LEAVE YOUR EXPLETIVE KIDS AT HOME!!!!!

@MrsO I curse like a sailor in real life. I just don't want the Forum police to say I'm offending them LOL

That flower girl! LOL! That is hilarious! xD

I'm thinking of having three, ironically enough. I've only asked one, though. I just don't know how I feel about the idea of having three.

Also, I thought the "long-lost sister" thing as well, but didn't want to come across as creepy or something. You and I talk the same. I read that thing you said that I quoted to my FI, and then HE choked on HIS toothpaste, too!

Yes we had to make the decision to let my FH cousin's bring their kids only bc the entire family will be at the wedding and they are from out of town! I so didn't want to compromise bc btw 2 cousins kids they will take up an entire table. I wanted NO KIDS I think it will be abt 20/170

Yeah, we have something like 30 kids, and our invite list is currently at 169. We initially wanted no kids, but it just wasn't feasible in our situation.

@BalletShoesRachel I am going to post a pic of that note the moment I found it. It was priceless.

@Mrs.Ross2013 that is a horrible position to have to be in. Its not fair to you or your FH. They should have respected your wishes. You can't pay a babysitter but you can pay for transportation costs for your kids? smh

Anyway, time for me to go to bed. It's almost 2 am here! Nighty night!

My FSIL is adamant about taking her two kids (ages 7 and 5) to our wedding in VEGAS! I'm not happy about it at all. She's complaining that its too expensive to fly there and they might not be able to go, but she refuses to leave the two rugrats with her in laws. I could care less if she goes, she can stay home and relax with her kids instead.

@BalletShoesRachel how old are your girls?

@hotRod34<3 Vegas is NOT an appropriate place to take your kids!!!! Children's flights aren't cheap either. I hope she won't expect you to find things to entertain them while they are there!

We had kids at ours but they were very well behaved and I knew if one stepped out of line, there would be ten adults to handle it. My son was 9 mo.ths old and did good, but if I go to a wedding, I am NOT bringing my child unless they are in the wedding, and even then, they are leaving early! I don't think different of anyone who wants a adult only wedding. It just wasn't going to work in that way for us.

Exactly! My sister has a 3 year old and a newborn and I was hesitant about having a Vegas wedding because I really want my sister there. Her response: "it's your wedding. Of course ill be there. I'll just leave the kids with their grandma" <3

FSIL on the other hand, is a lost cause. I am NOT responsible for finding them appropriate things to do while we're in Vegas.

Every time I mention it to FH he says "there's no way they'll leave the kids behind". Ugh. I give up.

@Sarah D. exactly, the children who are invited to be there are well behaved and are a part of the wedding itself. I also know that their parents don't play those "throw a tantrum fall on the floor and start breaking stuff" games.

@hotRod34<3 your sister respects the code LOL

LOL at your flower girl! We are actually gonna invite our guests children at the wedding... Well, let me rephrase that, we are not restricting them. I hope theyre good little children... (sighs) But most if not all of the children are of family members, and most of our families live out of state. So they might not bring their children along, especially when our wedding will be held late. Only one of our friends has a child, and she's actually my flower girl.

FH's son did okay as a ringbearer at FSIL's wedding and was okay behaved through everything, but until cake was served and the music was on it was a LONG day for him, and if it wasn't for all the help we had from everyone keeping him occupied he was about THIS CLOSE to a tantrum. He's 4.

I've never seen a BAD kid at a wedding, but it's a TON of work as a parent to have them there. He was seated with FH at head table and I was at the other end. I got to enjoy myself and FH was so busy making sure his son didn't have a meltdown that he didn't get much of a chance to have fun. Parents should really see it that way!

Lol honestly LadyCrystal, I will jump into almost any thread... Not this one. I know my opinion on this is the virtually nonexistent minority, and when it comes down to it, it is the BRIDE'S wedding and my anonymous opinion doesn't mean shit

I don't get what is going with parents and kids these days.

I went to several weddings as a child, but back then we KNEW we had to be on our best behavior. My extended family is very large, but all of us kids knew to behave. My Nan's oldest grandchild is going to be 34 this year and her youngest will be 3, and we all know how to act in public - the younger kids are getting '80s style discipline, none of this modern speshul snoflake indigo child crap.

I went to a wedding a few years ago as a friend's plus one and holy crap the kids were little terrors.

When you're a parent, you can't be getting your drink on and pretending your kids don't exist WHEN YOUR KIDS ARE RIGHT THERE! If you're going to act like that, leave them at home!!

Tiffanny- that's how it is with us. My kids know how to behave and what the consequences are if they don't. All of my friends whose kids are invited have the same values and ways of raising their kids as I do. If their kids act up during the ceremony, they will get up and quietly step outside. If their kids get stupid during the reception, they will use the sitters we have on site or they will take them home. For all my friends- this is how we handle our kids in situations like these.

That being said, if a bride desires an adult only ceremony/reception, people need to f***ing respect her wishes and keep their kids at home.

Edited because I forgot an N in Tiffanny's name

My kids go to vegas and to weddings. They know how to behave. I can't stand parents that let their kids do whatever they want though.

I'm all for kid free weddings just don't knock parents who choose not to attend because they don't want or don't have anyone to watch their kids.

I think I covered my opinion. Lol

@FinallyDoingIt I'm not knocking anyone. Like I stated, this isn't about WW brides who teach their kids manners, its about irresponsible parents. You can't come because you can't/won't get a babysitter, that's fine. We'll miss you but making sure your child is cared for properly is more important that you enjoying my open bar. My post is about people who disrespect the bride & groom by sneaking their children into your wedding & then leaving you to take care of them while they go get drunk.

@Tiffanny EXACTLY!!! I've seen people ignore their young children in their rush to get drunk. Its disgusting. My parents would have NEVER stood for that.

@Catrapoin at the end of the day 9 times out of 10 brides and grooms are under pressure to please everyone. Its not possible. I'd rather you (not you LOL) be pissed because your kid couldn't come than me be pissed because your kid acted a damn fool.