My friend has scheduled her wedding to be three days before mine.

Honestly, I would be kinda upset about it too. Just try to do other things to keep your mind off of it for now I guess. Go running, listen to music, take a bubble bath

So you girls are both having weekday weddings?? how close are you?

Concentrate on planning the wedding to the man of your dreams!

Wow yeah that would upset me too! Did she give a reason why there was no other choice. Honestly though I wouldn't worry about it because your letters went out first so ppl are going to pick your wedding if they have to make a choice.

Build a bridge and get over it? It doesn't sound like it was done maliciously from what you've shared. What exactly is it that's bothering you? That she's getting married BEFORE you? Or that hers is so close to yours? Try not to focus on proximity of dates and focus on your friendship. If she is a good friend to you, I am sure you have genuine happiness for her that she's found someone to spend the rest of her life with and even if your schedules won't permit you to attend each other's respective weddings, it'll be an opportunity for the two of you to get together after the weddings, share pictures and swap stories?

She is 12/20, I am 12/23. Luckily she is not doing a Christmas wedding, while I am, so our themes will definately be different.

Wow i would be upset too, but if she says she's sorry and that is the only day that she could get, just try to understand and you guys can help either out. Is she your best friend? and is she in your wedding?

It's because our friends are all in college and during the Christmas time is the best time to have a wedding because everyone will be coming home. I think the thing that is bothering me (and this is going to sound immature) is that I am competitive and if her wedding is better than mine, it will break my heart. If her wedding was after mine and it was better, it wouldn't be a big deal, but it's going to be before, so people will be expecting to see big great things from me, too. Also, she sent out her notices before me, even though I had the date a year or so before her.

It sucks, knowing that she's such a great person and I don't want to be upset with her, but I have these feelings deep down inside that I haven't told anyone else about.

What's upsetting you about this? It could be really wonderful to have someone to share stories, ideas and shopping with. I wish I had someone who was equally into weddings as I am right now.

Go take a nice long bubble bath and calm down your weddings like you said aren't going to be the same so its going to be ok so go get in that tub

I had a friend do this too, although mine will be first and I actually won't be able to attend his because I will be on my honeymoon. Is she going on a honeymoon immediately after her wedding? Or will she still be able to come to yours? Hang in there. They will be completely different. Just focus on yours and how you are marrying the man of your dreams!

I'm sorry but like FMS said, the best thing you can do is plan your wedding and try not to stress about hers.

Oh wow. really? "better" is subjective first of all. everyone has different tastes and what you think is nice may be totally different from what your friend thinks is nice and even if her wedding wasn't the same week, there's still the possibility that someone at your wedding will think it sucks. but here's the thing....WHO CARES? the wedding shoudl be about you and your FH. that's what you should focus on. at the risk of sounding arrogant, i think i have pretty good taste. but that being said i know there's always someone who won't like it or someone who's more polished or has a bigger budget and is willing to spend it. you'll drive yourself insane if you keep going at this rate.

Don't worry about it. Are you in her wedding? If you are, I could see it being a stressful situation. Either way it could be a good thing, my BFF and I have weddings two months apart and we got TONS of discounts by booking together. Two brides are better than one!

Try as much as possible to remind yourself that you're getting married to the man you love, and that's what matters most.

I understand about being competive, but there's no reason to be. everyone's wedding is different. rather it be money or style. just think of it as they day you get to marry the man of your dreams and she gets to marry hers

I kinda know what you're going through. My FS's friends from Chicago are coming in, 1 is the best man & the other just got married in February. The one who just got married had 217 ppl at their wedding. It was really fun, there were sooooooooo many younger people our age there. Our wedding will be mostly "grown-ups". The only people our age will be us, our siblings, few cousins & our friends (all 18 of them... we have more but don't know where any of them went).

My best advice, keep your eye on your own wedding & the million plans which will keep you insane, lol.

@ Unique, I love the capitalization of your name in the last sentence. Cute.

Thanks, guys. All of y'all's advice is great. I guess our weddings will be too different to compare. I'll try not to focus on the negative.

Don't let your competitive spirit ruin your day. You guys are two different people and will have different weddings. Just enjoy your planning and be a support to your friend just as she is to you. Sounds like you have a good friendship so don't let it go to waste over your wedding day. help her with hers if you can and let her do the same for you. Your day will be unique in its own.