Hi everyone!
I got married about a month ago, and am wrapping up my thank you notes (I got a new job that starts next week, so had some time off in the interim and need to wrap this up before it starts). There's a few people, both who attended and who didn't attend, that didn't send a gift or card. I would never expect people to give a gift, especially as some of these are grad students and others traveled quite far, but I'm not sure what to do about those who didn't even want to write us a nice message in a card. I don't want to offend anyone by writing a thank-you for attending note if they're still planning on sending something. What do you think it an appropriate length of time to wait to send these? I was just planning on sending these type of notes notes to a small handful of people who didn't get us a gift but who traveled far for the wedding.
We did get a few cards immediately after our wedding from people who weren't able to make it, but it's been a month now and we haven't gotten any cards for 3.5 weeks. How long after your wedding did gifts and cards trickle in?