Parents, are you offended at Adults Only receptions?

I wouldn't be offended but if I cant find a sitter I would put no in my invite. Like my FH friend got married and she said no kids. I had no sitter. My son was only 8 months. I told them we might not go cause we had no sitter. They told me a yr advance they wanted us to let my mom know but from that time to their wedding day anything could happened. Like I was supose to work 3 weeks ago and my mom got sick and could take care of my son. My FH friends wife got pissed called my FH behind my back and her husband back saying if we have no sitter to leave me home with the baby and my FH goes by himself. I didnt tell her anything till she came bac from the honeymoon. I found that rude. Like I understand the seating but my son was still months he didnt need a plate. She said it was a wedding and I told her I dont care it was still rude. Then she said if I wanted to bering my son so bad to give her 300 dollars umm why if my son wouldnt eat he was still in baby food.

I wasn't mad about the no kids but I wouldnt leave my son is the side trash can for anyone. Thats why I told her we wouldn't go. put no but then FBIL gf mother offered to babysit so FH called his friend and said we were def going. If you say no kids you also have to know if they got a sitter as well cant expect them to drop their kid in the sidewalk for you.

My son is the only baby. Most of my friends have kids but they are single so they leave the kids to the father while they go out clubbing. Most of my friends said they are not bringing their kids so they could enjoy themselves. So there would be no problems. I wouldnt mind kids. Only my son my FG and my little brother would be with us.

I agree with pp's, a wedding really isn't a place for children. Fh has 2 daughters that I love dearly, and there is no way we would bring them to a wedding, invited or not. Fh and I don't drink, it's not even about that. It's just nice to go out, have a (hopefully) nice meal, talk to family/friends, and not have to worry about the kids.

We are kind of doing the opposite of most people. We are having a private ceremony with just our immediate families, which the kids will be a huge part of. Our ceremony will be all about us coming together as a family, not just the two of us. We'll do a small dinner with just us and celebrate with them and our parents. However, for the reception, which is a different day, we're actually not having the kids there. A wedding reception is no place for children. We love them, but we just don't feel it's their place. They will have already celebrated with us, they don't need to again.

We are letting other people bring their kids. Most will choose not to, since it's a great excuse to get out without the kids. Also, most of the kids that will be invited are going to be barely toddlers, and they are kids of close friends that I adore. While I would prefer everyone leave their kids at home, I'd rather everyone be able to come and have to deal with a few kids than exclude people who can't find sitters. In most situations though, that isn't really doable, and I have never been offended when people don't invite the kids.

My friend who got married in Sept told me no kids I asked my sister in adance to take care of my son. If I know I have no one to watch my son I would say no and the person who invites cant get mad cause they have to understand the situation. Some people pay baby sitter 10 dollars an hr which is crazy cause 6 hrs is 60 dollars which its a waste of money. I never had a sitter and never ill pay a stranger. I rather just not go if I have no one to watch my son.

I would completely understand the ceremony cause kids run around and scream and cry. I know my son would be running around. I only been to 3 weddings.. My FH friends wedding actually just reception cause I had no one sit my son for the ceremony. My FSIL which my father sat my son. We left during the 10 mins ending of the ceremony and the beginning of reception. My friends wedding which my sister took care of my son thru the night.

I wouldn't end a friendship just cause of that. Thats ridiculous. Is there money spend so why would I get mad just the fact if I have no sitter than I wouldn't go and if they are your friend they shouldn't get mad but understand why you're not going

As a parent I wouldn't be offended if it was truly an adults only wedding. I think it may give me pause for me not to be able to bring my son but to see other children allowed. I may take that to mean my child is not allowed. I wouldn't end a friendship over it, would just simply say no.

Where we are having the wedding finding a sitter is not a possibly. Kids plates are expensive and they probably wont eat it. We want to have a great time. Not be worried about some 9 year having a fit because they are bored or a teenage with a stink face because they really didn't want to be here but was dragged. Wedding are for adults. So way I will make someone mad but my dad said that it is your day. Someone who don't like they don't have to come. I am sending save the dates and invitations way before you are suppose to. Reason for parents to make their own arrangements for baby sitting. I can't afford them. That is the truth.

