Planning for baby after wedding?

Well, I'm in my mid 30's and we want two kids... so we're pretty much trying to start our family right away. I'm hoping the timing works out so that I can take the summer off for maternity leave and start teaching again in the fall. We'll see... we start TTC next month.

We're going to TRY and wait a year... keyword being try we both can't wait to be parents.

I will say that once my ex and I decided to start our family, it worked....first try.

I knew that I was doing this once, and told my OB/Gyn, "I need s few things....1) The baby will be a girl. 2) Drugs, mass quantity. 3) NO, I do NOT want to watch the birth. 4) The child will be cleaned up before I see it.

He responded, "I can give you three out of four. "

I told him, "Then I assume you do sex change operations." LOL!

Little did we all know that the one out of for was no drugs! So I gave birth without any meds...still didn't feel one pain. WHEW!

**@Tonia- I don't understand why you are still taking the pill if you are trying to get pregnant now. **

Not only that, but this statement scares me...

"the health department here said if I ever wanted a kid"

So, are you, Tonia, on pubic assistance (none of my business)? But your post made me ask. If so, please wait to have a child. I say this for the child, you, your husband and, honestly, the tax payers.

Do NOT get me started on tax payers supporting those not paying taxes. UGH!

Jessy T....I like your thinking.

Best wishes to you. Planning is great..reality can mirror that, or be its own "thang".

When FH and I get married, I will almost be 24 (1 month later) and he will almost be 32 (3 months later). I've told him that I want time for us as a couple without any kids first. But whatever happens after the wedding will happen. He wants kids like no other (his brothers and sisters keep having kids like crazy) and would have one today if he could. Maybe I should wait until men can have children?

I have a daughter from my first marriage who is almost 5, so we don't really have much alone time anyway. I would prefer to start trying sooner rather then later but FH wants to wait till we're married, which I agree with, I just really want another baby. The sucky thing is my IUD is up this sept and since I refuse to use anything else I will get it replaced just to have it pulled in a year or so.

DS and I are both young (23 and 21 respectively) and feel that we have all the time in the world. We aren't even going to think about having kids until my IUD is up in five years, and even then it's still kind of up in the air.

I'm going to say we're waiting... But when it comes right down to it... There might just be a honeymoon bun baking in the oven a few months after the wedding....

I waited for five years after my first marriage to have a baby. I needed to finish law school and get established in my career first.

Well we didn't wait haha. I found out 2 weeks before our wedding that I was pregnant. We changed out wedding date and it was like the stars were alined. We were hoping that we would concieve sometime this month but it actually happened in August. =]] I am not a very example of waiting.

I wish I could say we will start right after but I can't have any more. With my youngest son my heart started failing(I was married then) and I said well I'm good with my two so tie the tubes cause i don't want to die if it happens again. Now that I am with my soulmate and he has no biological children I would love to share that with him... He would love it too but he's okay with not. We even talked about name(dumb I know) he wants a girl named Holly... =)

There are quite a few toes being stepped on here and it riled me up to the point where I'm just going to keep my major opinions to myself. To EACH their OWN.

I met FS when he already had a kid so we have never experienced what it was like to be just us except for a few days a week. Then we had Ardyn. I would not change ANYTHING..not my age..not when I had her..nothing. I am so happy we had her before our wedding because it was a huge step for us and I don't care if we did things out of order. We were already engaged and knew we were going to marry each other so when I got preg on bc I figured it was meant to be. We are a very family oriented couple and enjoy spending time with our children in the family aspect..even as much as we enjoy spending time with each other alone. There are closed doors at night and living room time after the kids go to bed..and babysitters and family that will watch your kids. You don't crawl into a hole and completely kiss your social life

Goodbye the minute you decide to have a child. It is a blessing. So much for me keeping my opinions to myself eh. At least I kept a majority back.

To answer the question I want another one or two but will wait a couple more years (IUD in since Aug 2009) before "trying".

Aww Nicci, it is different for everyone. I mean I am not saying that people shouldn't have kids before marriage or right away. I was just speaking what is right for ME, ya know? I always like to look at pictures of your girl and yes I can tell that you guys are a family oriented couple :-)

We are planning to start trying in about 6 month... maybe less

Thanks Megan :-) I'm pretty much smitten with her haha

FWIW I wasn't singleing you out for bashing someone haha just a bunch of stuff got thrown in the direction of certain individuals. I think that if you are ready to have kids have them. If you aren't then wait.

Amen :-)

We're both 27.....waiting approx. 4 months to afford a honeymoon (snce we have NEVER taken a trip together) and after that we'll be trying...both baby-obsesed, both stable...is the right time for us....we've already waited years to be married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Sharon....I swear you don't look a day over 32....no jokes!!

Awww Future Mrs Johnson I think it's adorable that you picked a name