Planning for baby after wedding?

FH wants to wait til he's 26, He's turning 23 this august. I, on the other hand, can't wait to have kids, but I'm respecting his wishes with him wanting to wait.

We are trying right after. I can't wait and prayyyyyy all the time that it works out for us.

I promised FH atleast 5 years after the wedding before we have kids. We both agree that I need to be finished with school in in a secure job before we have kids, and he wants to be out of his 20's. He will be 25 and I'll be 21 when we get married, so 5 years later will put him at 30 and me at 26, i think thats the prefect age!

@Lynley O. thats how old we will be when we get married. I will be 26 he will be 30. I think its deff a perfect age to start.

Oh, I could never wait 5 years! My gracious... I want kids more than anything. I never had dreams of a career, or traveling... I've had dreams of barbie bandaids, and grass stains. Lol. I LOVE kids.

We're thinking of waiting 3-5 years. I was kinda getting baby fever, but then we got a dog. As much as I love him, he changes EVERYTHING about our lives! It really put the baby thing into perspective, since a baby is even more responsibility.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but you're quite young, right? Of course you have to do what's right for you, but I suggest waiting. Enjoy being young and going out to bars and stuff. You can be a mother in a few years. Just MHO.

My parents were both 35 when I came along and I've noticed that it makes things harder on them sometimes... because, while they're financially secure for having waited, they prefer quiet more and don't like being as active as other younger parents.

I kind of want to make sure I have kids younger than they did... so that my kids can have their grandparents around for longer, but at the same time... I want to have a house at the least. So the FH and I are shooting for three years or so. That should give us plenty of time to get settled and get a home started as long as we're careful with money and don't go crazy.

We are waiting at least a year before talking about it and then willsee where we are financially! FH starts a new job Monday making a lot more money and we will buying a house and all that, so kids won't work for us right away. Besides, I am still pretty selfish and want to get over that before factoring in another life.

We have one, and I'll be honest I didn't realize until yesterday when I possibly thought I could be pregnant (nauseous ) that I really really want another one! FH wants two more, but I only want one more. I would really like a little boy, and I'm hoping that we conceive in the next couple of months. We did things kind of backwards, first came baby then came marriage. lol

But our daughter is 4 and a half and we don't want there to be much more of an age gap between our kids. I'm kind of regretting there is already going to be such a big gap.

I am going to start trying right away but I'm 27 and FH is 29. He will be 31 and I 28 when we get married. But you are soooo young you have lots of time to have a baby. I dont know how old your FH is but dont rush things. Babys put a huge stress on relationships and fiances. I would give it at least a year before you start trying. I just know alot of people that have had babies young and they love their children to death but really wish they had waited!

I want to have the 4 I want before I'm 30. I want to have two fairly close together... wait till they can feed and dress themselves, and then have two more fairly close together.

I'm 33 and he's 35, and we're starting sooner rather than later once we're married. Sure, it would have been better in some ways to have kids in our 20s, but we didn't know each other back then!

I would have a conversation wiht your doctor, and then do what's right for you as a couple.

Our original plan was to get married in 2011, and wait a year before TTC, but since it looks like it will be 2012, we will probably start right after the wedding! We have been together for 11 years, so we don't need to wait and get to know each other more.

Ok ladies.....I'm freaking out a little.....I'm over a week late and took a test and it was negative...that was last weekend.....but I STILL havent started. if I was to be pregnant, the wedding it only 2 months AFTER the baby.....I dont know if I could do it....

We are both 33 and talked about having 2 kids. For him, he wants to wait cause he still wants to play.....for me my Clock iS TICKING....he has no clue.....

We want to wait a few years to engage married life before children. I work with babies everyday so i know the stress it has on a marriage and all and I want be as ready as we can be before that step. Also we want my fh to have graduated college and have a stable job before having a child. I think sometimes people have children as a status thing, to dress up and be able to say they have children. I used to work in a daycare and saw this all the time. I want to have children and be able to be with them all the time and for my fh and I to raise them and no one else. We choose to have these children, we want to be the ones to raise them. Sorry for the long answer. We would love to have 2 children and ideally a boy and girl, we both are from two children families with a boy and girl.

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Jennifer- Are you on any birth control? I wouldn't worry too much as you took a test last week, and it was negative. Sometimes when we stress, we can miss a period. Maybe testing this week will ease your mind.

We want to wait a few years after were married to have kids. We want to enjoy out time together before the craziness of kids.

I wanna wait. He doesn't...LOL

@Jass - I'm not on birth control (drives me bonkers!), but we use condoms. I know this is totally TMI....sorry!

It probably IS a lot of stress with wedding planning, moving, selling my house, and work crap going on.... I *hope* that I'm not preggers cause I really want my dream wedding to happen....but either way, I will be happy. :-)

Send me some period vibes!!!! hahahahah!!!!!