Jealous of FH's bachelor party and I feel so guilty about it =(

I would be sooooo jealous heck I was jealous mine was getting one. While I love my MOH she isn't really into drinking/going out that sort of thing. So I was trying to convince FH in a joint one somewhere lol I told him if he wants another one with just that guys that was cool too I just wanted to party too lol.

Oh yeah...you have a good reason to be jealous....but shoot how great for FH.

Just be jealous with us and don't say a peep to him about this. You're right you don't want to be "that girl"

@CeCe, you lived there? That's awesome. It seems like a really lovely place! @Aspiecat My FH does all the vacation planning because I procrastinate, haha!

@Amy it is big deal! Especially when I wanted to go somewhere amazing like Greece for our HM (which was waaaayy out of our budget.) Maybe I will talk to him about it. Who knows, maybe I would get an invite (wishful thinking) It's just I get along great with all his friends and I've known them for years and years too. I just don't want to be the Debby Downer and be like "No! You can't go because I can't" haha

Uggh. I'm with Amy-- would not let this happen. Of all the grody places they could have picked to take him. . . no offense against Amsterdam, but I sincerely doubt they're going there for the culture or the food. . .

@Kim I had to put my foot down on some of the places they wanted to take him. One GM said LETS GO TO BRAZIL!!! HA Helllllllllllllll no!! This particular groomsman is one of the troublemakers who has been known to randomly leave the group, and next day you find out he was drunk and is now in another state. He is the movie HOSTEL waiting to happen.

Bahaha@J&B It really does sound like the next hangover movie or one of those idiotic scenarios!

Id be jealous! my FH and I made a deal not to go places we wanted to experience together first for our parties. my sis wanted mine to be in Vegas but neither of us have been abd wanted to go together. and that is just Vegas! let alone another country. nope that wouldn't be okay with me.

LOL@LadyCrystal, That's what I keep replaying in my head! It's awful! They were also talking about New Orleans or Vegas but apparently that wasn't good enough. I guess they figure they're getting older and settling down with their careers, houses, wife, girlfriends That this is there last time to do anything big and I get that. Honestly if the shoe was on the other foot and my girls were taking me, I would be sooo bummed if he told me i couldn't go.

Amsterdam? I would be more worried about Japan. A buddy of mine was based in the Marines over there and he would tell us the tales of the kinky stuff the girls would do to him. He took pictures of his back and arms after they got done with him. We are so tame compared to the rest of the world.

I am letting my fiance get as far away from me as Vegas for his bachelor party. I am pretty sure I would want to be right beside him if he was going to another country.

I would be jealous, too. I would love to visit Amsterdam. Lucky bitch! I wouldn't say anything to him about it though. You don't want to spoil his fun. But tell him he owes you a kick ass honeymoon!

I would be more concerned about your FH using up all of his vacation time for a trip with his friends. Make sure he has some left for you

@Kim I'm not worried about the cheating. I'm worried he would get drunk and come back a mule missing a kidney smh. I also put my foot down for New Orleans. My family is from there and with this bunch of GM's the one I was talking about will leave the "safe" Bourbon Street/Garden district area and wind up in the Bayou with a gator chewing on his ass.

Girl, I hear ya. FH's groomsmen are taking him to Philly for his Bachelor party. (I know its not Amsterdam...Id be going bat shit crazy if he was going there!!) By Car philly is probably 5-6 hours away. They are going for the weekend and doing a bunch of siteseeing...and I'm sure a bunch of other stuff I'm not privy to know. I was a bit jealous at first because I wanted to experiance some of the siteseeing with him....but I know this will be a great time for him. I'm slowly getting over it. Especially since I know one scumbag guy wont be able to go and because my bachelorett party is the same weekend!

If it were Amsterdam though....I might have to put my foot down. I'd be bent.

Amsterdam? Wow... that's insanely generous. I'd be jealous too and honestly I probably would ask him to tone it down a little. There's plenty of fun places stateside that they can go.

However, I also sort of doubt it will happen. That's a high level of planning for a bunch of guys, and I wouldn't be surprised if they don't realize how expensive it will be. Airfare to Europe isn't cheap. Shit, my FH's friends were all gung-ho on flying out to Vegas, before they realized it wasn't financially practical. And that's a whole lot cheaper than Amsterdam.

I'll be honest. If my husband had said that they were going, I probably would have said something about me tagging along. I've never been to Europe and if my husband is going, I'm going too.

All the mixed opinions is making me more confused, lol!

I have an idea! I will just go behind FH's back and threaten his friends! Next thing ya know Justin will be all like "Huh, that's weird. Apparently the Amsterdam trip is off. Something about them needing their balls to make babies." And I will be like "oh that is strange, Too bad babe." LOL

Oh wow! i would be jealous too..lol umm yeah my FH would not be going hahahahahaha unless i go too. its only fair.

Maybe I will talk to him again tonight. Maybe he can compromise and do something like New Orleans or Vegas. Even though I always wanted to go to NO.

I would say no. That's a HUGE trip to take without you. At the end of the day, you're opinion should matter to him more than his friends. If you're uncomfortable, talk to him. He should care about your opinion, and he can be the ones to let his friends know that he'd prefer to tone his bachelor party down.

I honestly think you are being unfair to him. If you trust your FH (and it sounds like you do), it would be crazy to deny him that experience.

That being said I told DH no golden triangle for his bachelor party. The best man had $$$$$$ and for a split second was going to fly everyone to Thailand.

We both ended up going to Mexico a few months apart