Ok - here's another thought. If we say screw it, and get married in a small civil ceremony on our original date or the weekday before, I am under the impression that if we postpone the big wedding reception to say hypothetically 9 months down the road, it becomes a "celebration of marriage" instead of a wedding ceremony. A celebration of marriage ceremony is NOT a wedding reception however.
I wanted all the traditional things - walking down the aisle with a veil, first look, bridesmaids, recitation of our own vows (which wouldn't be done in the small ceremony, just traditional), toasts, first dance, etc.
I'm afraid if we do the small ceremony, all of those traditional things go out the window, as i am no longer a "bride."
I have read that this is what etiquette dictates, and my mother seems to agree. But do you think it's possible that my family should cut me some slack given the fact that while I choose to get married anyway, the way in which I celebrated it was postponed due to something far beyond my control?
I've also read that I should throw etiquette to the wind and do what I want.
I mean - this is a pandemic - an international crisis - if we have to postpone the big ceremony again I'm afraid I won't be able to handle that, but at least we would be married. Am I wrong?
I feel like I'd be punished for getting married when we feel it is right, and then at the same time, miss out on all the traditional bridal things.
Even if we postponed the big reception, it wouldn't be the same to me at all, esp. in the beautiful wedding gown I was supposed to wear, which to me, screams tradition. (I am wearing a simple lace sheath for the small civil ceremony, as I live on contingencies; if we go forward with the actual big day, I plan to change into the sheath gown for the last few hours of the reception to get some use out of it).
I'm at such a loss, I have no idea what to do here. Does anyone have any thoughts?