Jayla
Champion October 2025

Modern or Traditional: First Look?

Jayla, on October 16, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 114

On your wedding day, are you staying true to traditions and letting your walk down the aisle be the first time you and your significant other see each other? Or are you taking the modern approach for a personal pre-ceremony moment (and an easier photography timeline) and doing a first look before...

On your wedding day, are you staying true to traditions and letting your walk down the aisle be the first time you and your significant other see each other? Or are you taking the modern approach for a personal pre-ceremony moment (and an easier photography timeline) and doing a first look before the ceremony?

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Photo by Julia Wade Photography in Apex, NC

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Photo by Unique2Chic Photography in San Antonio, TX

Next question: Modern or Traditional: Dessert?

Or start from the beginning here: Modern or Traditional?


114 Comments

  • Mrs.Sanok
    VIP September 2018
    Mrs.Sanok ·
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    Modern! We did a first look and it was the best decision that we made! It was so perfect and special and it really did calm my nerves before the ceremony!

    On top of that we got all our pictures done and we were able to enjoy cocktail hour with our guest! I would not want to do it any other way!

    Bonus here is a sneak peek from our first look!

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  • Carrie
    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Carrie ·
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    Because of our venue, my groom wouldn't be able to really see me walk down the aisle (it was in a garden with a winding path), so we opted for a first look. It was wonderful! And it gave us more time for photos before the ceremony, and we got to spend much more time with our friends and family

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    Modern. Our first look was amazing. I loved having a private moment with my husband on a day that all eyes were going to be on us. Getting all the pictures done first so we could join our guests was a huge perk as well.
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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Oh wow I didn't know that!

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  • C
    Super October 2018
    Cassandra ·
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    Traditional. I love the idea of a first look, and I love the pictures but the tradition is how I pictured it to happen.
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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    OMG!! I remember your photos!! This was so sweetSmiley heart

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  • Lacy
    Super December 2018
    Lacy ·
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    Modern. We initially decided to do it for timeline reasons but there's something so sweet about that moment being just between the two of us. After, we're planning to either walk down the aisle together or I'll walk alone.
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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    Nice!! I'm glad you're excited! This is one of the most important days of your life so you should feel good about it!

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  • Erika
    Expert April 2019
    Erika ·
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    Traditional. I want to see his raw reaction after not seeing me all night and the reveal down the aisle.

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  • Vanessasaurus
    VIP June 2019
    Vanessasaurus ·
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    Modern! First look just makes too much sense logistically not to!
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Aww, yay! He had the best faces in the first look. I'm so glad we did it.

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  • Across The Stars
    Devoted October 2019
    Across The Stars ·
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    Traditional. Both of us want the first time he sees me to be walking down the aisle
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  • Ashley
    Savvy November 2019
    Ashley ·
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    I am planning on doing a first look with my dad, then maybe my FH. haven't quite decided. But I know for a fact my dad will see me first Smiley smile

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  • Jennifer
    Savvy May 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    We are staying traditional, he will not see the dress until I am walking down the aisle.
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  • Nicole
    Expert November 2018
    Nicole ·
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    We both originally wanted this to be traditional, but after talking to our photographer - we're going modern and so happy for extra time together!!

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  • Daria
    VIP January 2019
    Daria ·
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    This picture is SO sweet. I really want to do a first look, he wants to go traditional. Real soon we are going to have to come to an agreement.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted October 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I like the idea of first look but FH doesn’t want to do it
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    Modern. He was with me when I got the dress and he helped me get my dress on the day of the wedding
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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    VIP October 2019
    SummerBrideInAutumn ·
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    We are still undecided on this, but I think we are leaning towards modern. I ALWAYS wanted traditional, but my FH seems to favor a first look more. He's expressed concern about being too nervous in front of all those people to display genuine emotion. First look also works better with our timeline, but I'm still a little disappointed that the first time he sees me won't be when I walk down the aisle.

    As a compromise, our first look will be just us. We'll do our first look, take pictures, open our wedding gifts, read our wedding day letters, and then go our separate ways until the ceremony. I don't want to have our first look moment "ruined" by then having all of the BP come in for pictures. If we're going to do it, we're going to keep it intimate and the time limited. I'll do pics with my girls beforehand and he with his guys, but pics with the entire BP will have to wait until after the ceremony. This is the little solution I came up with to make me feel better about the first look.

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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    It's such a special moment! I think this is one of my favorite things about the ceremony!

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