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Savvy October 2020

October bride here!

Samantha, on May 5, 2020 at 3:29 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 4

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Hello!

We are supposed to get married in Wisconsin on 10/16/2020. I have most of my big vendors picked out but have totally stopped planning. I honestly could care less if we don’t have the fluff that I once wanted. I truly wanted a violinist and like crazy decorations but I got over that real fast and kind of like a “less is more” wedding vibe. Plus I think guests will understand if the wedding happens this year.

We do have a backup plan and all our vendors are doing a soft hold on our date for 9/4/2021 without losing money or paying more (so happy about!) BUT either way I want to get married this year just because I would be so upset if someone in my family passed if we waited a whole year (our grandparents mean the world to us). So We were gonna get married up north at my cabin this year and if there are restrictions we would just have parents and grandparents. (He has 5 siblings who are all married so we couldn’t do siblings). But if we don’t have restrictions I was gonna do parents. Grandparents. Siblings and bridal party. Is that too much too ask of people? To go to two of our weddings??? We wouldn’t have catering or like anything. Just a small wedding by the lake at sunset, and the order pizza and have drinks afterward. Maybe get some chairs and tables order. But not sure. I would be fine with just doing that but we love our vendors and wanna do the big wedding with everyone too! Let me know your thoughts!

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Latest activity by Amy, on May 7, 2020 at 5:12 PM

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Morgan · on May 5, 2020 at 3:49 PM
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I think that’s an awesome idea!!😊 If the bridal party wants to come/can come to the smaller one great, if not just keep it family!!
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Emly · on May 5, 2020 at 4:18 PM
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I'm in Minnesota and from my understanding MN and WI are very similar with our COVID numbers and situation just in general. I honestly think in these areas your October date will be totally fine, but then again who really knows. We had to cancel or big June wedding and are planning to do a vow renewal next June. Instead of the big celebration this year we are doing as you suggested, parents, grandparents, siblings and bridal party - this will put us at about 25 guests which I think will be an appropriate amount for our area.
Long story short - I do think your October date will be ok, but if you are not comfortable with that big of a gathering then I think your smaller version (with Siblings included) would be perfectly fine. I don't think its too much to ask them to come to two celebrations, after all they are your family!
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Kelsey · on May 5, 2020 at 5:09 PM
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Fellow WI bride here. My wedding is scheduled for September. I am not postponing. I think by then things are going to be much better. A lot of the music fests in WI were we rescheduled to August and September. So I'm feeling good about the date. I think you will be totally fine for October!
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Amy · on May 7, 2020 at 5:12 PM
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Hi Samantha,
I think your back-up plan sounds lovely! It's not too much at all in my opinion. This is a crazy time, and I'm confident that your friends and family will celebrate with you on the day(s) of your choosing. The people who matter will show up.
There are several ongoing discussions on the subject of having two events (ceremony now, reception later OR elopement now, full wedding later). Check these out:
Covid-19: Marriage now, wedding later?
Covid19 Brides still getting married on original date?
Small ceremony now, big wedding later
Etiquette in the time of coronavirus?
I'm Eloping because of Covid-19.. can i still do all of the traditional events?
Plus, here's a couple of other discussions with October brides:
October 2020 Weddings - Where are your heads at?!
October 2020 Brides
I'm wishing you the best of luck!
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