Madge your wedding may be for adults only but others of us are planning to have kids and believe a wedding is a family affair ( including kids). If someone wants an adults only wedding that's their right. No problem with it. Just don't be offended if some people choose not to come. Just as you have your reasons for not inviting children they will have theirs for not coming. It's a budget saver! Lol

Love a good time with out my kids.

Good point Future Mrs.Covington. I wouldnt go if I have no sitter point blank. I am not paying a sitter to go to a your wedding like if you are in tight budget and cant offord the kids same as parents. We cant afford a sitter for a wedding. IMO its just me. I wouldn't leave my kid to a complete stranger for anyones wedding dont matter if its a family or friend. Who ever is inviting cant get mad that respond came back with mostly nos cause thats when the understandings suppose to come. You might have kids but I myself am a parent and I can honestly say I dont go out like that. No party, No club or No bar with FH. Im very deicated to my parenthood. I dont pay sitters or leave my son to friends or fam to go out to drink like that. So I cant relate to people who say I need a night to myself cause I never get those.

Nope I don't have kids but for the life of me I never understood why some people get offended especially if they are not paying for the wedding and if they were told far in advance that no kids are allowed.

I'm not a parent but yes I probably would be very offended ... I only say this because weddings cost money and if I have to travel overnight for it, no way would I want to leave my children with some babysitter over night ... I feel children should always be invited to weddings ... I had a ton of kids at our wedding and honestly we had no problems with them ... They sat with their parents (my cousins), were given sparkling grape juice in place of champagne ... I made goodie bags for them and I made sure every song, dance move and thing that was said at the wedding was kid friendly ... The kids had a blast and at the last family gathering they all said auntie Amy (some just don't understand so I let it go) your wedding was so fun ... They were all well behaved and not one kid was running recklessly ...

@Soon B Mrs. B it's not getting offended of inviting your kid or paying the part theres no sitter. Even if its advance. My FH friend told me a yr in advance I called my mother right in front of her face and put on speaker cause I told her who knows if my mom could and she then said well its a yr advance as I told my mom she then she its a yr from now who knows what Ill be doing. Even that day of my FH friends wedding my mother went to Maryland to stay with my cousins. So my FH friend got upset cause I said we had no sitter as she called my FH saying I could stay with my kid while he goes and comes home late umm NO. She then suggested a sitter well is she paying for my sitter nope so she couldn't talk. I want kids in my wedding so my son could play. I wanted yo get fake swords for the boys and tiaras for the girls. Once I find a venue and set a date I have to check for pricing. Even if the kids dont eat theres a kids menu as I remember one of my gms was about to get married and his

Engagement party he order chicken nuggets with fries for the kids and apple juice he included to kids and for the adults this fancy meal but then he broke his engagement before the planning started. It all depends on money and if cant afford for the kids you have to view as well your guest with kids and not act like a complete jerk and say well dont come then or its my wedding.

I get that some people think weddings are family events, but I don't see it that way. I rarely see any of the kids in my family and if I invited all of them, I would have 50 extra people there. I'm sorry, but my closest friends being there are more important than Little Susie. If the parents are offended and can't come, I'm not going to be angry about it. I will understand because some parents cannot leave their kids with someone else and that's understandable. I would hope that they would RSVP quickly so I can invite someone else.

You don't have to be sorry that you would rather have your friends there then family. Your footing the bill so you get to decide who comes and in turn they get to decide if they want to come. I would hope all guests would RSVP quickly as I consider that offensive!

Lol because if I had to choose between 3 of my demonic cousins and some coworkers that I can't stand, I would choose the coworkers.

Ms. Tattoo i WISH there was a like button for your last two comments!!! <3

So here's a question when it's an adult only reception shouldn't that mean exactly that? NO KIDS?