Parents, are you offended at Adults Only receptions?

"As a parent, I'd opt to not bring the kids even if they were invited. A reception is really not interesting to them. They can't stay out late with us and we'd have to leave early. A night out alone with my fiancé is like gold. We don't think partying in front of them is a great idea."

^^ I also very strongly agree with THAT. I wouldn't bring him at this point even if he was invited, unless it were a close family member's wedding. Maybe once he hits his teenage years, but IMHO an 11 month old has no place at a wedding, and I would love a night to regain my I'm-a-woman-and-a-wife-not-only-a-mom sanity. They are few & far between these days.

We are fortunate enough to not have many young kids in the family, and our friends have not begun to have kids yet either. The only young kids will be our flower girl and ring bearer (6 and 3) and my younger cousins will be 11 and older at that point. They were all very well behaved and had a blast at my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary reception and that was 4 years ago, so I'm not worried at all. I totally agree that parents should not find it offensive that their kids are not invited. Parents need time to themselves anyways, and this is a reason to do it! They can find babysitters for other reasons, why should this be any different? I get that a babysitter can be expensive, but again, they pay them for other reasons. If it really puts a strain on the parents financially, don't go for the whole evening, just a few hours, and cut back a little on the wedding gift!

Honestly, when my daughter was little, if we received an adult only invitation, we accepted.

Personally, I HATE having an event, such as a wedding with children. Hate, hate, hate it.

If you want an adult only reception, go for it. Do not let anyone pressure you in to allowing kids.

@Future Mrs.Covington: I agree with you 100%. People who don't have children often underestimate the difficulty of going out without them--especially if they are breastfeeding, the wedding is out of town, the children have special needs, etc. It's the couple's right to have an adults-only wedding, but it is not the couple's right to judge those who choose not to attend if they cannot bring their kids.

Are we suppose to feel sorry for you or bad that you could not come up with a sitter to go to a wedding? Nope don't think so. If you want to include kids in your wedding then thats on you. Noone should get mad if the couple doesn't want kids there and noone should get mad if the people with kids don't show up.

Well, I am having children at my wedding only because I feel like adult weddings should be all or nothing....either NO kids or all kids, and I have two toddlers myself as well as young cousins that i am really close to so I really couldn't say no kids since mine would be there....on the flip side, when FH and attend any future weddings- we will be leaving them at home!!! Lol....I enjoy my time alone with my man just as much as our family time....BOTH ARE IMPORTANT...@Princess, just a word of advice in response to you saying you can't relate to people saying that they need a break from their children sometimes because you never get one... it is healthy and necessary to get away with your partner and only your partner in order to cultivate that relationship an keep it in tact...your marriage is the nucleus of your household. My FH and I make it a point to go on mini trips BY OURSELVES in order to do so...it doesn't mean that we are bad parents, it means that we know that if WE fall apart

Cont: our family as we know it falls apart

Thanks 2dbride...I'm glad you understand my point!

I would never be offended if someone couldn't come because they couldn't bring their child. I would be offended if they tried to convince me to let the child come or some with the child anyway.

I come a family that likes having children at weddings in moderation. My very first event childcare gig actually happened because my older sister had a two year old needing care during my BIL's sister's wedding and reception. My nephew was needed for family photos and such. That set the tone for how all my siblings and now adult nieces and nephews believe, which is in childcare. We have had babysitters in church nurseries, relatives homes, hotels, etc. I can say as someone who is a vendor related to this topic I don't care for unruly kids at weddings too, and wish their would get "IT". Meaning don't bring the kids if they can't behave, or you can't keep an eye on them, and or respect caregivers who are hired to control your ahem Angels.