Jealous of FH's bachelor party and I feel so guilty about it =(

I think if this trip is actually happening, it's totally reasonable to ask to tag along. It's EUROPE. Obviously they could do their own thing for the actual bachelor party, but I'd want to experience Europe with FH.

I would worry less about Amsterdam than Vegas or New Orleans, the city is certainly safer than those two.

Yeah I mean I trust them and his friends because we have all been friends for almost 10 years but I honestly think it's the jealousy that's bugging me. That they get to experience something so awesome with him and I won't be there. Actually, the more I think about the more I'm getting pissed off, lol!!

Wow....I'd be surprised if you weren't jealous. If it were me, I don't think I'd like FH going all the way to Europe without me just for a bachelor party. Not that I don't trust him....I'd just want to go too. In the end though...if it was paid for by someone else, and it didn't take vacation time away that we could have used together, I guess I'd get over it.

But I agree with Amy....if you're not comfortable with it, talk to him

Hmmm...curious to see what you do.

A part me has my doubts about the whole thing. That's why I didn't get too worked up about it but the phone call last night just sounded like it was actually happen and then I didn't know how to approach the situation because I was little taken back. but now the more I think about it, the more it bugs me.

You need to say something to him. There is no reason he has to have a bachelor *vacation*, much less one outside of the country. And seriously, people, men don't go to Amsterdam to explore the city. Whatever FH may want to do there, his single friends are going to be pulling him to places only single men should be going.

I just don't want it to get booked and then well they would have to go.

Well thanks for the advice ladies! My MOH dates the best man so maybe I will talk to her about it. I just don't want my girls to get the impression that I will be bummed for whatever they plan for me because it's not so extravagant so I was little apprehensive about it. I have some thinking to do, that's for sure!

Uhm. This thread just made me turn around in my chair in order to tell FI that he is not to leave the country for his bachelor party under ANY circumstances.

Lol! I should have sent some ground rules in the beginning like Amy said! I never expected they would do something so intense!

Do they realize how long the flight will be? How much vaca time your FH will need between that and the wedding/honeymoon

Does your FH realize he now owes you an amazing vaca/honeymoon?!

I'll have to remember to set ground rules before the planning time comes. LOL

I would talk to the MOH to see if this is for real going to happen. If yes, then I would definitely tell him you're not comfortable with the idea of him leaving the country.

Not to mention, will he then have to chip in for such an expensive bachelor party each time one of the other guys gets married? This is a dangerous precedent.

He does have 3 weeks of vacation time. Some his for his bachelor party. some is for before the wedding and week after (honeymoon). I freaked out and just ran to call my MOH but the bitch is still working so I will have to talk to her before FH gets home tonight, lol.

@Barbara, I said the same thing! I was like well their "group" consists of 4 guys. Fh and 3 other dudes. So I was thinking, "are they going to do this everytime one gets married?" Ain't nobody got money fo dat, lol!

Wow. I'd be upset too!

but I agree with Amy, he's got nice friends! where can I sign up for friends that generous?

I think you have a right to be upset. is there any way you can figure out something special for you and maybe the MOH to do together? granted, it may not be Amsterdam, but if he's doing something that over the top, I think you have the right to do it too, if at all possible!

Seriously! And what happens if you guys are already making babies by the time his friends get married? Is he going to have to leave you for 10 days then?

Wellll...I just talked to my MOH (she is dating the best man) and she said there is no way in hell they're doing this, lol. She pretty much said they need to get a grip on reality. She said to her boyfriend, that he tells her all the time "they don't have money to take a nice get away", then there is no way he is paying for his buddy (I agree with her) So at least I have my bff. and the other groomsman's gf said she didn't like the idea either. So pretty much if all of us say it's not happening, it's not happening. lol I love my girls and my WW ladies for helping me out.

@Rev. Ann, I agree!