Parents, are you offended at Adults Only receptions?

I dont find it offensive at all.... between me and FH we have 5 kids.... they are going to be a part of our wedding, but we are not inviting any other children! if we were invited to a reception i wouldnt bring my children anyways because youre right it would be nice to have a night out with just me and hubby! but once dinner is over at our reception our children are going home with a sitter... i honestly dont feel that kids should be at those kinds of events because this is not only a special time for the newly weds, but also alcohol may be a factor and children should not be around that... i think you are doing the right thing =) your cousin will understand. well should understand... good luck!

and ending a friendship over their children not being invited is a bit rediculous!

My cousin is mad Im doing the same thing, only the children invited to be in the wedding are allowed to stay. She is mad but I cant care. Her kids are evil as well. I see it as 2 less people to feed

My friends with children havent asked to bring their kids. Most of them look at weddings as an excuse to party without their kids:0) Dont think of it as being rude, it's your day!!!

Um I would totally not be offended. I would kill for a few hours alone with my man!!!

We've been to two weddings since she was born and we didn't take her with us to either (and they were kid-friendly) weddings. We don't live near family but the weddings were both back in our home state. We drove an extra 40 minutes to drop her off at my mother's the one time just so we could go and enjoy a little "us" time.

I do understand though that some people don't have the option of getting a baby sitter and that's hard, but instead of getting mad, I would ask the bride and groom for suggestions - maybe they knew people in the area that they trusted and they could watch the kids. I don't know - but there's no reason to get pissed at someone because they choose an adult-only reception!

I don't find it offensive at all. I don't feel that a wedding reception where alcohol is likely being served is a place for my children personally. We are having children but not by my choice. This is one of the areas that I compromised in. I didn't want children there but then I got the whole "well if they can't bring their kids so and so won't come" from FMIL and she laid the guilt on FH which in turn .... well you get the jist ... Ugh!!! Personally I don't want to be responsible for any damages done by ill behaved children.

My parents were mad that i said we are not having children. They said children are part of the process. No a wedding is for grown folks. then my dad said people who have kids won't come because they don't have a babysitter. Well what did they do if they needed a night out. They got a babysitter right.

We had 67 including FH and I on the list. We wanted 60. I am down to 54. i am okay in case his mom want to invite her friends. The only people under the age of 18 is my future kids. They are 16 and 13. My cousin aka MOH has kids their age but

we can't afford to have them come.

I will say that the only children that will be there are the children in my wedding party that consists of my daughter and my two god daughters and the children of out of town guests. When I say out of town, I mean guests who are traveling a long distance. Driving 20 minutes up the highway is not out of town to me. For instance, my FH's sister will most likely bring her daughter because she is flying in. She may leave her with her father. Who knows.

As a parent, no I have never been offended of the no kids policy

I myself enjoy a night out all dressed up without my kids.

As a parent, I'd opt to not bring the kids even if they were invited. A reception is really not interesting to them. They can't stay out late with us and we'd have to leave early. A night out alone with my fiancé is like gold. We don't think partying in front of them is a great idea.

We are only having 7 children at our wedding. This includes:

- my 2 stepsons

- flower girl

- the flower girl's little sis

- an out-of-town 2 yr old (coming with her single parent)

- a 3 yr old boy that has Cystic Fibrosis and should be with his parents

- an out-of-town 2 yr old with Cerebral Palsy and should be with her parents

If people find offense in you not wanting to have children, whether it's a cost, space, or personal issue (which is no one's business anyways), then they can opt to not come. It's as simple as that. This day is about *you and your partner*. Pleasing everyone is not on the menu. You've put a lot of work and thought into all of this.

As a parent I am not offended by the fact someone doesn't want my child at an event. Although I think he is my precious angel(sacarstic) others my not think so. I think every parent need adult time without the children. I too tried to have an adult only wedding FH flipped he thinks it's rude not to invite children other than the ones not in the BP. I went ahead and added them on the guest list but highly doubt there will be many. Miss Tattoo even some OOT guest are happy to come without their children. I'm waiting to see how my FSIL plans to transport her ALL of her children from Chicago to TN. It can get pretty pricey.

Nope!!! Love a good time without kids.

Not at all! Like the others said, I enjoy going out without the kids every once in a while. Plus I'd rather leave the kids at home where they will have fun and do stuff they like rather than drag them to what they think will be some boring adult party.

My girlfriend and her husband's wedding was Adult Only and I wasn't offended at all. But I hadn't intended on bringing my son anyway. The reception was to go late into the night. I knew he'd enjoy time with his godparents and I would enjoy adult company. Our wedding will also feature an adult only reception and so far the negative reactions have been minimal.

Nothing offends me. So no.

Im having an all adult wedding the only child there is FH's 9 yr old daughter. All my friends have kids and they were not offended at all...

If its local, heck no! If I've travelled and then have to find child care for my kids in an unfamiliar place, or for a weekend, thats an issue. If that was the case, it would be nice if you provided a sitting service, or at least a list of prescreened sitters.

Not a parent, but my parents always told me that weddings were not a place for children as we were growing up. The first one my sister I went to I think we were 13 and 10 and then it was someone who mentored us on a daily basis and she was having an EXTREMELY kid friendly wedding (we freaking ended up playing croquet on the lawn as well as lawn darts).

Well I found someone who would be offended. People have to pay to travel to a wedding and they can't bring the kids apparently won't come. This is coming from my cousin aka MOH. Plus your wedding is the weekend before July 4th weekend.

Well I put on there Adult Reception only. She will be mad when i tell her her can't come because I don't have the room.

Madge-I wouldn't stress about it. You can either allow very far oot guests to bring their children or you don't. There is no reason to stress out about it. I'm only allowing people who have to actually travel to bring their children if they want. If they are local, they need to treat it as a night out with their spouse/SO/etc. and leave the kids with someone else.

The way I look at it is, if they want to be there, then they will find a way. If not, then I tell them that I'm sorry and that I was hoping to see them.

I'm not a parent but I almost lost my best friend (and MoH) because we had an adult only wedding. She was more than highly offended because she cannot understand why ANY place would be inappropriate for children.