"I've never heard of a woman getting a wedding band AND e-ring"

My FH thought the same thing. He seemed genuinely surprised that I wanted a wedding band. Men don't grow up thinking about their wedding day so they don't know all the details that we think are just common sense. For me, I want a ring to symbolize the promises we make to each other on our wedding day.

HAHA he probably sees the rings that are inserts and stuff like that... which are still two rings!

I'm sure it's done, but he is crazy. Most married women have two rings, and if they only have one, generally it's the wedding ring, not the engagement ring that they have.

Also, some women have their rings soldered together, so the engagement and wedding ring make one bigger ring.

I could be wrong, but the 2-band thing might be a more recent thing than when our parents got married. My mom didn't wear her engagement ring very much, but always wore her wedding band (when she and my dad were married). Now that I'm thinking about it, I think most of my aunts only wear 1 ring, but they also may have gotten new ones since they've all been married over 25 yrs.

That being said - I have an e-ring and will add a wedding band to it. And it's not b/c I "want 2 rings dammit!", it's that my e-ring is so special to me that I want to keep wearing it with my (also very special) wedding band. I think having 2 rings nowadays is VERY common.

This happened to one of my BM when she got married.. He spent alot of money on the engagement ring thinking that was the only ring he would have to buy. Needless to say, she is happy with the ring she has and he told me that on their 5th anniverary, he is going to buy a wedding band for her

Also, a lot of women that I know have had their e-rings and wedding bands welded together. Maybe he has seen rings like those before and has mistaken them for a single ring?

I honestly thought it was always an engagement ring and then a wedding band... could be wrong. I'm going to google it.

I'm thinking the same thing as Andrea... Maybe he always saw welded ones and never thought twice about it?

I've always thought you have an engagement ring, then soldered the wedding band to it. Make the two rings into one.

I think its the opposite as well. although i originally only wanted one ring because i didnt want FH to spend money on an ering that i wouldnt wear once i got my band (bc at the time i didnt want to wear two rings at the same time, im not a big jewelry person). but low and behold we got a set and both rings fit nicely on my finger lol

as far as getting two rings just to have them i dont think thats true for a lot of women. i think of erings as a commitment to marriage and a wedding band as a commitment to the rest of your life together. so if your not using your ering as both (like i meant to) than you should have to because IMO they are two different things.

He's a guy, so he's innocently clueless. DH made the opposite mixup- he thought the wedding ring was supposed to be the big sparkly more expensive one. So when we began looking for wedding bands he was a nervous wreck worried about how he would afford a bigger fancier ring than my engagement ring. Stupidly I corrected him lol.

My FH thought I was supposed to wear the engagement ring on my right hand, until we got married and then the entire set on my left hand. LOL... But he knew enough to know about e-rings and wedding bands. He proposed with both of them in the box!

It is pretty easy to assume that the two rings are one, when a) they're ALWAYS worn together, b) a set matched and design to look and fit like 1 ring, or c) soldered together. So I can kinda see where you FH got this idea to begin with....

Lol mine once said (in reference to an e-ring): "why should I spend $$$ on something you're only going to wear a year or two" when I asked what he meant he said he thought that women wore the e-ring until the wedding and then got rid of it and just wore the band. boys...lol

That's actually what I said, that if it looked like one ring it was almost definitely an enhancer or something with a solitaire, but he was convinced that was NOT the case. He's stubborn, haha. I also think that the engagement ring is for the promise of marriage, and the wedding band is for the promise of the rest of your life. And I would of course wear them both together because a) they look good b) they're symbolic and meaninful c) they're too freaking expensive not to!

Though, here is an interesting article I found on the history of engagement rings....

http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/weddings/2007/06/diamonds_are_a_girls_worst_friend.html

Symbolizing the financial commitment of the guy to the woman so he doesn't just sleep with her and ditch her, and the sexual commitment of the woman to the guy saying she is "bought and paid for, and off limits".. Hah!

I'm getting both, but I have friends that are on either end.

-There was no real proposal, they just decided to get married and didn't bother with the engagement ring. Just got the band.

-He proposed to her with a custom designed engagement band and she couldn't find a wedding band that matched it perfectly so she just used her engagement ring during the ceremony and wears it alone.

So really, depends on the person/situation/etc.

Edit: I don't have any statistics like you FHs 99% but I'm pretty sure most women have both e-ring and wedding band.

It was important to me to have both for two reasons: a)I travel to alot of places that it's simply not smart to walk the streets wearing a ring like mine, so I wanted a band that I could wear in those circumstances and b)our priest blessed our wedding bands during the ceremony, that was important to my husband.

It is a very American tradition to have two rings. I think in Europe the tradition is wedding band only, they don't really do engagement rings (or didn't, they might be doing it now as the fad spreads).

Also, it is a newer tradition, but I would agree that most American women I know have 2.

I tried to tell my FH that I would probably go with the e-ring only as it is an unusual shape and is very striking on its own - and he would have NONE of that. So I will be having two I think. We will be going to the jeweler who designed it in Dec to talk wedding bands.

As an older bride, many of my friends who have been married for 10+ years started off with an engagement ring and wedding band but then at milestone anniversaries or whatever got a new band - different setting, different stone, whatever. Virtually everyone of those are just one band now instead of the two rings. If y'all are around people who have been married a long time, maybe that's what he's seeing.

Mine knew there would be an ering and wedding band

Is he aware that the majority of engagement ring have a wedding band made specifically for that ring? My FH didn't buy it because he wanted me to be able to pick it out myself and we could also get his at the same time. Either that or he was so tired of having 8,000 options for an engagement ring that he didn't want to have to look at another piece of jewelry for a year.