Planning for baby after wedding?

We're waiting a year to start TTC (although, truth be told, I want to conceive in October so I can have a July baby so I'll probably go off my BC in September). I'm 27 and he's 24 so I'm definitely more ready than he is, but I'm also kind of getting cold feet about it. Anyway, we know we want two.

Well my fh and i are trying to get a house right now....so with the wedding 2 weeks away, and that expense soon to be out of the way, we are going to look for houses more aggresively. Once we are settled down and comfortable with our mortgage instead of rent, then we are going to start trying Im super excited. I think i want 1 for now

We are planing on trying next year a couple months after the wedding. Its hard because it will be my second year of teaching at a new school. We would like to try and conceive so that I can have the baby the following summer when school is out, though I don't know how well that will go. I was thinking about waiting a year but I've already been with him for 11 years, so its like we are practically married already. I'm going to be 27 next year and he will be 30. We already enjoy spending so much time together, I feel like we are ready for that next step.

I want at least 1..lol after one we'll play it by ear..I'm not sure when we'll start trying...I hope soon..I have baby fever..

FH and I are ready to have kids now--we've been together for 8 years and want kids. HOWEVER, as much as I understand that there is no RIGHT time to have kids, it is not the RIGHT time for US to have kids. For one, we still live in an apartment and I would like to be in a house before we have kids and I want to have my lisensure as a licensed clinical social worker before I have kids (it's a hard test!) so we'll probably wait at least 2-3 years after getting married to have kids. FH wants to start trying ON THE HONEYMOON, but I told him that we need to wait until we are financially stable and okay to have children. I'm 25 now and he's 23 so we'll be almost 30. BUT, I think that it's better to be an older parent when you are more financially stable as well as mentally ready. My parents had me when they were 22/23 and they were no where NEAR ready to have kids--they should have enjoyed their youth.

We are waiting for at least 4 or 5 years if at all... I'll be 24 and he'll be 26 when we get married and I'm so not ready for kids... No offense to anyone but I want to enjoy just being married for a while, I want to travel, would love to live abroad, and all of that is tough with a husband let alone a baby!!! FH wanst to do all those things too so it would be way fun to do them together!!! My parents have friends who don't have kids and they take these amazing vacations every year, and I so want to be like that! But we do want kids, and I'd like to have them before I'm 30, cuz I don't want to be pushing 55 with a kid still in high school... and then I still have plenty of good years when my kids are grown up to travel still!!! but we'll see, what ever happens, happens...

We will probably wait about a year...maybe a little longer. FS has an adorable daughter and we have full custody so I am already a mom...but I want to wait until we build our bank account up a little bit so I can stay home for a bit after the baby.

Ok, I know that I am an old fogie here, but we plan on start trying on our honeymoon. FI is 45 and I'm 44 and as my ob/gyn says, "my eggs aren't getting any younger!"

I have a 12 year old from a previous marriage but FI has no kids and I couldn't resist when he asked. My daughter is very excited and is hoping for a baby sister, so is FI too. I just want a healty baby.

I was married 7 years before we had Sara and those 7 years were the most amazing time...enjoy some time alone first. it will be a very long time before you can just head out together without a babysitter, or sleep late on sundays and just snuggle.

One more thing, think of the baby ..is it the best time to have one when you're not stable financially or are still in school? i think it's better for you and the baby when you don't have money/school worries. it's fun to go from wedding to baby, but enjoy your marriage for a while!

He wants to wait 5 years after the wedding so we will start trying in 2016(in his wishes) he will be 27 and ill be 25....i dont want to wait that long the longest i want to wait to even TRY is 3 years. however i would like to just play it by ear and whenever it happens it happens. we both want 2 biologically and adopt one. or have one and adopt one...i just have always wanted to adopt.

I agree with sharon. I'm 22 and have tons of friends my age with kids and even more than one child in some cases. its harder when your young to finish school with kids and money seems to always be a problem. I personally want to finish school and get settled into a career (mostly so we can be financially stable, not because I've always dreamed of a career). I've always wanted to be a mom as well but I want to be financially responsible and be able to provide for my kids without having to worry about money. and I always thought I wanted children younger, but being with my FS has changed my mind. I love our life together, and personally I want to enjoy it being just us for a while. I finish school in 2 years and we will probably wait another 2-3 years to have children. I'll be around 27 and FS will be around 31. I don't think that's old. and people say they don't want to be 50 with a highschooler, but I say why not? 50 isn't old at all. we want 2 kids max..I'd pull my hair out with 4 lol

I agree with Sharon as well. I don't even think it is old to have kids in 30s or 40s because we live way longer now than ever. Heck my mom is 45 and Sharon is in her 40s, they are GORGEOUS!!!! They don't even look like in 40s. 40s is like the new 20s. My parents had me at age 20, from being married at age 19 and I saw how they struggled with providing things for me and my brother and my parents had to work a lot and be in night school as well. Everyone in my family had kids way too young and I always wonder why. I just think it is a good suggestion to enjoy the married life for a few years then have kids. You can always have kids later, freeze your eggs or can always adopt :-) It is never too late, until 50s :-p. It is so important to focus on your marriage for first few years then have kids, because you can't have alone time much for more than 20 years if have more than one child. Cont

I seen first time parents in 30s and 40s, WOW they are so in great shape, they have great paying jobs, they are college grads, have a nice house. They are able to provide everything for their children and they wanted to wait until they success for everything then have kids. I really like that. It inspires me to finish college first, have a good career, get a townhouse with my FS, and pay off all the debts then think about having children.

I am 37. I had me first at 20 and second at 30. This time around it will be difficult. I have to go through the procedure of having what I feel the worst decision I made in my life reversed in hopes of having a child with my FH. Wish us luck.

FH & I are. My next depo shot is due October 7 & I'm not getting it. We want a baby ASAP.

I had my daughter at 21, she is now 4 years old. We plan on bringing a souvinear home from our honeymoon. We are planning on getting pregnant on or after the honeymoon. My frist daughter was very premature so the next one is a risky business , but I don't want to have a big age difference.

Hopefully by the time I have the next one I will be 27 and my honey bunny will be 29 so I guess thats a good age.

I just graduated from college (math teacher) and have a job already! We also have a Condo and two nice cars, so next step is marriage then baby! lol (backwards)

The idea of being pregnant terrifies me. So even though he is 33 and I am 25 we'll wait at least a year and a half before trying

We are waiting to start trying until I'm 28 which works out perfectly for us. I'll be 25 1/2 when I finish my undergrad and master's and I want to be working full-time for at least 2 years. I'll be 23 1/2 when we get married, so we will end up being married for 4 1/2-5 years before we start trying.

I am hoping that my daughter waits at least four years before thinking of having a child. That would make her 30.

My parents had me when they were 38 and 49. Never stopped them for a moment. My mother is still a "young soul". My father passed away, cancer, when he was 81. Until then, he golfed 18 holes daily. Age is in the mind.

There are two things to think about....what the couple truly wants...and the big one...what they can afford. Children are expensive.

In my opinion (please do not ream me for this as it is MY opinion), people should wait to have children until they are financially sound and ready...not just because it sounds like fun to have a baby.