Negotiable vs. Non-Negotiable

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Non-negotiable:

Groom

Legally binding ceremony

Me looking fabulous

Great pictures

Having a great time (us and the guests)

Negotiable:

Everything else

Non-negotiable:

groom

cheesecake

under $4500



negotiable:

pretty much everything else... i have had my date changed for me since my moh was the moh of another wedding that day, my fh hated my dream colors, my fh was busy in june so by the time work settles down it will be to late in the year for an out door wedding so my venue changed, my dress wasnt long enough to go with a tux so i changed to a floorlength one, and my cousins cant be bridesmaids bc of a lack groomsmen flying to the wedding location.

Non neegotiable:

formality of the event (VERY formal, black tie optional)

great photographer

great DJ

make up artist/hair stylist

venue

negotiable - everything else

Non-negotiable:

Groom

holy ground

Me - in s SUPER hot dress (but still demure)

family

Great music

lots of dancing

having a honeymoon

Negotiable:

Everything else

Non negotiable:

groom

colors

date

all of my pre-wedding pampering

my mother not being there

wearing a dress i LOVE

having my fav girls in it

me not losing my mind

having a hella good time

negotiable:

just about anything else,but that does not mean that things won't crop up that i also will find non negotiable!!

Non negotiable

groom

our children all present

family there

Being "our" wedding not someone elses ideas

venue size it needs to hold 100 people.

negotiable

pretty much everything else. Due to my low budget I am flexable. My venue just need to hold my guest list.

Non-Negotiable

1. Us

2. Outdoor Ceremony

3. BM's "girls" in check lol

4. GM in Suits-NO tuxes

5. NO DRAMA-violators WILL be bounced!

Negotiable--everything else

Non-Negotiable:

1.) Groom

2.) Where we are having our ceremony

3.) No alcohol present at the wedding

4.) Staying within our budget with how many people are invited.

Negotiable:

Everything else. I mean already we have had the pastor we wanted to marry us tell us he can't cause he had something come up. Still working on securing the officiant. Our church is pretty big though and we have quite a few more people we can ask. And also I had one of my bridesmaids back out. I was able to work with that though. But I just resort to the fact to just take it all in strides and whatever happens happens.

Non-Negotiable:

1. Groom

2. Ceremony venue why it's at my grandparents house

3. Reception venue why it's already booked

4. D.J why they are already booked

5. Photographer why already booked

6. Staying under 200 guests

7. Black and blue table linens

8. Some sort of lights on the ceiling and a lighted backdrop for the head table

9. Having blue in my dress

Negotiable

Pretty much everything else...Though the non-negotiable is subject to change and have more added...LoL...

Non-negotiable:

everything. lol my mom is constatnly going on about how I need to have this this way or that.

Maybe if your mom is giving you a really hard time you could move the custom-made dresses to the negotiable side... that is if she's paying for the wedding. Those cost alot, and you can get some great dresses for alot less than a custom-made dress.

Other than that I don't see why she would have a problem with your list!

Didn't mean to sound like a bridezilla, lol it's just that what she thinks I should have or do is not what I like or is not our style..and I want our wedding to reflect us, not what things shold be according to my mom.

Future Mrs. Schmidt-- I don't think you sound like a bridezilla, ESPECIALLY if you are paying for your own wedding. Not to say I think that because a parent contributes she should control your wedding, but there should be a certain amount of input from all parties who are contributing financially

Non-Negotiable:

Being married in a church

Photographer

DJ

Negotiable:

Everything else. I am very easy going and if something I do or don't do is going to make someone else happy then fine, whatever!

Non-Negotiable:

Groom

Theme

Negotiable:

Everything

What I have picked out for my ceremony decor is absolutely non-negotiable. I want a very specific look and I am not willing to bend.

Having a fabulous gown was my #1 priority and I think I've accomplished that.

Doing a candy buffet. I've pretty much got my heart set on it.

Chair covers for the reception. I guess that falls into my decor.

Everything else I think is negotiable. But maybe I'm not thinking of everything since most of our stuff is already paid for.

The honeymoon I wouldn't care if we didn't take one right away.

Non-negotiable:

Groom

MOH

Great Pictures

Negotiable:

Everything else.

What is a "cry pack?"

@Not-A-Bridezilla: I'm making the bridemaid dresses myself and having a seamstress friend do my dress, so when I say "custom dresses" it's really not that big a deal. I'll be saving a ton of money by doing them myself. And my mom is only paying for the venue and catering (both of which she got a great deal on) so I'm not sure why she's complaining. I'm paying for the rest.

@Heather G.: A cry pack is a little envelope with a bundle of tissues in it for guests who think they might cry. I think it's a sweet idea (and I have a lot of cryers coming) but if time/money don't allow, I can skip it.