-December and invited him to the wedding. Literally told me on the day the numbers were due. And brought him and they "broke up" by Valentine's day. He's now engaged to someone else and getting married in a few months. So yes, it's awkward and he is in some family photos and I can't suddenly delete him out. But telling her no to bringing someone and letting her sit alone when she had someone she would like to enjoy the day with is so much worse.

I also have been to weddings where if a relationship is new and the couple has not met the significant other, they don't get invited (assuming the person they do invite knows many other people at the wedding) - I've even been to a wedding where the single BP members didn't get plus ones.

However, I will be giving plus ones to those in relationships by the time our invites go out, and plus ones to bridal party only or if someone doesn't know anyone else at the wedding.

How old is your cousin?

@Shinee, if I hadn't invited people on my DH's side who hadn't met me, our wedding would've been half the size. He has a bigger family (some who live far away), and honestly they just never get together, but he wanted them there for such an important day.

I agree with @Mrs. Coakley. If they have an SO when invites go out, the SO is invited. If the "serial dater" is truly single, then you don't need to give them a plus one. Honestly, it's better to budget as if every person on your list will be in a relationship. If they aren't when the invites go out, then you end up saving money.

I'd go more 6 months ... honestly but even if it is slightly rude . . Most relationships don't make it past a year .. never know the extent of it .. I have a girl on my Facebook. Her and her Fiances broke up 4 months ago .. no lie this girl has dated over 10 guys .. New boyfriend every week ..