Jayla
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Modern or Traditional: First Look?

Jayla, on October 16, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 114

On your wedding day, are you staying true to traditions and letting your walk down the aisle be the first time you and your significant other see each other? Or are you taking the modern approach for a personal pre-ceremony moment (and an easier photography timeline) and doing a first look before...

On your wedding day, are you staying true to traditions and letting your walk down the aisle be the first time you and your significant other see each other? Or are you taking the modern approach for a personal pre-ceremony moment (and an easier photography timeline) and doing a first look before the ceremony?

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Photo by Julia Wade Photography in Apex, NC

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Photo by Unique2Chic Photography in San Antonio, TX

Next question: Modern or Traditional: Dessert?

Or start from the beginning here: Modern or Traditional?


114 Comments

  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We did our wedding a little different. We had a two hour cocktail hour and whiskey tasting before our ceremony, we greeted our guests together when they arrived. We didn't do a first look per say, but we were together before the walk down the aisle. It was perfect for us.

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Aww that's so sweet Kayla!! I have only seen that done a few times and it's always such a special moment.

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Wow, that's going to be so cool!! What have you told your guests? Where do they think they're going?

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  • Just Said Yes August 2019
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    Our guest are thinking its going to be an engagement party but we are asking for formal attire so everyone is picture ready we will have signs leading up to the surprise!
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  • Paquita
    VIP July 2017
    Paquita ·
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    We kept it traditional but instead of a First Look we did a First Touch
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  • FutureMrs.N
    Dedicated April 2019
    FutureMrs.N ·
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    We are going to do the traditional way it’s so beautiful.
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  • rica
    VIP September 2018
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    Very traditional here. He didn't see me until I was walking down the aisle. And I didn't see him until a few minutes before that when I peaked out the window of the limo.

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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    This is still a sore spot! I'd love a first look but FH I more for the traditional approach!
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  • Caitlyn
    Savvy October 2019
    Caitlyn ·
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    Traditional. He doesn't get to see me until I am walking down that aisle. Our venue has a balcony and I want to stand on top while he stands on the porch below for a picture before the ceremony but still not have him see me.

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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2021
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    This was not even something I thought about before reading this thread and now I am super conflicted. My FH and I are getting married in Vegas and our timeline doesn't even include a cocktail hour, so I have no idea when we'll be able to take pictures. We will only have a 3-4 hour reception so I can maybe do it afterwards, but after dancing, eating, etc I feel like I wont be as camera ready....SO much to consider

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  • Candace
    Devoted May 2019
    Candace ·
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    Traditional.
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  • Tpatb
    Master August 2019
    Tpatb ·
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    Traditional! Honestly, FH is totally against it lol he wants to wait. We’re going to do a “first touch” instead.
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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Aww the first touch will be so cute!!

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Omg!! I love this idea! The balcony photo is going to be epic!Smiley love

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  • Caitlyn
    Savvy October 2019
    Caitlyn ·
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    I'm so excited for it! But I still have a year to wait for it haha ... It may have had a lot to do with the choice to go with that venue

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Yes!!!!! I would've chosen that venue for that same reason!

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  • D
    Savvy February 2020
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    What a great question. I was thinking about this the other day for pictures but we might go more traditional.

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  • SB
    VIP March 2019
    SB ·
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    100% traditional! This is the one thing I'm absolutely not budging on. I want the walk to be the first time we see each other.

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    I love that as well! It's so special, even better when the raw emotions are captured on camera!

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
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    We went MODERN! I may have posted in here before but I'm here again to give the update. We did first looks and are SO GLAD that we did. Let me tell you first off that in no way did doing the first looks take the anticipation, emotion and WOW FACTOR off of the entrance! Trust me! He still got all teary-eyed, the guests still gasped, the wow factor was still there.

    I did first looks with my dad first, and then my husband. It was the BEST THING we could have done, no joke. In all honesty, it may have been my favorite part of the ENTIRE DAY. I think if we didn't do them, we all would have been sobbing messes, and I'm fairly sure my dad would have fainted lol. It made for some of our FAVORITE photos (and that's just from our voyeurs on their cell phones!) and it helped give us a calm before the ceremony. It allowed us to relax and really take it all in.

    It also gave us a few good laughs - we did ours in a big, empty room with two doorways. I entered through one, and my nerdy group of ladies and moms (haha) huddled outside the other doorway to watch but be out of the way of our vision/photographer's vision. Well, during the ones with my dad, everyone got a little misty and you heard a lot of "awww" coming from the peanut gallery. We giggled. But when I did mine with my now husband, my sister of all people, lost her cool and started crying. Had to run out of the room. The girls cheered and yelled "WE GOT HER!" and we all had a good laugh.

    So my point - if you're worried about nerves, DO THE FIRST LOOKS! If you're worried that it will take away from the moment, trust me that it won't. Smiley smile

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