My brothers Transgender

And what the fuck is wrong with a bedazzled suit. Sorry loreal that someone else is possibly more fabulous than you with their bedazzled.

Jesus. #hatersgoingtohate

Damn...this thread was going so well...UNTIL

Loreal, that comment was ignorant, offensive, and transphobic. Why would you assume she would bedazzle her suit? And you woulf serious exclude your sibling because they identifed as transgendered?

She's not doing it to put stress on you. But you should realize you can only live a lie for so long if she's done hiding who she is then she's done and it's no longer okay to ask her to hide. That being said all women are different my sister hates dresses but she looks damn good in a pantsuit. Whatever she is comfortable she will wear. And just because you ask her to wear a suit doesn't mean it will be from Brooks Brothers. Be aware of that.

I don't think that's selfish.

She should wear whatever she is most comfortable in. A year is far away and things might be clearer then.

The important thing is, you were thoughtful enough to ask. This is new for you, and a lot of others, you may not have used correct terminology, but you still started the conversation on what to do. I think that is more important in your relationship with your sibling than anything. Even as a gay man, I have trouble understanding someone that is transgender, I want to be excepting just as you, but sometimes we will have questions that need to be asked. Not because we don't care, but because we do care.

@ Desiree, you're an amazing parent!

A bedazzled suit would be cool AF just saying, Lorelai. Anyway, IMO you should give them the option of wearing what they would be most comfortable in. Then they don't have the pressure of trying to please you while also trying to feel comfortable in their own skin.

When you comment don't put my name again because it wasn't to any of you

I agree...Let her be comfortable.

Loreal, transgender women are not "he". They are women. Thanks.

Wow Loreal, your first comment was offensive and your second comment was nonsensical.

Op, I am so glad that you have realized how wrong you were in your line of thinking. Just let her wear what she wants.

#teambedazzledsuit

Let your sibling wear whats comfortable.

@Loreal, if you call a transgender woman a he, or a transgender man a she, that is very disrespectful to that person. You really should reconsider your stance on that.

@loreal not to be PC or anything but "jokes" like that spread hate. Being transgender is already really tough let's not put stereotypes and inappropriate jokes on top of it.

Loreal your first comment was disgusting while your second one with illegible and disgusting.

^^^umm yes

Sure, Lorelai, your "love" of all people shines through your posts. Next you'll be telling us that your best friend is a transgendered individual.

@Loreal

That is both offensive and transphobic. A transwoman is a she. She is a she regardless of her sexual preference, what she wears, and your ignorant opinion. Your joke was unfunny and your flailing self-defense when called out on your bigotry is disgusting.

Here. Educate yourself about the reality faced by some of the people you claim to love:

http://www.transequality.org/about-transgender

Not willing to click. Here, let me help.

-Transgendered people are four times more likely than the rest of the general population to live in poverty.

-Nearly 20% of transgendered people experience homelessness at some point as a direct result of responses to their gender identity.

-Transgendered people are 400% more likely to attempt suicide than cisgendered people. This is a result of their treatment by society and the ever so funny jokes people like you make.

-Acceptance by family members, such as a loving and supportive sister, means that a transgendered person is:

Less likely to use alcohol and drugs to deal with the mistreatment they face (19% if accepted, 32% if not)

Less likely to experience homelessness (9% if accepted versus 26% if not)

Less likely to attempt suicide (32% if accepted, and 51% if not)

Less likely to need to do sex work for income (11% if accepted, 19% if not)

Less likely to go to jail (11% if accepted, 19% if not)

But hey - bedazzled suits. Or as you put it, badazzled. Funny.