My friend has scheduled her wedding to be three days before mine.

WHO WANTS TO GO TO A MONDAY WEDDING!! LOL

You worry about people thinking her wedding is better than yours, well it doesn't matter how much you can or can not spend...It is your style and taste that count. See the link below sit down so you do not fall down laughing.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1081355/The-100-000-white-wedding-16-year-old-girl-lives-caravan.html

Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would karate chop my 16 year old in the throat if she even THOUGHT about stepping foot outside dressed like that! And what's up with the bridesmaid and that set of jugs she has?! Goodness GRIEFNESS!

What in the world is that girl wearing and at ladylee i was thinking the same thing why are all these chicks boobs so big? even the bride her boobs are huge and 16 and dressing like that my mom would have killed me

Ladylee- that is her mom not bridesmaid...the apply doesn't fall far from the tree..

See if you can turn it to a win-win for both of you. Maybe you can go in together on some items you could both use and save some $$ along the way.

Keep in mind that a true friend will only feel happiness for the other.

Seeing all your friends will be home, I can't say I blame her and she did apologize. Yes, it is upsetting, but you can't control what people do. You get a wedding day, not a wedding week. Focus on your wedding and happy for your friend. I am sure she is happy for you.

Well since there is nothing you can do about it now, you can't change her wedding date or yours just plan the wedding the way you want it and dont focus on trying to make yours better.

My Friend is getting married THE DAY AFTER ME! I know how you feel, AND he was supposed to be my dj....soooo he has having a guy he knows do it. hopefully it goes smoothly!

Scandalous! Your friend is. But sweety don't feel bad for how you feel, you have every right to feel as you do. Just like she has every right to plan her wedding any day she feels like. Hmmm what is the mature thing to do, be her friend anyway. Support her as best you can and be excited for her. Obviously you can't be in her wedding because you'll be getting ready for your own so don't even think abou trying. That will ruin your friendship, trust me. But go to her wedding and have a great time. And ask her to come to yours and you guys have a good time. Don't worry about what she's going to do at hers. You ladies are two differernt individuals and each have your own personalities and styles. You can't be each other and each of your personalities will come out in your weddings. So don't worry, trust me, this will work out. As crazy as it is. And YES you do have a right to feel hurt, jealous and also have a right to have your wedding month to yourself.

This is very common when besties get engaged around the same time. Im going through the same thing with one of my MOH. she is engaged and could care less about my wedding really. but its all cool, you just have to understand, its her special time as well. and try not to take it personally.

It's very hard not to feel upset and I truly understand this as I'm having a cousin and my MOH getting married within months of me...but just try to be happy! Focus on your day. I've been trying to help my MOH out as much as possible with her wedding and she's been giving me advice on my wedding. I'm completely cool with the two of us being so close together in getting married. Like the past few comments have said, focus on you and your day...it will be wonderful!

Who cares if her wedding is better than you? All it matters is that you are marrying the One :-) and she seemed like she felt bad to have her wedding few days before you. So please look past it and be happy that you will have someone to talk about wedding 24/7! I am driving my friends crazy about wedding lol.

I did read all that you wrote, but my instant reaction after reading your title is that she is NOT your friend.

There are days I remember why I went to a JOP the first time around! This reminds me of those reasons. I let my fears that my wedding wouldn't be as "good" as so and so's keep me from doing what I wanted to do. It was all about me. Now I realize it's about having that special person in my life. There are always going to be haters who will find fault with whatever you do. It didn't have enough lights, the flowers weren't real, the food wasn't hot enough, the portions were too small. Get what I'm saying. Just enjoy your day and make it what YOU want it to be.

As much as I know that it would upset me too, I would be more hurt by the fact that I wouldn't be able to go to her wedding because people (especially family) would already be in town for mine and I wouldn't be able to get away. Weddings are not competitions. They are a time of celebration and should be remembered for the happiness you will be celebrating. One your wedding day arrives, will it even matter? I think as long as you two can go to each other's weddings everything will be fine.

I totally understand that it how upsetting it would be but you can't compare weddings everyone has a different opinion on that I've been to weddings where I thought what the heck is going on and other people thought it was great and some where I loved it and other thought it was aweful . Make it fun by going shopping together talk fun wedding stuff. And even better while you're shopping you can both pick completely different things that way it will be pretty hard to compare even if anyone tried. Plus you will probably be so concentrated on your man that all that wont matter .

I dealt with something similar although not as difficult. I planned my wedding one month after my H's best friend was getting married. I was very careful to find out everything they were planning and make other plans to not step on the bride's toes. Unfortunately, she and I are not friends so there was no commiserating or planning together. I had to go through the groom to get details (not easy). She and I have very similar tastes and I had to change everything from my flowers, to my colors and choose second on venues. And to be honest, I'm sooo glad we went a completely different route than what I would have chosen if she hadn't chosen it all first. I'm sure she feels she had the more beautiful wedding, and I wouldn't have it any other way. But I was thrilled with the way mine turned out. I wish I could go back and NOT worry SO MUCH!! My advice: let your personality shine through and your wedding will be special in all the important ways. And RELAX! This time will fly! Enjoy it!

Honestly, weddings are not a competitive event. First off, a lot of the guests at the wedding will presumably be your family, and a lot of the ones at her wedding will be her family. Thus, many of the people will not even be able to compare the weddings. Second, a wedding is a celebration of the couple. Hers will reflect her and her FI, and yours will reflect you and your FI. Thus, one is not going to be "better" than the other.

I look back on my brother's wedding a few years ago and mine last year, and I don't know how anyone would have compared them even if they had been a day apart. His had a gorgeous reception venue overlooking the ocean, and a series of musical performances by talented members of both families. Mine was an evening reception with wonderful lighting effects, a professional musician, dancing, and a DIY "photobooth." Even now, as aware of wedding costs as I have become, I would have no idea which one cost more, because they were so different.

I think you need to relax. You get ONE DAY- it is not reasonable to expect that other people won't be planning their own events near yours. It is also not a competitive event. Trust me, your wedding will be the best wedding you have ever been to! And if it isn't there is a problem.