Plus One Problems

I would be pretty bummed and hesitant to attend a wedding without a date. Although it depends on how close of a friend you are to me.

Typically if they are seeing someone yes you invite them. Some have rules on how serious they have to be but it's bad form. When I put my guest list together I assumed every single person would bring someone and allowed for it they want to dance with someone at a to manic event too.

This is why we budgeted and took Plus Ones in for everybody. If I was dating someone, especially at 3 months or so as this starts to be around the time I tended to bring BF's to an event like this, I would want them to be my date. And you should extend the Plus One to everyone

Our guest list only extends out to first cousins and we are on a strict budget, plus we don't want to spend one of the most important days in our lives being gracious towards someone we are meeting for the first time that day and possibly never again (just being straight forward). No one is getting a plus one unless they are in a serious or long term relationship in which case we are writing that persons name on the actual invite.

Duplicate so here is a cat

We are definitely inviting couples that have been together for awhile. I just do not know what the cut off is.

You invite anyone in a relationship with their SO, despite the length of time when you send out your invitations because you do not get to judge if their relationship is "serious" enough. It is so rude to ask someone to come celebrate and honor your relationship while not even respecting theirs.

See this link for a lot of opinions - it happened yesterday and I don't really want to rehash it again today

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/when-someone-tells-you-they-get-plus-one-rant/7ec8b67a0c1f2342.html

Thank you Emmy, for the comment and the loafie.

I kinda anticipate that any single person I invite may or may not bring a plus one, so I'm planning for "may".

For friends who are in relationships, I addressed the Save-the-Dates to "Mr. Friend Fromcollege and Ms. Girl Hesbeendatingayear" or "Ms. Lady Iworkedwith and Guest".

For those who are single, I just addressed it to them, but I am still prepared if they bring a guest. it's just safer, IMO, and avoids the awkwardness of having to say no, especially on a destination wedding (who wants to fly alone?).

Yes, if they're a couple he should be invited, by name, as a guest.

A plus one is ONLY given to truly single people to bring a guest of their choice. ALL SOs, regardless of the length of the relationship, should be invited, by name, as a guest.

A lot of the people here will just say that everyone get as a plus one. That's fine and dandy but not always practical. No matter what you do, you must remain consistent: if you decide all get a plus one, then do that. If you decide no plus ones, then do that. It has to apply to every single guest including your mom. Unlike most of the ladies on WW, we only invited those who lived together, were engaged/married (ie not a plus 1) or if we were really friends with both people. It was applied to everyone.

To me, this is like the kids/no kids discussion, but people will probably get all up in arms on my opinion.

Our guest list only extends out to first cousins and we are on a strict budget, plus we don't want to spend one of the most important days in our lives being gracious towards someone we are meeting for the first time that day and possibly never again (just being straight forward).

what in the actual fuck...I'm glad the first wedding I went to with DH he was invited because we were together despite the fact she had never met him. I would assume she'd feel like a total dick for missing out on that opportunity to celebrate with a future member of our family or friend circle. I hope you don't wind up feeling like a big asshole - just being straight forward -