Only three days left...

Are you saying you dont want to marry him period? are you sureits not cold feet?

Ummmm....

I have so many mixed feelings. I don't know if its cold feet or not seeing that I've been having these feelings for a few weeks to a month.

Just trying to understand better. What do you mean that he's never attentive?

Ya i am curious about that too. if hes not attentive now, that is what you will hvae for the rest of your life.

Just because when I tried talking to him about planning this wedding he was like whatever I want. The only input he had was on the his and his boys attire.

I think we need a little more info here.

ETA: You commented before I did. Well.. that's totally normal. Guys usually don't care about wedding things and would rather see the bride happy. DH didn't even care about the men's attire.

How long was your engagement?

Your #1 concern shouldn't be wedding crashers or your face breaking out... it should be that you don't feel like your FH isn't attentive to your needs and feelings.

How old are you? Cause you look super young. I'm just curious. If you're like 22 and having these feelings I would definitely tell you to wait.

I second what Snarky said.

I would need more information to go on but I'd sit back, have a glass of wine (or whatever your drink of choice is), and then reassess the situation. Do you have someone professional doing your makeup? She (or he) could probably find a way to cover that up... Is FH's family planning the RD? If so, call them and let them deal with finding a new spot.

Im lucky that my FH has opinions about the wedding (but not enough to cause conflict lol).

I thin its normal for guys to not care. If you would move out over that, maybe marraige isnt for you.

He was totally all about me and our relationship before he proposed and once he did, its like his feelings hit an off switch. We've been engaged 8 months now. I don't care that he didn't care about the planning process. It's like his body is there but his mind and emotions are somewhere else.

I'm almost 28 this month

Can you take a moment to be alone? Breathe, shut everything out for a little bit. Do you mean it has felt as though he hasn't cared for you, for your entire engagement?

Have y'all done any premarital counseling? If you truly don't feel that getting married is right, don't do it. If you're at the point of wanting to move out, there are clearly some major issues.

Don't make any sudden decisions though. Sit back and relax. Calm down and think. Is it cold feet? Is it true concern that he doesn't care? Have you tried to talk to him?

Maybe its jitters because its so so close and maybe its my anxiety getting the best of me. I just really wish that I could get it together. Because he said to me the other day that he felt that I have changed since we have been engaged and I told him that I feel the same. His number one complaint to me is that we barely see each other anymore due to our work schedules and that my boys are in sport activities so we both take turns going. I don't feel that I have changed at all. I feel that the love is still there but the feeling of intimacy is lingering off into a far far distance.

How long have you been together and lived together? Do you think its just wedding stuff or has he been turned off all together? There is a difference of not caring about wedding things and not caring about you.

ETA: saw your comment after I posted. If intimacy is already far away you should definitely have a conversation or go to counseling. Is there any way you can postpone the wedding for a few months. I don't recommend getting married if you both have voiced concerns about each other changing.

I think you should take a deep breath and maybe step away from the wedding stuff for a few minutes. Just gather you thoughts and really take some time to calm down. It sounds like there is a lot going on right now and the stress will only make your breakout worse. Is he not attentive at all? Or just in respect to wedding things? You said the switch turned off, what is he doing? ETA: saw your comment above mine